"Fast" kids -- how do they get that way?

[Anonymous]

I'm extremely slow. I have not picked up that habit of drinking alcohol, even with sociable adults who keeps offering it to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

My 8th through 11th grade gf would grind on a removable finial from her poster bed and orgasm in about 30 seconds, said she'd been doing that since she could remember. Truly bizarre that you think something turns on mid 20s for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

Why are people on this board so rude? My comment is based on the very sad statistics about women and orgasms. I know plenty of women who were sexually active for years or even decades before they had one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

My 8th through 11th grade gf would grind on a removable finial from her poster bed and orgasm in about 30 seconds, said she'd been doing that since she could remember. Truly bizarre that you think something turns on mid 20s for women.

Actually, it's early forties and women refer to it as "the switch".
There is nothing wrong with masturbation at any age. There is nothing wrong with sex with age-appropriate partners at a certain age. But that does not mean that women are having reliable orgasms. Read some of the literature.

[Anonymous]

Feel sorry for parents whose kids are wild and it creates anguish for the parents.

Feel thankful for parents who don't have this problem.

Feel relieved for those parents who have wild kids but are not bothered by it.

Pray for all kids who are wild that they don't cause themselves and others some unrecoverable harm.

Rest? Leave it on God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

Why are people on this board so rude? My comment is based on the very sad statistics about women and orgasms. I know plenty of women who were sexually active for years or even decades before they had one.

You talk with your girlfriends about orgasms and masturbation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

Why are people on this board so rude? My comment is based on the very sad statistics about women and orgasms. I know plenty of women who were sexually active for years or even decades before they had one.

You talk with your girlfriends about orgasms and masturbation?

Yes. I think adults talking to their friends about sex is far more common than fifteen year olds having great sex, but apparently I’m the weirdo here.
In addition, there is a lot of literature about female sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

Why are people on this board so rude? My comment is based on the very sad statistics about women and orgasms. I know plenty of women who were sexually active for years or even decades before they had one.

You talk with your girlfriends about orgasms and masturbation?

Yes. I think adults talking to their friends about sex is far more common than fifteen year olds having great sex, but apparently I’m the weirdo here.
In addition, there is a lot of literature about female sexuality.

NP. I'm a 42 woman who has plenty of times spoke with gfs about whether they had sex with a new guy or if they enjoyed it but I have never asked or been asked anything about orgasms. And I would be very offended if they inquired.

[Anonymous]

I was a fast teen, and honestly it was just natural for me. It had nothing to do with my upbringing. I just thought drinking, having sex, and partying seemed way more fun than being straight laced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

Same here. I'm European so sex at 15 is NBD. I had sex at 16 and was in a LT, loving relationship.

PP here. I got the girl version of a wet dream around 13 and started having multiple orgasms probably 1 month into my first relationship at 16. I've never really masturbated because I love sex with a man. I've also never had a one night stand or short fling nor slept with anyone before dating for at least 1-2 months. I feel sad for women who can't enjoy sex, were forced into unwanted sex, or have self-esteem issues. These problems can happen at 15 and at 20.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD isn't "fast"
She has straight As doesn't drink
She did have a BF starting at age 14 however and began having sex with him at 15
She didn't end up pregnant or grades going down or doing drugs.
She isn't dating him anymore or anyone (covid and not going anywhere).
But they aren't all linked. We have liberal views about sex and dating.
But we don't about drugs or getting wasted or bad grades. So she stays in what we've created as her lane.

You can call it whatever you want, but a child having sex at 15 is fast. That is not healthy age-appropriate behavior based on our societal norms. The fact you’ve decided that’s the lane you’re creating in your household doesn’t change that. Any parent that hears this info about your daughter, and the fact this is an acceptable norm in your household, wouldn’t want their kid anywhere near yours.

Is this for real? A 15 year old having sex with a same age peer she's been in a long term relationship with is very much the definition of age appropriate. Sure, we as parents would like them all to wait until 18, but did any of us wait that long by choice?

Uh, I was barely past the "boys are gross" phase at 15. I had my first crush at around 16. My first kiss at 18. Had sex at 22.
Do fifteen year old girls even orgasm?

What? You think orgasms only occur past a certain age? You are a weirdo.

Why are people on this board so rude? My comment is based on the very sad statistics about women and orgasms. I know plenty of women who were sexually active for years or even decades before they had one.

You talk with your girlfriends about orgasms and masturbation?

Yes. I think adults talking to their friends about sex is far more common than fifteen year olds having great sex, but apparently I’m the weirdo here.
In addition, there is a lot of literature about female sexuality.

NP. I'm a 42 woman who has plenty of times spoke with gfs about whether they had sex with a new guy or if they enjoyed it but I have never asked or been asked anything about orgasms. And I would be very offended if they inquired.

Why?! I talk to my friends about sex. It was pretty shocking to me to find out that a lot of American women cannot orgasms from PIV.

[Anonymous]

From experience, I would say a combination of parenting style, birth order and innate tendencies.
I know the third category may be unusual for most families, but my middle sibling was the wild child of 5 children. She was lost in the shuffle, combined with dysfunctional parenting and natural tendencies to wander.
The older and younger children were pretty much straight laced. The dysfunctional family setup forced most of us to seek extracurricular activities/escape in sports and academics.
Long and short of it is - I don't know that there is a definitive answer, but there are certainly factors. I think even if we didn't have a dysfunctional set of parents, the middle child would have still been 'fast'.

[Anonymous]

Poor parenting.

[Anonymous]

Hard to tell. The growth spurts or maturing comes at different times and at different speeds. I had a classmate who was very childish and immature at 9. She told us that the longer she plays, the longer she stayed young. She found herself all grown or mature looking from 15- 17. She went from party to party and ended up having a child before 18. She had her second child at 30. Her 'maturing' or getting old seemed to have stopped and now at 42, she looks like 32. Nothing to do with her upbringing or family. Her 3 sisters didn't have these speeding ups and slowing downs.