I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Good luck Op! I think a lot of people settle (just read the thread about it) and never find their soul mates. That's probably what happened with your husband. I'm glad you found each other. Everyone deserves to be happy, life is too short to be in an unfulfilled marriage.

[Anonymous]

OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

[Anonymous]

Karma is a myth people. This woman and her husband will likely have the same marriage most of you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karma is a myth people. This woman and her husband will likely have the same marriage most of you have.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A kid glad they have two homes because their dad beat their mom is totally different than a kid glad their dad cheated and married the AP.

Also, most kids in abuse situations don't have two homes. If the mom actually leaves, dad doesn't see them at all.

You are talking about purely physical abuse....there is more to abuse than "beating mom/the kids", I am currently married to someone who has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has put me through a tremendous amount of emotional and verbal abuse and guess what, I am getting a divorce. My Son will most likely have two homes because it is extremely hard to prove in a court of law this type of abuse, but we will see...however, I feel that I am doing the right thing by my son by getting a divorce. Having him grow up in a toxic household is not "better" and I think when he is older and understands why I had to leave he will be glad that I did not stay with his crazy farther. I think your post is totally ignorant and very black and white. Are you one of those people that walk around saying things like, "oh you should stay, its not like he beats you every day?".....

If your husband is so crazy why procreate with him?
I never understood women like you.

There you go again w/ the whole life is just so black and white thing....some people marry young, they are not as mature, don't realize what is actually happening until it is too late. I think it is wonderful that your life has been so crystal clear and you have never had to face anything like emotional and verbal abuse. I have never understood people so narrow minded as yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karma is a myth people. This woman and her husband will likely have the same marriage most of you have.

Karma might be a myth, but statistics and math are not. The numbers say OP and her husband will end up divorced and probably due to his cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A kid glad they have two homes because their dad beat their mom is totally different than a kid glad their dad cheated and married the AP.

Also, most kids in abuse situations don't have two homes. If the mom actually leaves, dad doesn't see them at all.

You are talking about purely physical abuse....there is more to abuse than "beating mom/the kids", I am currently married to someone who has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has put me through a tremendous amount of emotional and verbal abuse and guess what, I am getting a divorce. My Son will most likely have two homes because it is extremely hard to prove in a court of law this type of abuse, but we will see...however, I feel that I am doing the right thing by my son by getting a divorce. Having him grow up in a toxic household is not "better" and I think when he is older and understands why I had to leave he will be glad that I did not stay with his crazy farther. I think your post is totally ignorant and very black and white. Are you one of those people that walk around saying things like, "oh you should stay, its not like he beats you every day?".....

If your husband is so crazy why procreate with him?
I never understood women like you.

There you go again w/ the whole life is just so black and white thing....some people marry young, they are not as mature, don't realize what is actually happening until it is too late. I think it is wonderful that your life has been so crystal clear and you have never had to face anything like emotional and verbal abuse. I have never understood people so narrow minded as yourself.

You only realized he was a narcissist after you gave birth? Sure.

[Anonymous]

So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have any questions, because I already know everything I need to know about your character.

+1 +1!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you suck. The pain you've caused others will return three fold to you.

My friend cheated on her husband while he was going through chemo. We thought she was awful and I cut off the friendship.
Less then a year later she got the same cancer but a much more advanced stage. Now that was bad Karma imo.

You're evil. You think someone dying is karma for an affair. She was better off without you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

He didn't leave her for that reason, but he said that was a turn off. If you've ever watched one of those Vh1 reality shows (Love and Hip Hop or Basketball Wives), the women on them pretty much sum up her attitude and behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

He didn't leave her for that reason, but he said that was a turn off. If you've ever watched one of those Vh1 reality shows (Love and Hip Hop or Basketball Wives), the women on them pretty much sum up her attitude and behavior.

You don't think stealing a husband is ghetto?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So he left his first wife because she was ghetto?

Or someone has accused you of being ghetto so you just proactively say you aren't?

Oh and no one has ever called me ghetto, but she did call me white trash, which I find extremely racist.