Unless your marriage is airtight, and OPs certainly isn't, the DILs power is fleeting. And OP already couldn't stand her MIL because she didn't get pampered enough in pregnancy. |
The women are not alright this day and age... holy ****. Neurotic af |
+++++++100000000 |
lol yikes. Tell me you don’t give one shit about children without saying you don’t give one shit about children. |
So, people should stay in bad marriages for the sake of the kids? |
So confused how you read the above posts and that was your takeaway. Really bizarre and illogical thinking. But someone singing the praises and touting the wondrous benefits of divorce (none of which include a single thought about the children) but instead focus on things like more personal time away from your children is not someone I would want anywhere near children. Certainly not my own! That poster (probably you?) is pretty yuck and cringe. |
Why would you assume DILs in general not talking about op here relationship with her husband is fleeting but not her son’s relationship with his mother. I find the marital relationship the stronger and more important one. I see most sons putting their wives first and if their mother is unkind to their wife the mother is the one to lose out not the wife. So again yes the mil had a lot more to lose than the DIl. If you think your husbands relationship with his mom is stronger or more important than his relationship with you as his wife than you picked the wrong husband because if you picked the right husband you wouldn’t even have to question where you stand |
LOL at all these people who think a man should have stronger relationship with his mother than his own wife.
Because you know you never read on here estrangement between parents and children. I can’t even wrap my head around how pissed I would be if I thought for a second my husband viewed his mother as more important than me. |
Ok so why would a mil be dumb enough to bash the woman her son loves more than anyone on the planet she literally has everything to lose her son and grandchildren. I’m not even talking from an ethical standpoint but a logical one. Aside from it being just plain wrong to bash the person your son chose as his life partner it’s just incredibly dumb as the mil has a lot more to lose. Like why do that to yourself? |
His mother will always be his mother but you as his wife may not always be divorced.
So be careful DILs before you throw your weight around and get cocky. |
Im not talking about my personal feelings but this board is extremely pro divorce and very quick to recommend it. Are you new here? |
Im not threatened by conversations my husband has with his mom, I don’t even know what they talk about on the phone when then catch up. If you are threatened and tantrumming over a question about being tired you have major issues in your marriage. You probably shouldn’t be giving out marital advice if you think the way OP thinks. |
So women are also not allowed to talk with their own mothers about any of these topics? Not allowed to share how their households operate, what problems they're facing with division of labor or work hour logistics or anything else?
My MIL drives me crazy and i'll own that her questions feel nosy, but if i'm being honest with myself it's things I talk about with my own mom, so why in the world can't my husband talk about them with his mom? |
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How sexist of you! Why is that her job? You told your mom to stay home that you and DH have everything under control,so who would she be making meals? Hmm. And how do you know she didn't ask? Maybe she ask your DH about hi and he said not to bother you. Hmm? You seem hell bent on turning her into some monster for no good reason. Perhaps it's because being a mom is harder than you expected b but rather than admit that and ask for help. You lash out. Anger is easier for you than vulnerable Hmm. How about you call.mil and say I could really use some hey especially with my own mom far away. Try humility |