Strange comment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: You were excited by the gift, but you spoke too early and in front of the MIL gift giver. Your MIL does not think that it is her duty to pay for your house improvements. You cheated the MIL out of her joy of giving a great gift.

So why is it her duty to give her son a $1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wanted to treat just him to something special. Has he seemed stressed lately?

He hasn't been stressed but even if he had it's not mommy's job to fix a grown Mann's stress. As his wife we will handle stress within our own family as a family and not have other people dealing with it. We keep our household stuff private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP.

You were awful to DH and MIL. You are an incredibly selfish person.

Maybe DH can use the grand for a retainer for a divorce attorney.

Damn really a divorce attorney for one comment I made?

No, it is for all the ridiculous pushback you continue to give. You were a million percent wrong but refuse to see it.

Life with someone like you gets old quick.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, wow, way out of line. Even IF that's how HE wants to spend the money, you don't say that in front of the gift-giver. Super rude.

He tells her he's going to have a great day golfing and you shut the F up about it. Besides whats the difference between him having a nice day and renovations it all comes from the same pot.

Literally OP you'll never get a cash gift again.

[Anonymous]

Its not a strange comment if you often act like this. MIL probably had her limit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, wow, way out of line. Even IF that's how HE wants to spend the money, you don't say that in front of the gift-giver. Super rude.

He tells her he's going to have a great day golfing and you shut the F up about it. Besides whats the difference between him having a nice day and renovations it all comes from the same pot.

Literally OP you'll never get a cash gift again.

Not a shocker on DCUM that the woman just has to shut up and keep quiet while her husband gets to do whatever. All the pro momma's boys on here are ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She wanted to treat just him to something special. Has he seemed stressed lately?

He hasn't been stressed but even if he had it's not mommy's job to fix a grown Mann's stress. As his wife we will handle stress within our own family as a family and not have other people dealing with it. We keep our household stuff private.

Obviously not or you wouldn’t have acted so piggy around MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not a strange comment if you often act like this. MIL probably had her limit!

Limit with what?

Since when is it ok to butt in and stick your nose into someone else's marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, wow, way out of line. Even IF that's how HE wants to spend the money, you don't say that in front of the gift-giver. Super rude.

He tells her he's going to have a great day golfing and you shut the F up about it. Besides whats the difference between him having a nice day and renovations it all comes from the same pot.

Literally OP you'll never get a cash gift again.

Not a shocker on DCUM that the woman just has to shut up and keep quiet while her husband gets to do whatever. All the pro momma's boys on here are ridiculous

You are literally crazy. You DH should run for the hills.

I have been married 37 years and have NEVER assumed a gift for my DH is also a gift for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its not a strange comment if you often act like this. MIL probably had her limit!

Limit with what?

Since when is it ok to butt in and stick your nose into someone else's marriage

Of OP's bossiness/speaking for her husband/rudeness/ you name it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its not a strange comment if you often act like this. MIL probably had her limit!

Limit with what?

Since when is it ok to butt in and stick your nose into someone else's marriage

You are the one who butted on and tried to snatch a gift that wasn't for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, the issue is *not* that you and your husband shouldn’t put the money towards the home expenses. The issue is that you didn’t let your MIL and husband have a nice birthday moment. You were rude to pipe up like that. And even if your MIL got snarky back at you, you should have apologized! “Of course, Marge, that is Fred’s gift and it was so generous of you! I will butt out now.” Instead you doubled down with your rudeness. And although I haven’t read all 15 pages, what I have seen is you continuing to be defensive. No one thinks that your husband should go spend that $1000 on something extravagant if the money is needed elsewhere. But you don’t ruin a happy and generous birthday moment like you did.

You definitely owe your husband and MIL an apology. And if you had some self-awareness and humility, you would have done so after page 3 instead of tripling down on your defensive take.

[Anonymous]

It wasn’t your gift, the most you should have say was “wow, that was so generous.”

If together you later decide to use it for renovations, okay. But it was incredibly rude of you and you owe your MIL an apology, not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not a strange comment if you often act like this. MIL probably had her limit!

That’s what I was thinking. MIL was probably feeling like her son doesn’t get an equal say in his marriage, true or not, and when she tried to do something special for him… it was immediately taken away by OP.

[Anonymous]

OP might be in for a surprise when she sees how inheritance works.