How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!

+1

We bring our kids to weddings as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Your kids are not welcome. There is nothing to “interpret”.

2. I wouldn’t fly to California in the midst of a global pandemic.

I just flew from Virginia to California and back to say goodbye to my dying dad. It really wasn't that big of a deal. Everyone was masked. I did not get sick (this was three weeks ago). At some point you really can leave the bunker. (This is the first trip I've taken since March 2020).

That’s nice that you didn’t get sick. Plenty of other people traveled and did.

And a dying parent is a bit different than a big party — but then, you already knew that.

[Anonymous]

The childrens' names were listed on the wedding invitation but elsewhere (on the wedding website?) there is a request for no children at the event. That seems confusing to me.

[Anonymous]

Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

Exactly where do you expect them to sit when it's limited capacity? Sorry but couples might be having smaller events and best of all outdoors. No kids does apply to families unless they are siblings or children of the bride and groom.

[Anonymous]

Yes and each kid gets one of those $150/plate dinners. Thanks so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

No. Do not do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understand why having no kids at a wedding receptions gets people so fired up. It’s not a big deal. Go or don’t go! Children don’t need to be included in every formal event- it’s totally up to the couple getting married.

Exactly. It is just one event. Get over it. People are so entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!

OMG..how myopic. Nobody is excited about seeing your kids. They are being polite. Such entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never understand why having no kids at a wedding receptions gets people so fired up. It’s not a big deal. Go or don’t go! Children don’t need to be included in every formal event- it’s totally up to the couple getting married.

Exactly. It is just one event. Get over it. People are so entitled.

This. We only invited nieces and nephews to our wedding, no friends kids. I know some people were miffed, but we were paying for the wedding ourselves, space and funds were limited, and we were stressed about needing to provide other things if lots of kids came (a sitter or two, space for kids to play, more food, etc.). Planning a wedding is hard and no one is obligated to come. If anyone had said “sorry, we have to stay home with the kids” we would have been sad but understood. And now we have kids, a no kids invite wouldn’t bug me because I get it.

I think the people who are miffed about this had weddings other people paid for and may not have had to work through all the details and logistics. Small snd adults only is easier to plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you making such a big deal about it. Just bring your kids. They are family! Everyone knows the no kids rule doesn’t apply to family

It applied at my wedding. No kids under 10.

[Anonymous]

What is there to interpret? It's crystal clear.

[Anonymous]

Did the invitation say Mr & Mrs XXX and family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!

That is what you'd like to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!

+1

We bring our kids to weddings as well.

I guarantee you people care and are not thrilled to see your kids. They don’t care about your kids. They’re just being polite.

OP. There in no interpretation. Your kids weren’t invited. Don’t being them. Don’t be an asshole.