Help - gay brother

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

Your post has nothing to do with the point of mine.

Your point is irrelevant. We are not here to debate what counts as disappointment and what counts as hatred. It doesn't matter what label we give that action. The point remains that if someone refuses to meet my partner, they no longer deserve to be in my life.

And you don't deserve to be in their life because you can't muster any respect for their feelings. Relationship with your family goes both ways and if you easily dismiss people for disagreeing with your choices, then maybe they shouldn't care about having you in their life either.

OP's 'feelings' are not worthy of respect.

Sure they are. She wishes no harm on him, just doesn't want to be around his boyfriend.

I guess you must be one of those fossils that thinks they only type of harm is physical.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

This. The whole point of the unconditional love we are meant to extend to family is that their joy makes us happy. OP seems much more invested in her image of herself and her brother as "close" than in actually being a part of his life.

Yes, his life includes his partner. No, they probably weren't as close as she thinks, if he's been forced to keep this secret so long.

None of this makes OP "hateful." You all sound like teenagers declaring your parents hate you because they won't let your friends come over. Hate is powerful and all encompassing. It is far more serious than someone not wanting to meet your honey bear. Quit the histrionics.

Awwww, poor sweetie. Sorry you're so offended. Must be hard to lecture people all the time and not be able to take it yourself.

NP. Is it nice to exude sanctioned hatred, PP? I hope you feel better about yourself some day...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

This. The whole point of the unconditional love we are meant to extend to family is that their joy makes us happy. OP seems much more invested in her image of herself and her brother as "close" than in actually being a part of his life.

Yes, his life includes his partner. No, they probably weren't as close as she thinks, if he's been forced to keep this secret so long.

None of this makes OP "hateful." You all sound like teenagers declaring your parents hate you because they won't let your friends come over. Hate is powerful and all encompassing. It is far more serious than someone not wanting to meet your honey bear. Quit the histrionics.

Awwww, poor sweetie. Sorry you're so offended. Must be hard to lecture people all the time and not be able to take it yourself.

NP. Is it nice to exude sanctioned hatred, PP? I hope you feel better about yourself some day...

Please take an English class and come back when you make sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

Generally you are required to meet your brothers significant other, especially if you claim to be "close". This isn't an office softball meet over the weekend. OP is too caught up in making this about herself to use common sense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you people stop with suicides? Mental illness in people is not their families' fault. Unless you're willing to fault them for passing on depression-tainted genes.

Stop with the "die, bitch" comments. Do as you preach, morons.

So being rejected by your family doesn't contribute to depression?

It does not cause suicide, if that was what you meant to ask but couldn't articulate it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you people stop with suicides? Mental illness in people is not their families' fault. Unless you're willing to fault them for passing on depression-tainted genes.

Stop with the "die, bitch" comments. Do as you preach, morons.

So being rejected by your family doesn't contribute to depression?

It does not cause suicide, if that was what you meant to ask but couldn't articulate it.

It does lead some people to suicide....get your head out of the sand.

[Anonymous]

OP, when your children are adults who are dating, are you going to ask them about their sex lives before agreeing to meet their partners? Just curious since you claim that one of your reasons for not meeting your brother is that you're concerned about gay sex being risky. You never know what types of sex hetero adults are engaged in that might also be risky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

Generally you are required to meet your brothers significant other, especially if you claim to be "close". This isn't an office softball meet over the weekend. OP is too caught up in making this about herself to use common sense.

Says who? Please. These are all adults.

[Anonymous]

Lol @ all these people posting increasingly crazy and nasty things about OP. She doesn't give a shit. Get a life and go adopt a gay at your local Gmhc or pride festival if you're this broken up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

Generally you are required to meet your brothers significant other, especially if you claim to be "close". This isn't an office softball meet over the weekend. OP is too caught up in making this about herself to use common sense.

This is just cray. You don't have to meet anyone you don't want to meet. The fact that the person is gay doesn't make them special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

Generally you are required to meet your brothers significant other, especially if you claim to be "close". This isn't an office softball meet over the weekend. OP is too caught up in making this about herself to use common sense.

This is just cray. You don't have to meet anyone you don't want to meet. The fact that the person is gay doesn't make them special.

I never said you HAVE to....but if want to be "close" you do. You free to refuse to meet anyone, just don't complain about feeling hurt because you were so "close"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

NP. No. She is saying that generally people are not obligated to meet people they don't want to meet. It is okay to have a head on your shoulders, straight guy. Even if your opinion may occasionally contradict the party line.

Generally you are required to meet your brothers significant other, especially if you claim to be "close". This isn't an office softball meet over the weekend. OP is too caught up in making this about herself to use common sense.

This is just cray. You don't have to meet anyone you don't want to meet. The fact that the person is gay doesn't make them special.

The fact that the person is her brothers significant other makes him special. Don't be obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol @ all these people posting increasingly crazy and nasty things about OP. She doesn't give a shit. Get a life and go adopt a gay at your local Gmhc or pride festival if you're this broken up.

Yeah, I'm not sure why she even posted in the first place since she seems completely unwilling to consider a point of view outside of her own bigotry. Very sad situation.