How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

I would ask the bride and groom specifically saying you need to buy plane tickets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some states under 21 can’t be in a bar/brewery at all.

In others 18 can be in the bar but can’t drink, and it’s bars/breweries that decide whether to let under 21s in. If the bar serves meals like a pub, then kids are allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The childrens' names were listed on the wedding invitation but elsewhere (on the wedding website?) there is a request for no children at the event. That seems confusing to me.

In which case it sounds like they are making an exception for family.

[Anonymous]

Once and for all, the people invited to the wedding are listed on the envelope. There is no room for interpretation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The childrens' names were listed on the wedding invitation but elsewhere (on the wedding website?) there is a request for no children at the event. That seems confusing to me.

Your kids are invited.

The "no kids" is to reinforce it for people who's young kids were left off their family invites (either b/c they aren't family, too young, etc..)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If your kids are the only ones of the cousins who would be excluded, I wouldn’t go to this wedding. It sounds like a lot of work—flying cross country!—to rub it in their faces. Go on vacation as a family instead.

This.

[Anonymous]

This is like a zombie thread.

OP, come back and tell what happened so we can put it to rest!

[Anonymous]

Did the OP every comfirm how the invitation was addressed on the envelope?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!

+1

We bring our kids to weddings as well.

-100

Your friends are too polite to tell you to your face. They care. As do others who followed the expected invite rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did the OP every comfirm how the invitation was addressed on the envelope?

There was no envelope. It was done online, and the kids were on the evite.

I can't believe I know this about a stranger on the internet but can't remember what I did yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

+1

[Anonymous]

were their names on the invitation? No? then, no, they don't go. If the invitation was addressed to "Larla Sr., Larlo Sr., Larla Jr., and Larlo Jr. they'd be invited". If the invite was addressed to "Larla Sr. and Larlo Sr." they'd be invited. If the invitation was addressed to "The Lar Family" I'd ask to be sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would RSVP that the kids are not attending because they obviously are not invited and no you should NOT ask because hello that's rude....but I would take them for all of the other activities that would be taking place. They just don't go to the reception. No big deal. They sit in the hotel and order room service while you and your husband have a great time. They still get to see the family etc. I honestly don't see what the problem is.

We did just this in Arizona. The reception is one event of many. Don't ask, don't make it a big deal. You all go have a great time and kids stay upstairs in room during reception. So confused why this would be an issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

+1

Say what, now? I think that "understanding" may vary by family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

+1

x10000

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