If you are divorced and will never remarry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

This is a good metaphor. It's why divorce is so sad, even when necessary.

Divorce is never sad when the marriage was never good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

what drivel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

This is a good metaphor. It's why divorce is so sad, even when necessary.

Disagree. Terrible metaphor, which is why I had to read it a couple times to figure out what he/she was trying to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I do miss it. But I haven’t found any men that love me, at least not in a way that feels like love and respect. Every single one has been controlling, manipulative, untrustworthy, and/or unfaithful. After my last LTR cheated, I decided it just wasn’t worth the pain anymore.

But I also don’t go after wealthy men. BTDT, not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

This is a good metaphor. It's why divorce is so sad, even when necessary.

Most of us wont move our proverbial flowers around on a weekly [b]basis.

You forget, when you write this drivel, that you are writing it to people who are telling you they had unhappy marriages. We don't want more "rings' of pain and abuse, thanks.

I will gladly cut and move my flowers: weekly, monthly, or a decade in, if they need cutting and moving. Its marriage that traps you into tending for flower who have no root, way past the point of logic. I simply would rather take and move my flowers, than create more rings of pain, for the rest of my life. You do you though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

This is a good metaphor. It's why divorce is so sad, even when necessary.

Most of us wont move our proverbial flowers around on a weekly basis.

[b]You forget, when you write this drivel, that you are writing it to people who are telling you they had unhappy marriages. We don't want more "rings' of pain and abuse, thanks.

I will gladly cut and move my flowers: weekly, monthly, or a decade in, if they need cutting and moving. Its marriage that traps you into tending for flower who have no root, way past the point of logic. I simply would rather take and move my flowers, than create more rings of pain, for the rest of my life. You do you though.

Well put. I swear, people seem to just not understand that some marriages were just awful and there was nothing better than a divorce. They just can't comprehend it. I find it bizaree. Like we are literally telling them this and they STILL don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I do miss it. But I haven’t found any men that love me, at least not in a way that feels like love and respect. Every single one has been controlling, manipulative, untrustworthy, and/or unfaithful. After my last LTR cheated, I decided it just wasn’t worth the pain anymore.

But I also don’t go after wealthy men. BTDT, not worth it.

If one man is like that, it's him.

If every man is like that, it's you.

At the very least, your man-picker is totally broken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I do miss it. But I haven’t found any men that love me, at least not in a way that feels like love and respect. Every single one has been controlling, manipulative, untrustworthy, and/or unfaithful. After my last LTR cheated, I decided it just wasn’t worth the pain anymore.

But I also don’t go after wealthy men. BTDT, not worth it.

If one man is like that, it's him.

If every man is like that, it's you.

At the very least, your man-picker is totally broken.

What a mean way to tell someone to draw a conclusion they have already come to. She's way ahead of you, love, and is not "Picking", She is choosing to NOT pick anymore.

You people are jerks on here, seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

NP

Wow, you sound like you'd be fun to date. /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

NP

Wow, you sound like you'd be fun to date. /s

An absolute hoot. Once you weed out the whiney ones, dating confident, successful men is fantastic. I like big thinkers, (and BE) so small talk that dissolves into "Laundry is EASY cutting grass is HARD women are stupid" kills my lady boner (PSA, kills most lady boners). These men are harder to find than the average mouth breathing male mom forum guy who posts on the relationship forum on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

This is why women with money intimidate many men.

Women with money choose to ignore many men, choosing to remain single rather than spend time with non-millionaires. Ok, go be single. Don’t blame that on men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This is why women with money intimidate many men.

Women with money choose to ignore many men, choosing to remain single rather than spend time with non-lazy seflish financially/emotionally underwhelming males. Ok, go be single. Don’t blame that on men.

FTFY. And thank you, for your permission to do what we are stating we are already doing. Appreciate you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:46. Divorced at 42. Woman.

I wont marry again because divorcing an asshole now dictates where I live, it means that the rights I thought I had, as an American, are not the same as others, because I am divorced from a high conflict man. He will try to ruin any relationship I am in, I keep my love life very very private. I will never again have to pay my way out of a relationship, and to be held hostage by the whims of an insane person just because we share biological children.

I hope to have a live in partner, someday, after my kids leave home (7 years from now). But I've learned that marriage doesn't mean anything when one person has addiction issues, or mental illness, or ....whatever. It just ends, same as a relationship would, but with a hell of a lot more expense and hassle.

So far, I dont find men very impressive. The fact that my life is SO much easier as a primary parent to several kids is a testimony to how much of a help he was. He was like my 4th and 5th child. And maybe a dog too.

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