I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

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Anonymous wrote:So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

He didn't leave her for that reason, but he said that was a turn off. If you've ever watched one of those Vh1 reality shows (Love and Hip Hop or Basketball Wives), the women on them pretty much sum up her attitude and behavior.

You don't think stealing a husband is ghetto?

Please explain to me how it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

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So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.

Your husband sounds like a real winner, OP. What happens when you aren't doing those things? Will you blame yourself for him cheating then, or will it be someone else's fault?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

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So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.

Your husband sounds like a real winner, OP. What happens when you aren't doing those things? Will you blame yourself for him cheating then, or will it be someone else's fault?

He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A kid glad they have two homes because their dad beat their mom is totally different than a kid glad their dad cheated and married the AP.

Also, most kids in abuse situations don't have two homes. If the mom actually leaves, dad doesn't see them at all.

You are talking about purely physical abuse....there is more to abuse than "beating mom/the kids", I am currently married to someone who has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has put me through a tremendous amount of emotional and verbal abuse and guess what, I am getting a divorce. My Son will most likely have two homes because it is extremely hard to prove in a court of law this type of abuse, but we will see...however, I feel that I am doing the right thing by my son by getting a divorce. Having him grow up in a toxic household is not "better" and I think when he is older and understands why I had to leave he will be glad that I did not stay with his crazy farther. I think your post is totally ignorant and very black and white. Are you one of those people that walk around saying things like, "oh you should stay, its not like he beats you every day?".....

If your husband is so crazy why procreate with him?
I never understood women like you.

There you go again w/ the whole life is just so black and white thing....some people marry young, they are not as mature, don't realize what is actually happening until it is too late. I think it is wonderful that your life has been so crystal clear and you have never had to face anything like emotional and verbal abuse. I have never understood people so narrow minded as yourself.

You only realized he was a narcissist after you gave birth? Sure.

I heard they were serving up some humble pie later today, I suggest you get off your soap box and get yourself a piece. Also, maybe inform yourself about how abuse works before you pass such judgment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

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So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.

Your husband sounds like a real winner, OP. What happens when you aren't doing those things? Will you blame yourself for him cheating then, or will it be someone else's fault?

He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

He didn't leave her for that reason, but he said that was a turn off. If you've ever watched one of those Vh1 reality shows (Love and Hip Hop or Basketball Wives), the women on them pretty much sum up her attitude and behavior.

You don't think stealing a husband is ghetto?

Please explain to me how it is.

Well uh, it's stealing.

[Anonymous]

OP I bet you have long nails and smell like hair relaxer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

You're evil. You think someone dying is karma for an affair. She was better off without you

I think cheating when someone is fighting for their life is evil. Not the people making observations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

You're evil. You think someone dying is karma for an affair. She was better off without you

I think cheating when someone is fighting for their life is evil. Not the people making observations.

This cunt is doing more than making observations. She's saying someone dying is karma. Twisted fuck

[Anonymous]

Why are you providing financial support for him?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

You're evil. You think someone dying is karma for an affair. She was better off without you

I think cheating when someone is fighting for their life is evil. Not the people making observations.

This cunt is doing more than making observations. She's saying someone dying is karma. Twisted fuck

I'd say getting the same cancer is awfully coincidental or karma-ish. Another observation, you need a big bar of soap for that mouth of yours, lol.

[Anonymous]

One of my inlaws was cheated on after 25 years of marriage. The woman stalked him after her divorce because she was broke. This had been her MO before. We found it out later after researching her. She wanted him, and the house. Horrible woman, he left her and they ended up buying their own house. He was angry because she got the home, half his 401k.

During the ugly divorce he tried to cancel her health insurance. The judge came down hard on him for that. Oddly enough, 7 years later the bimbo died because she didn't get her illness diagnosed much earlier because she didn't have health insurance.

Yes it often comes back around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

You're evil. You think someone dying is karma for an affair. She was better off without you

I think cheating when someone is fighting for their life is evil. Not the people making observations.

This cunt is doing more than making observations. She's saying someone dying is karma. Twisted fuck

Twist f is the cheater. You must be dyslexic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.

Your husband sounds like a real winner, OP. What happens when you aren't doing those things? Will you blame yourself for him cheating then, or will it be someone else's fault?

He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it.

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I bet you have long nails and smell like hair relaxer.

Nope, I hate long nails and I've never relaxed my hair.