"Fast" kids -- how do they get that way?
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Anonymous
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I'm talking about kids who date young, who seem super mature, experiment with drinking early and so forth.
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Anonymous
Oh this should be interesting. Ones I have seen have had some sort of trauma - one that seems to have the most impact is mother died young. Also just being the youngest child will sometimes do it 
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Anonymous
| Do you think that being mature means dating young and drinking? Because I don't. |
Anonymous
I mean mature in their interests, dress, etc. |
Anonymous
| I think they tend to be kids who have an innately high EQ, such that their parents stop worrying about them and so stop supervising them at a much younger age that is typical. So, while they seem mature and know how to manipulate adults (and others), they do not in fact have fully developed frontal lobes yet, so they do stupid things without getting caught. |
Anonymous
OP, I think you're talking around something, and it's making your post confusing. Do you mean mature as in dressing like an urban 20 year old? Mature as in connecting better with adults? Mature as in wearing revealing clothing? Are you asking why some kids are interested in romantic relationships (or just hooking up) early? Are you asking why some kids drink? Can you describe a "fast" boy? |
Anonymous
| Lack of parenting |
Anonymous
Geez, do you not know the meaning of "fast" in this sense? It is a socially and sexually precocious child--they abandon childish pursuits and "date", drink, and potentially drug, earlier than their peers. No one calls a child who cooks dinner for their family and chit chats comfortably with Grandma's friends "fast". That's just a responsible, mature child. |
Anonymous
| Older siblings for one |
Anonymous
| There is a secret class in fourth grade in which they accelerate the growth impulse. So, that’s where they are taught to want to drink, have sex and vape. It’s all very hush hush and marketed to kids who have been abused or whose parents have divorced. The Koch Brothers fund it. |
Anonymous
| A combination of lax parenting and kids who are lucky enough to avoid a really awkward puberty. |
Anonymous
| I was like this as an adolescent (I first had sex at age 14, I drank and did drugs a lot, had a lot of sex, etc) and when I was 30 I finally figured out that it was because I have Bipolar II disorder. |
Anonymous
Yup. And no supervision, guidance or accountability. Ask me how I know. |
Anonymous
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I think OP is using the word "mature" but doesn't mean that. I think OP means wild.
OP, the wild kids are the ones who think dressing older and drinking and partying MAKES them mature. My daughter didn't drink until her junior year of college, but as a sophomore in high school took mass transit with a friend into NYC for a long weekend and they ran around going to all the museums and two Broadway plays. The girls wouldn't have been allowed to do that if they weren't mature enough to be street smart and make good decisions. |
Anonymous
| Personality. I was supervised as a teen and whatnot, so I was a good girl. However, I turned 18 and my ass belonged to the streets at that point. If it’s in you, it will come out, be it a teenager or later in life. Personality! |