My daughter got beat up for bullying another child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's ironic how many of the critical posters on this thread appear to be full grown bullies themselves!

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It is ironic to read all these posts that include name-calling and promoting violence. Talk about ganging up on someone when they are down. All of you vicious posters need to take a look in the mirror.

[Anonymous]

Did the 13 year old mom call the other child's parents to apologize too or did the parents meet at the school with the other child? I'm surprised the other parents didn't get upset their daughter was suspended.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter is a nasty piece of work. Probably you are too. Hopefully she won't get beaten up again because she will have learned not to bully others.

I applaud the kid who finally stood up for herself and punched your kid, I really do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is a nasty piece of work. Probably you are too. Hopefully she won't get beaten up again because she will have learned not to bully others.

I applaud the kid who finally stood up for herself and punched your kid, I really do.

Pot, meet kettle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's ironic how many of the critical posters on this thread appear to be full grown bullies themselves!

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It is ironic to read all these posts that include name-calling and promoting violence. Talk about ganging up on someone when they are down. All of you vicious posters need to take a look in the mirror.

^This!

[Anonymous]

If you truly care about teaching your daughter to be a better person, you should have her apologize to the other girl for the bullying she and her friends subjected her to. You may also want to talk to your daughter about getting new friends since they seemed to have egged her on to spill the juice on the other girl's lunch, and probably other things as well. These are your daughter's formative years, give her guidance and a roadmap for acceptable behavior, not pity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you are raising a sociopath. Be careful. And take away her phone NOW. You need to monitor her texting and see what she is telling her friends. Also, where is DH in all of this?!?

This is a little far. She's expressed a lot of remorse. I think she'll grow from this. And I'm a single mom. It's just me and her.

Have you taken the phone yet?

Is she remorseful about being in trouble, or remorseful about targeting, scapegoating, and humiliating another child?

I will in the morning. It's a little late where I am. And I think she's remorseful about both. She told me she felt bad about what she did. I'm sure she'll hate me tomorrow. *sigh*

So when she was crying, I couldn't help but hold her. But at the same time I was telling her I was disappointed in her. Do you think this gave her mixed messages? Should I be cold towards her even though she's so upset??

You really do not get it.

When I got in trouble as a kid my mom didn’t hold me when I cried, she STOOD HER GROUND that I was wrong!!!! FFS !!!!!!!! SHE. DID. WRONG. Stop coddling her! My God!

[Anonymous]

She was upset with me this morning when I punished her. But she also told me kids were making fun on social media about the fight. They were "clowning" her were her exact words. Well I took away her phone and laptop so that should make it easy for her to ignore them.

[Anonymous]

OP, did you take your daughter's phone last night? Why are you so weak that you did not take immediately?

She should have no electronic contact with these friends for a month, at least. And you need together into her phone and find all of the ways she communicates with them. She hat she wrote last night. Get to the bottom of this.

Make sure you turn off all wifi in your house for the week. She should have no way to get online, especially if your are not at home.

I would assign your daughter to write a full and co poets confession to everything that she and her friends did to the other child. Everything. She may have no remorse yet so don't push an apology, but I would tell her she had better write down every single mean thing that she *and* her friends have ever done to the girl. Say you are going to call the administration and the girls parents and you will compare what she wrote to what everyone else knows, and if she leaves anything out, whatever her eventual full punishment will be will double.

Call the school and say you believe that the other child's suspension should be reduced.

Take that damn phone and check Kik and any other app that your daughter uses with her friends. You need a gut check - a reality check - about how much of a mean girl your child is. Likely she needs a detox from her horrible friends for a long time, too. Call school and find out which other kids participated in the bullying and forbid her to socialize with them out of school for a long time. I would call their parents, too, and explain why, and apologize for your daughter's behavior and ask their support for also cracking down on the bullying that her group has done. You could ask them if they could ask their kids what they know about the bullying and compare what you learn to your daughter's statement.

Nothing has ever been as important to your child's character development as what you do now. You have a tiny window, possibly, to turn her away from the heartless spoiled person she has become. This is ON YOU.

[Anonymous]

Get her passwords to all social media now. You need to read what they say and what she has been saying. It will teach you a lot about your daughter and her friends.

If she's mad at you, you are doing a better job than you have done until now. Good. Keep it up. Her being mad at you right now means you are doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you take your daughter's phone last night? Why are you so weak that you did not take immediately?

She should have no electronic contact with these friends for a month, at least. And you need together into her phone and find all of the ways she communicates with them. She hat she wrote last night. Get to the bottom of this.

Make sure you turn off all wifi in your house for the week. She should have no way to get online, especially if your are not at home.

I would assign your daughter to write a full and co poets confession to everything that she and her friends did to the other child. Everything. She may have no remorse yet so don't push an apology, but I would tell her she had better write down every single mean thing that she *and* her friends have ever done to the girl. Say you are going to call the administration and the girls parents and you will compare what she wrote to what everyone else knows, and if she leaves anything out, whatever her eventual full punishment will be will double.

Call the school and say you believe that the other child's suspension should be reduced.

Take that damn phone and check Kik and any other app that your daughter uses with her friends. You need a gut check - a reality check - about how much of a mean girl your child is. Likely she needs a detox from her horrible friends for a long time, too. Call school and find out which other kids participated in the bullying and forbid her to socialize with them out of school for a long time. I would call their parents, too, and explain why, and apologize for your daughter's behavior and ask their support for also cracking down on the bullying that her group has done. You could ask them if they could ask their kids what they know about the bullying and compare what you learn to your daughter's statement.

Nothing has ever been as important to your child's character development as what you do now. You have a tiny window, possibly, to turn her away from the heartless spoiled person she has become. This is ON YOU.

I took her phone and laptop this morning. She told me kids were teasing her about getting beat up on social media. Well now she has no acess to that anyways. I'm having her write an apology letter, and she won't go into detail about who the girls were that dared her to pour the juice. I think she's trying to protect them or doesn't want to be a "snitch."

[Anonymous]

Hmm - I posted before, but now with your attitude and your daughter's, I'm wondering if you are both somewhat impaired. Does your daughter have Asperger's? Low IQ?

What I'm getting at is: has she been unduly pressured and bullied herself to make her do what she did? Is she particularly vulnerable to that kind of pressure?

Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

she got what she deserved!!! why are you furious???? your daughter is a bully and weak for allowing her friends to control her!

make her apologize to her and take away her phone and punish her for being so cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Hmm - I posted before, but now with your attitude and your daughter's, I'm wondering if you are both somewhat impaired. Does your daughter have Asperger's? Low IQ?

What I'm getting at is: has she been unduly pressured and bullied herself to make her do what she did? Is she particularly vulnerable to that kind of pressure?

Just a thought.

Um no. My daughter doesn't have any mental disabilities. Are you trying to be funny? She's extremely smart and does really well in her classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you take your daughter's phone last night? Why are you so weak that you did not take immediately?

She should have no electronic contact with these friends for a month, at least. And you need together into her phone and find all of the ways she communicates with them. She hat she wrote last night. Get to the bottom of this.

Make sure you turn off all wifi in your house for the week. She should have no way to get online, especially if your are not at home.

I would assign your daughter to write a full and co poets confession to everything that she and her friends did to the other child. Everything. She may have no remorse yet so don't push an apology, but I would tell her she had better write down every single mean thing that she *and* her friends have ever done to the girl. Say you are going to call the administration and the girls parents and you will compare what she wrote to what everyone else knows, and if she leaves anything out, whatever her eventual full punishment will be will double.

Call the school and say you believe that the other child's suspension should be reduced.

Take that damn phone and check Kik and any other app that your daughter uses with her friends. You need a gut check - a reality check - about how much of a mean girl your child is. Likely she needs a detox from her horrible friends for a long time, too. Call school and find out which other kids participated in the bullying and forbid her to socialize with them out of school for a long time. I would call their parents, too, and explain why, and apologize for your daughter's behavior and ask their support for also cracking down on the bullying that her group has done. You could ask them if they could ask their kids what they know about the bullying and compare what you learn to your daughter's statement.

Nothing has ever been as important to your child's character development as what you do now. You have a tiny window, possibly, to turn her away from the heartless spoiled person she has become. This is ON YOU.

I took her phone and laptop this morning. She told me kids were teasing her about getting beat up on social media. Well now she has no acess to that anyways. I'm having her write an apology letter, and she won't go into detail about who the girls were that dared her to pour the juice. I think she's trying to protect them or doesn't want to be a "snitch."

Then you need to have a talk with the ineffective school counselor and the principal about the culture at the school and the others of the group whom your daughter is now afraid of. Bullying seems to go in many directions. . .