I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married? Were you single, or married during said affair? How long was your affair? What prompted his divorce/yours?

2 years, I was single. Our affair was going on for a little over a year. He told his wife he wanted a divorce because he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.

That's so hot! You were able to steal him away. What a slap in her face. Serves her right.

Don't listen to these puritans. You go, girl!!!

[Anonymous]

You're gonna get crucified, OP.

I want to know why you thought starting this thread was a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married? Were you single, or married during said affair? How long was your affair? What prompted his divorce/yours?

2 years, I was single. Our affair was going on for a little over a year. He told his wife he wanted a divorce because he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.

And you were dumb enough to go along with this?

It's not dumb when you're both in love.

He and his wife were in love when they got married, too.

Maybe someday -- not now, two years in, but more like the sixth or seventh year stretch -- your husband will be bored and meet someone else he falls "in love" with. Then you will be older and not quite so pretty. I wonder how you will like this turn of events.

[Anonymous]

There's a typo in the thread title. It should read "I was a deluded asshole, now I'm a deluded exhibitionist asshole."

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?

Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married? Were you single, or married during said affair? How long was your affair? What prompted his divorce/yours?

2 years, I was single. Our affair was going on for a little over a year. He told his wife he wanted a divorce because he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.

That's so hot! You were able to steal him away. What a slap in her face. Serves her right.

Don't listen to these puritans. You go, girl!!!

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Who will cheat first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been married? Were you single, or married during said affair? How long was your affair? What prompted his divorce/yours?

2 years, I was single. Our affair was going on for a little over a year. He told his wife he wanted a divorce because he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.

And you were dumb enough to go along with this?

It's not dumb when you're both in love.

He and his wife were in love when they got married, too.

Maybe someday -- not now, two years in, but more like the sixth or seventh year stretch -- your husband will be bored and meet someone else he falls "in love" with. Then you will be older and not quite so pretty. I wonder how you will like this turn of events.

Actually he only married his ex because she was pregnant. He thought he would end up falling in love with her, but he didn't.

[Anonymous]

Does dh have children with his ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?

Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.

Yeah, that's what they say to your face because people are afraid of conflict and it would be too awkward to share with you what they tell to each other. I have a few cheaters who are friends and family, I'm pleasant to them because it's not my job to be the morality police, but my respect for them has dropped immensely.

[Anonymous]

How long was he married before you met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?

Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.

Yeah, that's what they say to your face because people are afraid of conflict and it would be too awkward to share with you what they tell to each other. I have a few cheaters who are friends and family, I'm pleasant to them because it's not my job to be the morality police, but my respect for them has dropped immensely.

OMG, and the play dates at these crazy family house are such a nightmare to deal with. I wish I could just say, no my kid is not allowed at your crazy house. But I just keep saying "sorry we are busy AGAIN"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're gonna get crucified, OP.

I want to know why you thought starting this thread was a good idea.

Give her 25 years...she won't think it was such a great idea. Just read about Bo Derek's regrets now that she's 58 and how she feels about her role in breaking up Linda Evans' marriage.

[Anonymous]

Your first answer proved you have nothing useful to say.

[Anonymous]

How is the ex-wife taking it? I mean, do you care at all? What did this do to her life, and her kid's life? Not what he tells you, what you see for yourself.