An explanation and request from a mom of a kid with autism

[Anonymous]

OP, your drunk. Go home.
Please take a mental health day because if you are to the point of pointing fingers at everyone except you and your child and you overreact to parents being parents, well then, you need a break.
It will only get harder as your child ages, you won't be able to carry him out of situations. You best deal with that.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my child, too. I don't want her to be frightened or upset either. If your son gets unfavorable comments or a parent (or nanny - DD's nanny is fiercely protective) raises their voice to your child, it is because we are protecting our own. No other reason.

Try thinking in broader terms.

What broader terms?

Like your kid isn't standing at the very center of the universe. You're setting her up for some serious sad times. Give her a chance to not be such a giant wuss.

I could say the same thing about your kid, autism isn't the get out of jail free card you seem to think it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my child, too. I don't want her to be frightened or upset either. If your son gets unfavorable comments or a parent (or nanny - DD's nanny is fiercely protective) raises their voice to your child, it is because we are protecting our own. No other reason.

Try thinking in broader terms.

What broader terms?

Like your kid isn't standing at the very center of the universe. You're setting her up for some serious sad times. Give her a chance to not be such a giant wuss.

No. Just no. My daughter is 14 months old. I have no clue why a large five year old is spitting st her and simply will not allow it even if I did know why. So no.

You are a fool. Having a 14 month old does not make you incredibly special. So do millions of other people. Your kid gets to scream her head off on the plane vecause she's 14 months old and it's developmentally appropriate. My kid blows raspberries in her direction because it's developmentally appropriate for him at 4 when he is autistic. He gets punished and we leave the pool. That's what I'm trying to explain. You'd be so outraged if someone dared to complain that your kid was acting like a baby's my kids acting. Like he acts and I'm monitoring him and taking him away and he's making real progresses I'm not locking him up. You're taking your kid on planes and maybe to brunch. I wouldn't dream. Actually my kids amazing on planes and always was there are some benefits.

You need to be medicated, OP. She never said that she was special for having a 14 month old. She was explaining why she felt protective of her child. You take obnoxious to a whole new level.

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Anonymous wrote:Good god, op here. Your willful insistence on completely refusing to comprehend what I actually said is amazing. I did it ask for special accommodations. I asked that you keep your babies out of playgrounds marked 3-5 and out of the big kid pool arear for 3-5 when there are baby parks and baby playgrounds. You hover over your kids creating a huge logistical block for those of us with kids with special needs who need to closely monitor. You also hugely react if my child say blows a raspberry in your direction. That's not hurrying anyone. It's annoying. Maybe it warrants a telling him off but you frankly can't tell off a child with autism for every odd behavior. So parents telling me, your child just spit at me, etc. these are the issues I'm talking about. My kid isn't aggressive he is odd and it confuses parents more than children.

If you have a hard time believing that my child hasn't been yelled at numerous times for things like making faces at babies, growling at them, spitting, not waiting a turn even when I'm there to hold him back, you don't live in my world and Rabat my point.

As for the other kids with autism being similar I didn't say all but seeking reactions is indeed fairly common.

See, that's not okay

No, it isn't. I cannot imagine my friends with autistic children not leaving immediately when these behaviors start.

And by the way op, not that you care, but some of those kids and parents may be dealing with issues of their own.

We left everytime or we ignored once and then left per the advice of our aba therapist who was usually with us.

I do care actually. One benefit of this whole thing: actual empathy.

OP, you're kidding yourself if you think you have any empathy. You've done nothing but attack everyone who disagrees with you. You are actually the least empathetic person on this thread.

[Anonymous]

The only parent you empathize with is YOURSELF.

and the whole "we can spot each other easily' when referring to other SN parents. Give me a break.
Haven't year heard the saying "If you know one child with Autism, you know ONE child with Autism".

SN mom of a DD with Autism.
You don't know us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in a situation yesterday where I paid for an experience (think: carnival game) for my kids, and a boy came running over and grabbed the equipment from my child and proceeded to do the activity. We were all taken aback, but I immediately assumed the child had special needs. His mother quickly came running over and while she was approaching she said, "He has special needs and doesn't understand. I'm so sorry." And she quickly grabbed him. I said, "No worries, it's totally okay," but she dragged the kid away.

I thought the mom handled it well in terms of quickly running over and giving us a heads up about her child as she was approaching. My kids stood there quietly, and I told the mom it wasn't a problem.

Isn't that the appropriate response all around?

In that situation yes. I think it was handled well by everyone.

Had her child hit your kid or spit at your kid the appropriate response from here would have been " Is your son okay? ( acknowledge she's aware her kid's behavior is not socially appropriate) He has special needs and doesn't understand. I'm so sorry" And gone on with her life.
Your response of "no worries. he is okay " is appropriate in either situation. You could later in the car or at home talk with your kids about what happened.

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Anonymous wrote:The only parent you empathize with is YOURSELF.

and the whole "we can spot each other easily' when referring to other SN parents. Give me a break.
Haven't year heard the saying "If you know one child with Autism, you know ONE child with Autism".

SN mom of a DD with Autism.
You don't know us.

Thank you. OP you're the kind of parent who gives parents of kids with SN and autism a bad reputation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your drunk. Go home.
Please take a mental health day because if you are to the point of pointing fingers at everyone except you and your child and you overreact to parents being parents, well then, you need a break.
It will only get harder as your child ages, you won't be able to carry him out of situations. You best deal with that.

I agree that OP needs a day off. Get respite care, it's good for your son to get used to other caregivers anyway. Parenting is hard, it's doubly hard when you perceive everyone to be against you , triply hard when you have a kid with special needs to care for.

You are no good to anyone if you aren't caring for yourself, you entire self which includes your mental health. Take some time off.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my child, too. I don't want her to be frightened or upset either. If your son gets unfavorable comments or a parent (or nanny - DD's nanny is fiercely protective) raises their voice to your child, it is because we are protecting our own. No other reason.

Try thinking in broader terms.

What broader terms?

Like your kid isn't standing at the very center of the universe. You're setting her up for some serious sad times. Give her a chance to not be such a giant wuss.

No. Just no. My daughter is 14 months old. I have no clue why a large five year old is spitting st her and simply will not allow it even if I did know why. So no.

You are a fool. Having a 14 month old does not make you incredibly special. So do millions of other people. Your kid gets to scream her head off on the plane vecause she's 14 months old and it's developmentally appropriate. My kid blows raspberries in her direction because it's developmentally appropriate for him at 4 when he is autistic. He gets punished and we leave the pool. That's what I'm trying to explain. You'd be so outraged if someone dared to complain that your kid was acting like a baby's my kids acting. Like he acts and I'm monitoring him and taking him away and he's making real progresses I'm not locking him up. You're taking your kid on planes and maybe to brunch. I wouldn't dream. Actually my kids amazing on planes and always was there are some benefits.

You need to be medicated, OP. She never said that she was special for having a 14 month old. She was explaining why she felt protective of her child. You take obnoxious to a whole new level.

+1 OP has far more problems than her son will ever have.

[Anonymous]

Several PP have advised OP take respite or seek therapy for herself. She won't or can't because in the middle of this type of episode, the person lacks insight that they are ill. I think she might have undiagnosed bipolar. Bipolar can develop when sustained stress or trauma cause the chemical imbalance others inherit genetically.

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Anonymous wrote:Several PP have advised OP take respite or seek therapy for herself. She won't or can't because in the middle of this type of episode, the person lacks insight that they are ill. I think she might have undiagnosed bipolar. Bipolar can develop when sustained stress or trauma cause the chemical imbalance others inherit genetically.

Op is annoying but so are you. You can't diagnose bipolar because someone's a jerk in the internet. Cool your shorts.

[Anonymous]

Oh dcum. You never fail.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my child, too. I don't want her to be frightened or upset either. If your son gets unfavorable comments or a parent (or nanny - DD's nanny is fiercely protective) raises their voice to your child, it is because we are protecting our own. No other reason.

Try thinking in broader terms.

What broader terms?

Like your kid isn't standing at the very center of the universe. You're setting her up for some serious sad times. Give her a chance to not be such a giant wuss.

No. Just no. My daughter is 14 months old. I have no clue why a large five year old is spitting st her and simply will not allow it even if I did know why. So no.

she never said to allow spitting. she said to have some empathy and not jump to conclusions about why it happened. It is possible to protect your kid and not be a judgmental asshole. but it is much more satisfying to judge the other mom and kid, I get that.

Here's a thought for you and OP. Your kid has autism. Not you. Your kid does not understand social norms. Not you. Your kid doesn't understand spitting isn't appropriate and how upsetting it is. Not you.

You who understands social behavior can acknowledge your kids misdeed, apologize for it and move on and attend to your kid in whatever way is appropriate for them without missing a beat.

You could do this. You choose not to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Several PP have advised OP take respite or seek therapy for herself. She won't or can't because in the middle of this type of episode, the person lacks insight that they are ill. I think she might have undiagnosed bipolar. Bipolar can develop when sustained stress or trauma cause the chemical imbalance others inherit genetically.

Op is annoying but so are you. You can't diagnose bipolar because someone's a jerk in the internet. Cool your shorts.

OP's mindset is way more than OP being a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, if your child spits or takes a toy away from my child and you are not RIGHT ON IT I will scold your son and take my child's toy back. Move faster or subject your child to my annoyance. My child is 19 months.

Sadly, because of your responses on this thread, OP, I have far less empathy for your plight than I did before you posted.