Help - gay brother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

And what are these consequences? You think OP's boss is going to give a shit if he finds she has a gay brother she doesn't talk to? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

Your post has nothing to do with the point of mine.

Your point is irrelevant. We are not here to debate what counts as disappointment and what counts as hatred. It doesn't matter what label we give that action. The point remains that if someone refuses to meet my partner, they no longer deserve to be in my life.

And you don't deserve to be in their life because you can't muster any respect for their feelings. Relationship with your family goes both ways and if you easily dismiss people for disagreeing with your choices, then maybe they shouldn't care about having you in their life either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

And what are these consequences? You think OP's boss is going to give a shit if he finds she has a gay brother she doesn't talk to? Please.

If she vocalized her disapproval in my office, she would be fired. We don't tolerate intolerance like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

Actually it's a bad and oppressive thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please give me your brother's phone number and email address. I am an excellent little sister and come from a nonjudgmental family.

We will adopt him. It will be an open adoption - you can visit whenever you'd like as long as he's open to it. We will welcome him and his partner to all family gatherings. We will consider their children (if they chose to grow their family) nieces, nephews, cousins and grandchildren.

He will be loved and taken care of. My parents will treat his partner as their son-in-law, which for them, means treating him like another son.

We can take him today.

What a sweet post. I believe you 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

Actually it's a bad and oppressive thing.

A lot of criminals think prison is bad and oppressive too.

[Anonymous]

This post makes me sick to my stomach, and on the verge of tears. People like OP are the reason hatred and bigotry exist, yet she will never be able to see that.

Big virtual hugs to OP's brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

Your post has nothing to do with the point of mine.

Your point is irrelevant. We are not here to debate what counts as disappointment and what counts as hatred. It doesn't matter what label we give that action. The point remains that if someone refuses to meet my partner, they no longer deserve to be in my life.

And you don't deserve to be in their life because you can't muster any respect for their feelings. Relationship with your family goes both ways and if you easily dismiss people for disagreeing with your choices, then maybe they shouldn't care about having you in their life either.

OP's 'feelings' are not worthy of respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

Wow you are comparing being gay to being one of those? Thank god your kind is a dying breed on it's last legs. I feel badly for your brother...your family (and yourself) sound like terrible people.

~a straight guy

+1 Good thing there are social and professional consequences for this type of hatred these days.

~ a straight woman

Actually it's a bad and oppressive thing.

A lot of criminals think prison is bad and oppressive too.

She didn't commit a crime by disagreeing with his lifestyle choices. Are you suggesting she did? Should she be locked up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ How did he react, OP?

I think you're right not to get involved in his telling your parents. But I worry you will regret your refusal to meet someone who is important to him.

He was upset, as I knew he would be. But he was not surprised. My two-month silence speaks for itself.

Just because this man means something to my brother doesn't mean I have to meet him. If he was dating a prostitute, felon, or other person whose morals I disagree with, would you expect me to meet that person too?

It's not morality, it's biology. God, you suck. What an awful person you are, and I hope he cuts you out like the toxic boil you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

Your post has nothing to do with the point of mine.

Your point is irrelevant. We are not here to debate what counts as disappointment and what counts as hatred. It doesn't matter what label we give that action. The point remains that if someone refuses to meet my partner, they no longer deserve to be in my life.

And you don't deserve to be in their life because you can't muster any respect for their feelings. Relationship with your family goes both ways and if you easily dismiss people for disagreeing with your choices, then maybe they shouldn't care about having you in their life either.

OP's 'feelings' are not worthy of respect.

Sure they are. She wishes no harm on him, just doesn't want to be around his boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

Your post has nothing to do with the point of mine.

Your point is irrelevant. We are not here to debate what counts as disappointment and what counts as hatred. It doesn't matter what label we give that action. The point remains that if someone refuses to meet my partner, they no longer deserve to be in my life.

And you don't deserve to be in their life because you can't muster any respect for their feelings. Relationship with your family goes both ways and if you easily dismiss people for disagreeing with your choices, then maybe they shouldn't care about having you in their life either.

OP's 'feelings' are not worthy of respect.

Sure they are. She wishes no harm on him, just doesn't want to be around his boyfriend.

You sure have a funny definition of "harm"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because someone doesn't want to meet your boyfriend doesn't mean they hate you.

Too many drama queens in this thread. I pray you never encounter a person who will teach you the difference between disappointment and hatred. You are all very pampered.

Someone who doesn't want to meet my boyfriend doesn't belong in my life. Who cares if they hate me?

This. The whole point of the unconditional love we are meant to extend to family is that their joy makes us happy. OP seems much more invested in her image of herself and her brother as "close" than in actually being a part of his life.

Yes, his life includes his partner. No, they probably weren't as close as she thinks, if he's been forced to keep this secret so long.

None of this makes OP "hateful." You all sound like teenagers declaring your parents hate you because they won't let your friends come over. Hate is powerful and all encompassing. It is far more serious than someone not wanting to meet your honey bear. Quit the histrionics.

Yes, OP is "hateful" by broad definitions (see below in case I am wrong).
OP has said that she doesn't want to meet the boyfriend in the same way she would not want to meet a prostitute or a felon or others whose morals she disagreed with.
She is comparing a gay person to a felon? Is being gay now illegal?

hate·ful
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adjective
arousing, deserving of, or filled with hatred.
"hateful letters of abuse that had come unsigned"
informal
very unpleasant.
"I don't have to stay in this hateful place"
synonyms: detestable, horrible, horrid, unpleasant, awful, nasty, disagreeable, despicable, objectionable, insufferable, revolting, loathsome, abhorrent, abominable, execrable, odious, disgusting, distasteful, obnoxious, offensive, vile, heinous, ghastly, beastly; informal;godawful
"his hateful letters were presented as evidence"


OP still has not said is she also this hateful towards other races. So very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yes, OP is "hateful" by broad definitions (see below in case I am wrong).
OP has said that she doesn't want to meet the boyfriend in the same way she would not want to meet a prostitute or a felon or others whose morals she disagreed with.
She is comparing a gay person to a felon? Is being gay now illegal?


OP still has not said is she also this hateful towards other races. So very sad.

It's not illegal, it's just unpleasant for some.