Dilemma: Support Son National Sports Championship or Ex’s Wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you marry someone who already has kids, you need to defer to their ability to attend the wedding if you actually want them to attend. It is the first of many, many times when you will be put second, third, or last. That's just how it is when you choose to marry someone who already has a family.

this is so hard for second, third, fourth etc etc wives to grasp, especially when they haven't been married before and feel entitled to their Queen for a Day moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you marry someone who already has kids, you need to defer to their ability to attend the wedding if you actually want them to attend. It is the first of many, many times when you will be put second, third, or last. That's just how it is when you choose to marry someone who already has a family.

Luckily there is, on December 18, 2019, no conflict for the kid’s schedule so, done and done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of contempt for the new wife or not, the kid doesn't want to go. This is a 2nd wedding with a dad that has cut support.

The dad has signaled his priorities already by choosing the date in spite of his child's wishes. I support the child. Let him play.

I don’t think kid has cut support. OP never said that, only that fiancée wants him to which is not unusual

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you marry someone who already has kids, you need to defer to their ability to attend the wedding if you actually want them to attend. It is the first of many, many times when you will be put second, third, or last. That's just how it is when you choose to marry someone who already has a family.

this is so hard for second, third, fourth etc etc wives to grasp, especially when they haven't been married before and feel entitled to their Queen for a Day moment.

Nobody is queen for the day even on the first wedding. GMAFB! Women need to stop acting like the wedding day is the end all be all

[Anonymous]

Always pick the kid. Your EX is a complete a$$. Let the kid go to champs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you marry someone who already has kids, you need to defer to their ability to attend the wedding if you actually want them to attend. It is the first of many, many times when you will be put second, third, or last. That's just how it is when you choose to marry someone who already has a family.

He is able to attend the wedding. There is nothing on his calendar yet. They haven’t qualified for nationals — OP just believes they will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is special about the first date for the fiancee?

Her psychic told her those were her lucky numbers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing is more cringe-y than a second wedding pretending to be a first (real) wedding.

Wow, the bitterness on this board is amazing!! This has nothing to do with the child, this has everything to do with pettiness. Your marriage was "real", but when your ex-husband remarries that is not real??

Not if you take someone's vows seriously "til death do us part"? How humiliating to stand up in front of the same people who watched you promise that the first time, and they are all politely pretending that never happened.

Exactly everybody’s taking bets on the wedding in the back.

A second Money grab and present grab so tacky

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing is more cringe-y than a second wedding pretending to be a first (real) wedding.

Wow, the bitterness on this board is amazing!! This has nothing to do with the child, this has everything to do with pettiness. Your marriage was "real", but when your ex-husband remarries that is not real??

Not if you take someone's vows seriously "til death do us part"? How humiliating to stand up in front of the same people who watched you promise that the first time, and they are all politely pretending that never happened.

Again, that is your "stuff" coming out. Get help, let go of the bitterness from your own divorce. It is embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you marry someone who already has kids, you need to defer to their ability to attend the wedding if you actually want them to attend. It is the first of many, many times when you will be put second, third, or last. That's just how it is when you choose to marry someone who already has a family.

He is able to attend the wedding. There is nothing on his calendar yet. They haven’t qualified for nationals — OP just believes they will.

Nobody really knows if the husband is going to go through with the second marriage so technically that date is just a maybe too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is more cringe-y than a second wedding pretending to be a first (real) wedding.

Wow, the bitterness on this board is amazing!! This has nothing to do with the child, this has everything to do with pettiness. Your marriage was "real", but when your ex-husband remarries that is not real??

Not if you take someone's vows seriously "til death do us part"? How humiliating to stand up in front of the same people who watched you promise that the first time, and they are all politely pretending that never happened.

Again, that is your "stuff" coming out. Get help, let go of the bitterness from your own divorce. It is embarrassing.

Nobody is bitter. Most people think a second wedding is tacky. Why do a big wedding just go get married it’s all about the love. A second wedding is tacky and it’s asking people that already gave you wedding presents to give you wedding presents again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is more cringe-y than a second wedding pretending to be a first (real) wedding.

Wow, the bitterness on this board is amazing!! This has nothing to do with the child, this has everything to do with pettiness. Your marriage was "real", but when your ex-husband remarries that is not real??

Not if you take someone's vows seriously "til death do us part"? How humiliating to stand up in front of the same people who watched you promise that the first time, and they are all politely pretending that never happened.

Again, that is your "stuff" coming out. Get help, let go of the bitterness from your own divorce. It is embarrassing.

Nobody is bitter. Most people think a second wedding is tacky. Why do a big wedding just go get married it’s all about the love. A second wedding is tacky and it’s asking people that already gave you wedding presents to give you wedding presents again.

Oh, ok

[Anonymous]

Championships. The end. Dad and fiance don't care about ds. Nothing but optics to them. This is just plain cruel. Don't give in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect fiance knew the date conflicted and deliberately picked it.

+ 1

She wants to pretend this is a first wedding and marks the start of her family. Her husband’s teen son in all her pictures kind of destroys the fantasy...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is more cringe-y than a second wedding pretending to be a first (real) wedding.

Wow, the bitterness on this board is amazing!! This has nothing to do with the child, this has everything to do with pettiness. Your marriage was "real", but when your ex-husband remarries that is not real??

Not if you take someone's vows seriously "til death do us part"? How humiliating to stand up in front of the same people who watched you promise that the first time, and they are all politely pretending that never happened.

Again, that is your "stuff" coming out. Get help, let go of the bitterness from your own divorce. It is embarrassing.

Nobody is bitter. Most people think a second wedding is tacky. Why do a big wedding just go get married it’s all about the love. A second wedding is tacky and it’s asking people that already gave you wedding presents to give you wedding presents again.

Oh, ok

Sorry. You are clearly having or had a 2nd wedding.