Dear MILs

[Anonymous]

Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of DILs everywhere in America

[Anonymous]

Sorry - I’m a DIL who is definitely not signing your letter. 👍🏻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry - I’m a DIL who is definitely not signing your letter. 👍🏻

What don’t you like about it?

Your want your MIL in your business. I mean I guess that’s your prerogative.

Have fun with that.

[Anonymous]

That guy should have married the one that got away!

[Anonymous]

Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of insecure DILs everywhere in America

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of insecure DILs everywhere in America

How is it insecure? It’s actually the opposite of that when you know that your MILs place is not in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of insecure DILs everywhere in America

Didn’t take long for triggered MIL to find this thread z

[Anonymous]

Dear DILs Everywhere,

Your husband was my son for many years before he was your husband. I don’t care if he is 5 or 95 as long as I’m alive it is my “job” to lookout for him and make sure he is being treated right.

So many men work hard for their families and all their wive’s do is spend their hard earned money. As a mom of a young son I want my son to be treated kindly in his marriage and not dominated by a domineering woman in the future.

And I don’t give a rat’s ass what you think my first loyalty is always to my own son. If I think he is being taken advantage of in his marriage you bet your ass I always have that “right” to pull him aside and have a conversation about it.

I carried him for 9 months, gave birth to him, raised him into adulthood, held him while he cried, fixed his boo boos, stayed up with him all night. I will always cradle to grave protect him.

He can divorce you honey and get another wife but he can only ever have one mother.

Signed,

A mother of a young boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of insecure DILs everywhere in America

How is it insecure? It’s actually the opposite of that when you know that your MILs place is not in your marriage.

DP did you know what you were getting into with respect to his mom? Have you had an adult conversation with her or are you incapable of that and just whining to us here.

[Anonymous]

TLDR, but for future reference, it’s Mothers in law not mother in laws.

[Anonymous]

Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of whiny and beachie DILs everywhere in America

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear MILs,

Your son’s marriage is not your business considering your son’s marriage (aside from being a father to our children) is now the first and more important relationship. Who works more hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business. Who works less hours in the marriage. Guess what? Not your business Who does more with the children. Guess what? Not your business.

Who gets up more with the children. Guess what? Yup you guessed it not your business.

How your son and his wife decide how to handle their finances as a married couple. Guess what? Not your business.

It is not your place to pull your son aside and question him about the runnings of inside the household or try and say disparaging things about his wife. You aren’t there 24/7 so you really have no idea how things really go down unless you are.

Obviously you trust yourself that you did a great job raising your son, right? At least I would hope so. So wouldn’t you assume that your son would defend his wife each and every time first and foremost and put her first? That’s what a good mother teaches that once married his spouse and kids come first and a true man defends his wife and stands by her.

Your son is grown with his own family his life is no longer your business. You had 18 years to raise him and mold him your relationship with him now has changed to an adult relationship with him.

Things that are your business as a MIL. If you are financially supporting your son and his wife in anyway and they aren’t spending THEIR money in the way in which it was intended.

Also for the love of god MILs stop stop stop blaming your DILs for the actions of your sons. If your son doesn’t call and/or visit you as often as you like that’s not the DIL’s fault. Your son is a grown man with a mind and brain of his own to make his own decisions. Also he has his own car and cell phone that he can choose to pick up and text or call or get in and drive in.

It is an incredibly misogynistic mindset to have that the DIL in the relationship is responsible for your son’s behaviors in any way shape or form. Your DIL having a vagina doesn’t automatically cause her to hypnotize your son to do as she pleases.

And listen here and listen good. IF your son chooses to listen to his wife’s wishes THATS STILL ON HIM FOR LISTENING TO HER. He is still a grown man and if anything you raised him so weak mind that he can’t speak up for himself then you only have yourself to blame.

Signed,

On behalf of whiny and beachie DILs everywhere in America

What part of this do you disagree with?

Is it the part where I advocate for mothers in law not getting involved in your marriage? Or the part where I call out mothers in law for their misogynistic attitude of blaming their DILs for the actions of their precious sons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear DILs Everywhere,

Your husband was my son for many years before he was your husband. I don’t care if he is 5 or 95 as long as I’m alive it is my “job” to lookout for him and make sure he is being treated right.

So many men work hard for their families and all their wive’s do is spend their hard earned money. As a mom of a young son I want my son to be treated kindly in his marriage and not dominated by a domineering woman in the future.

And I don’t give a rat’s ass what you think my first loyalty is always to my own son. If I think he is being taken advantage of in his marriage you bet your ass I always have that “right” to pull him aside and have a conversation about it.

I carried him for 9 months, gave birth to him, raised him into adulthood, held him while he cried, fixed his boo boos, stayed up with him all night. I will always cradle to grave protect him.

He can divorce you honey and get another wife but he can only ever have one mother.

Signed,

A mother of a young boy.

Oh FFS. This is too much. I love my mil btw

You had children because you enjoyed them. You had your 18 years with them. You are setting yourself up to never see your grandchildren again if you alienate your DIL.

[Anonymous]

Honestly this was why I had two girls and a son. I know that even wonderful sons can abandon their parents and never visit or call. Dhs parents are lovely, he had a great childhood and doesn’t care to visit. I don’t understand it because he’s very family oriented. So moms of boys, just realize you might never see your sons again (or 2-3x a year) and it has zero to do with the DIL.

[Anonymous]

I mean yes, OP, all these things may be true. But you have just epically generalized a problem, when in fact your own MIL is just not a great person. There are a lot of really not great people out there, and now you are unfortunately related to one by marriage.