If you are divorced and will never remarry

[Anonymous]

LOL. Why would a woman deal with a new man and get him involved in her children's life by choice? Bizarre. They are so much work, and only worth it if incredibly wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

Well no- you are just low empathy.

My tree was a diseased alcoholic abuser tree. I had enough rings thanks. You have a nice healthy tree- but low EQ, so I don’t envy you at all.

Uh, you are the one attacking someone for expressing an opinion that doesn’t hurt you in any way. Obviously not everyone is married to a rock/tree worth keeping and that is a sad day when you realize it, plenty of empathy but that’s not what the majority of these PPs’ replies are about. FYI I divorced and alcoholic abuser so pot, kettle.

[Anonymous]

For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I had little sex with no love while married.

Now I have a lot of sex, with a lot of affection and fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

Literally no one is saying this on this thread except the one (presumably male) PP who calls women gold-diggers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

Well no- you are just low empathy.

My tree was a diseased alcoholic abuser tree. I had enough rings thanks. You have a nice healthy tree- but low EQ, so I don’t envy you at all.

Uh, you are the one attacking someone for expressing an opinion that doesn’t hurt you in any way. Obviously not everyone is married to a rock/tree worth keeping and that is a sad day when you realize it, plenty of empathy but that’s not what the majority of these PPs’ replies are about. FYI I divorced and alcoholic abuser so pot, kettle.

I’m not attacking you. I’m stating the fact that when you come in here and provide your stupid allegory on a thread that doesn’t apply to you, the world yawns.

You cut the flowers of your first marriage. Cool. Now you do different. Neat. None of that is revenant to the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

Well no- you are just low empathy.

My tree was a diseased alcoholic abuser tree. I had enough rings thanks. You have a nice healthy tree- but low EQ, so I don’t envy you at all.

Uh, you are the one attacking someone for expressing an opinion that doesn’t hurt you in any way. Obviously not everyone is married to a rock/tree worth keeping and that is a sad day when you realize it, plenty of empathy but that’s not what the majority of these PPs’ replies are about. FYI I divorced and alcoholic abuser so pot, kettle.

I’m not attacking you. I’m stating the fact that when you come in here and provide your stupid allegory on a thread that doesn’t apply to you, the world yawns.

You cut the flowers of your first marriage. Cool. Now you do different. Neat. None of that is revenant to the subject.

Considering I wrote the OP I think I am in a better position than you to know what’s relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

Well no- you are just low empathy.

My tree was a diseased alcoholic abuser tree. I had enough rings thanks. You have a nice healthy tree- but low EQ, so I don’t envy you at all.

Uh, you are the one attacking someone for expressing an opinion that doesn’t hurt you in any way. Obviously not everyone is married to a rock/tree worth keeping and that is a sad day when you realize it, plenty of empathy but that’s not what the majority of these PPs’ replies are about. FYI I divorced and alcoholic abuser so pot, kettle.

I’m not attacking you. I’m stating the fact that when you come in here and provide your stupid allegory on a thread that doesn’t apply to you, the world yawns.

You cut the flowers of your first marriage. Cool. Now you do different. Neat. None of that is revenant to the subject.

Considering I wrote the OP I think I am in a better position than you to know what’s relevant.

Okay. Then you are a hypocrite for attempting to shame people for leaving their marriages when you did the same, before you became a collector of tree rings.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t attempt to shame anyone. You sound very, very wounded and aggressive and I’m not talking to you anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I did not have that in marriage so why would I miss that now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

Literally no one is saying this on this thread except the one (presumably male) PP who calls women gold-diggers.

Yeah, I'm not saying that. I am a wealthy woman. I don't need to date a wealthy man, but I need to date one wealthy enough to pay his own way to the places i'm already going. The alternative would be me playing sugar mama, which is a turn off to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I had little sex with no love while married.

Now I have a lot of sex, with a lot of affection and fun.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t attempt to shame anyone. You sound very, very wounded and aggressive and I’m not talking to you anymore.

Bye, felicia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am in the minority in valuing time invested, layers of meaning and memory accrued. I’d rather have more rings around my tree than a bunch of cut flowers that will die in a week and always need replacing.

This is a good metaphor. It's why divorce is so sad, even when necessary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

it’s not about the laundry or the mowing in isolation. it’s about ALL the work put together.