My daughter got beat up for bullying another child

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Anonymous wrote:Did you take pictures of the bruises? You can set up a personal injury case against the school and the other girl's parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet none of those "friends" your daughter was trying to impress came to her aid to try and stop the fight , did they? They probably laughed while she was getting her ass beat. Make sure you bring this up to your daughter. Those are absolutely not her friends, and she has no reason to protect them.

This does piss me off. They dared her to do this and then left her to get beat up. Idk why she thinks these girls are her friends.

It would have been much better for OP if her daughter's friends came to her side, and together they all stomped the crap out that girl. She must have deserved it.

I wish my daughter's friends would have tried to stop the fight. My girl was bruised up so I know the fight must have gone on for some time.

Okay now we know THIS post is a troll. I am not sure if you are acting like the OP or you are the OP but you are a troll.

What is in this particular statement is trolling? In my kids' middle schools fights went for a while between two or three people and no adult tried to stop it most of the time.

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I'm not seeking any "revenge" on the other child. She was getting bullied and snapped. There were probably better ways it could have been handled but she was fed up, I get that. I do think the school plays a role in what happened, but honestly I just want to move on and make sure my daughter learns from this and becomes a better person as a result.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. w it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You don't want her to get teased? That's rich.

You got to be kidding us OP.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. w it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You don't want her to get teased? That's rich.

You got to be kidding us OP.

I don't think you should teach a child that bullying is wrong by making them get bullied in return. That's counterproductive.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. w it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You don't want her to get teased? That's rich.

You got to be kidding us OP.

I don't think you should teach a child that bullying is wrong by making them get bullied in return. That's counterproductive.

Exactly. It is not about being teased though, it is about figuring out what makes the daughter vulnerable. She is not a ring leader, can't fight back either, is sensitive to what other people think.

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17 pages and no one has asked...

What MS school is this?

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OP - don't try to heal or cover the black eye. Have you not seen the parents on facebook trying to humiliate their kids for misbehaving? Yes, some are extreme, but the point is valid. The kid needs to suffer all types of consequences for her actions.

Pain retains! Remember that.

BTW, I sympathize with you. I had a "troubled" daughter with a difficult adolescence. The behavior is frustrating, embarrassing, disappointing, a sign of failure, a reflection and magnification of all the mistakes you've made in her rearing; here's your kid who you want so badly to be a good person because you love them so much. There is a lot of good advice on here, and if you are strong, and encourage her to drop loser friends and stay on the right path, it will eventually turn around. But you have to put in the effort. It's not easy being a parent, especially when you don't have help and you're trying to correct problems that have deep roots - but if you give up or pity yourself or decide you're going to fail, she won't have a chance.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter was crying about her eye, she's whining that it needs to be gone before she goes back to school. Does anyone know how to heal them fast. I don't want her to get teased. w it's easy to say she deserves it when that's not your child going through it. She's still very young and I know she's hurt physically and emotionally.

-OP

You don't want her to get teased? That's rich.

You got to be kidding us OP.

I don't think you should teach a child that bullying is wrong by making them get bullied in return. That's counterproductive.

Ah, a taste of one's own medicine.

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Anonymous wrote:If that was my child bullying another girl, she'd get a second ass whooping from me when she got home. Then she'd be grounded for a month, no electronics, no leaving the house. She'd regret the day she ever decided to mess with that other girl. I don't play that shit in my household.

Why would you inflict more pain on a child by beating her a 2nd time? This thread is full of terrible parenting.

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I have a friend with a bully daughter. In fact, the daughter continued her bullying into college to the point where the college actually got involved and contacted my friend about the matter. Clearly the daughter has long been in need of some type of intervention and is now an adult treating others in this manner. Nip it in the bud, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - don't try to heal or cover the black eye. Have you not seen the parents on facebook trying to humiliate their kids for misbehaving? Yes, some are extreme, but the point is valid. The kid needs to suffer all types of consequences for her actions.

Pain retains! Remember that.

BTW, I sympathize with you. I had a "troubled" daughter with a difficult adolescence. The behavior is frustrating, embarrassing, disappointing, a sign of failure, a reflection and magnification of all the mistakes you've made in her rearing; here's your kid who you want so badly to be a good person because you love them so much. There is a lot of good advice on here, and if you are strong, and encourage her to drop loser friends and stay on the right path, it will eventually turn around. But you have to put in the effort. It's not easy being a parent, especially when you don't have help and you're trying to correct problems that have deep roots - but if you give up or pity yourself or decide you're going to fail, she won't have a chance.

This is bad advice. She needs to at least give the child some ice for her eye.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you are raising a sociopath. Be careful. And take away her phone NOW. You need to monitor her texting and see what she is telling her friends. Also, where is DH in all of this?!?

This is a little far. She's expressed a lot of remorse. I think she'll grow from this. And I'm a single mom. It's just me and her.

Have you taken the phone yet?

Is she remorseful about being in trouble, or remorseful about targeting, scapegoating, and humiliating another child?

I will in the morning. It's a little late where I am. And I think she's remorseful about both. She told me she felt bad about what she did. I'm sure she'll hate me tomorrow. *sigh*

So when she was crying, I couldn't help but hold her. But at the same time I was telling her I was disappointed in her. Do you think this gave her mixed messages? Should I be cold towards her even though she's so upset??

It's 10:00 on the East Coast. So unless you're in Europe, you're a complete troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you take pictures of the bruises? You can set up a personal injury case against the school and the other girl's parents.

Stupid liberal

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Sorry OP. Not sure what can help. A black eye has to go through the healing process. I am sure it is very difficult for all parties.