How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

No more fragile than the idiots who just can’t handle their kids not being invited.

+1,000

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Anonymous wrote:People who have no kids weddings (especially when the kids are family) are the same people who expect their bridesmaids or groomsmen to spend $1500 on a bachelor/ette weekend and who think of their wedding as a showcase for their narcissistic tendencies. They are tiresome. I’d decline because it’s not covid safe and send a check for a fraction of the cost of a trip out there. It’s almost insulting to be invited across the country when you have a 13 year old and be told the 13 year old cannot come. WTF.

You kid isn't the Christ Child.

I’ve been invited to two weddings since my kids were born, I attended one and stayed home for the other. If I can’t even make a vacation out of a trip to some craphole town for your wedding, I’m not spending the money on your princess day. But I did invite all my young nieces and nephews (married into a big family) when we were married. It really made the day so much more joyous and I’m glad I didn’t let my side of the family pressure me into a no kids wedding. Those kids are my family now. They have happy memories of our wedding. Why are people so bothered by children? I think there’s a lot of trauma under these weird expectations for weddings and hatred of kids. Kids are for the most part better than adults. Nothing worse than your d-bag 20-something friends getting smashed, requesting stupid songs, being obnoxious, and hooking up with each other during a wedding.

You wanted kids at your wedding, so you invited them. This couple don’t want kids at their wedding, so they didn’t. Very, very simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's no interpretation needed. No children mean no, they aren't invited. It's not a slight to your family - it's not about the extended family it’s about the couple.

Go and the kids can entertain themselves for an evening at the hotel. Maybe they can join in there's a brunch or something the next day.

At their ages, they understand adults only & probably wouldn't have much fun anyway at a wedding.

If it’s only about the couple, then I would wish them happiness and good health from the East Coast. That’s all.

Finally! You figured it out! Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

That’s nice. Nobody cares.

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It means no one under 21

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Anonymous wrote:I see no children as nobody under 12. If the brewery was actually the issue she should've said no minors. But children is a specific word usually used to refer to the 12 and under set. So I understand OP's uncertainty.

Adults only would be only people over 18. She should've used this if that was her prerogative. I wonder if people who had toddlers received different invitations with the wording on it? Not everyone will look online. Really comes down to what the formal invite said on the envelope. I would decline now due to not previously understanding kids can't come.

There’s no “uncertainty” if the children’s names weren’t specifically on the outer envelope or the inner envelope. There’s no “confusion.” There’s no “interpretation” to make.

WELL OBVIOUSLY THERE IS OR WE WOULDN"T HAVE THIS 150 PAGE THREAD WOULD WE NANCY

Oh honey. It’s OK that you are entirely uncultured and lack basic knowledge of etiquette. Do you know how to Google? If so, you can help yourself to basic information on wedding invitations and etiquette.

Did you read OP's update? Perhaps you should send a note to the bride and groom and let them know that in fact you already decided OP's kids are not invited and so her clarification that they are is a mistake, GOOD DAY. I SAID GOOD DAY.

OP’s oh so convenient update made after reading all the replies is BS. They dispensed with paper invitations so as not to spread COVID? How gullible can you be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ PP here, so sorry, just saw the most recent posts that they were invited.

I cannot believe how many people bought into OP’s obviously BS update, which clearly contorts to try to address the comments. To be that naive, I hope you’re teenagers (and thus not invited to OP’s cousin’s wedding).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

No one under 21. It's at a brewery.

You can attend without your kids or you can politely decline. Whatever.

We take kids to brewery’s all the time.

[Anonymous]

How in god's name is this thread still going

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should ask because no kids usually mean no toddlers or younger kids. Teenagers are usually OK. What makes the situation different is that it’s at a a brewery and I know some breweries don’t accept kids under 12, and some under 18 or 21. You are an odd situation so maybe just ask.

This is what I think. No kids is usually to prevent interruption,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How in god's name is this thread still going

OP here -- Right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t go because I wouldn’t leave my 13 year old in a hotel by themselves.

You are kidding me, right? Your 13 year old cannot stay by themselves?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

No one under 21. It's at a brewery.

You can attend without your kids or you can politely decline. Whatever.

We take kids to brewery’s all the time.

Yes, no surprise that your type takes kids to "brewery's" all the time.

[Anonymous]

Just decline. it's a pandemic and even if it wasn't the wedding sounds like it will be a snooze fest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

No more fragile than the idiots who just can’t handle their kids not being invited.

+1,000

Oh please. Asking is NOT complaining. It is clarifying who is invited. If her kids are not invited, any objections after that are complaining.

Fragility is not being able to handle questions about the invite list. Having to tell people "no." Suck it up. Questions are to be expected re: weddings. If you can't handle it, well, too bad.