I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you providing financial support for him?

I'm not, but because I have a decent paying job, I'm not hurting him financially like his ex wife did. She didn't work and would max out credit cards and spend money out of their savings and checking shopping for herself. He had to get a separate bank account to put a stop to that.

[Anonymous]

Many idiot women get pregnant to keep a man.
Never works and babies don't save marriages

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Most of those women get pregnant because they want the child, and a family.

It's a win win if it doesn't work out. They still have their family, probably decent child support, minus having to wash some guys socks.

Most know it doesn't keep a man if not all women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you providing financial support for him?

I'm not, but because I have a decent paying job, I'm not hurting him financially like his ex wife did. She didn't work and would max out credit cards and spend money out of their savings and checking shopping for herself. He had to get a separate bank account to put a stop to that.

You don't understand the point. You had no business in their marriage, doesn't matter what this loser told you. If that was truly the case he should have divorced her, then dated. You're just as guilty.

Don't laugh too loud. I know 2 cheaters who did and ended up dying. You coming on here bragging shows the kind of pos you really are, I'm sure your just desserts are on their way.

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Anonymous wrote:He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.

That's nice. I was talking about what happens when YOU do those things. Apparently they were enough reason for him to have an affair once. Why would he stop short of an affair when you "slip" from "keeping him satisfied"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.

That's nice. I was talking about what happens when YOU do those things. Apparently they were enough reason for him to have an affair once. Why would he stop short of an affair when you "slip" from "keeping him satisfied"?

I would never stop.

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Anonymous wrote:He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.

That's nice. I was talking about what happens when YOU do those things. Apparently they were enough reason for him to have an affair once. Why would he stop short of an affair when you "slip" from "keeping him satisfied"?

I would never stop.

I see. Since you have not actually had to experience the situation I described above, I have a hard time taking your assurances that you will never change seriously. I also notice that you didn't answer my question, but instead dismissed the premise. So I'll ask again, if a time should come when you are not able to maintain whatever level of oral sex, housecleaning and cooking keeps your husband satisfied and he steps out on you the same way he did before, will that be your fault?

[Anonymous]

Don't get cancer.

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Who in their right mind wants to continually service a guy to keep him faithful, attend to his needs etc. so he doesn't cheat. I would rather not be with that type of person.

OP you got the booby prize, at least put some good life insurance on him. Otherwise, I tend to think his ex is the one that is the winner here.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and it's really delusional to think any kid even in the best of situations wants two homes. Every kid fantasizes that their parents would be back together. Period. so selfish to even say, but divorced people talk like that all the time. It was a mistake. Own it. Life isn't perfect for anyone.

Oh, I knew somebody who loved two homes. My kid loved having two homes while we were married. Home and the weekend place. Now she has three. She doesn't really love having three. She says she loves having two main homes (plus the weekend place) and two rooms all her own. She'll tell you it is because she has more space for her stuff and time with both parents and isn't that so cool. But the real reason is that our family home before the separation was toxic - so toxic that I once had to ask her if she was thinking of harming herself. OP is an idiot. My divorce was not because of infidelity, but her glibness about the two homes thing is just off the charts.

[Anonymous]

"When a man marries his mistress, he creates a job vacancy."

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Anonymous wrote:He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.

That's nice. I was talking about what happens when YOU do those things. Apparently they were enough reason for him to have an affair once. Why would he stop short of an affair when you "slip" from "keeping him satisfied"?

I would never stop.

Um... you've been married for all of what... 2 yrs? When kids come along, a lot changes in the marriage dynamic. I'm not saying he will do this to you, too, but, you are being naive if you think *I would never stop*. Things change after a while in a marriage. It's normal, and it *will* happen to your marriage.

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I would have a healthy nest egg started he won't find out about. You know you can't trust him. Worst case if it doesn't last you'll be set up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you providing financial support for him?

I'm not, but because I have a decent paying job, I'm not hurting him financially like his ex wife did. She didn't work and would max out credit cards and spend money out of their savings and checking shopping for herself. He had to get a separate bank account to put a stop to that.

Let me get this straight...
Your DH left his AA wife because she was ghetto and now he is financially supported by his white wife? I think I saw that movie!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you guys like to know?

Troll who is likely bored.