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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?
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A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.[/quote][b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol. [/quote]

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.[/quote]

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?[/quote]

I mentioned those first because those were huge arguments between the two of them. He said if she at least did one of the three he probably wouldn't have had an affair.[/quote]

Your husband sounds like a real winner, OP. What happens when you aren't doing those things? Will you blame yourself for him cheating then, or will it be someone else's fault?[/quote]

He won't have to worry about that because I love to cook and clean. Plus I believe in keeping my husband satisfied.[/quote]

Well, good luck with that. I don't think you have any understanding of the way that marriages change after children are born. I'm not saying that this is why your husband's first marriage failed, but when you have an infant child to care for, things like cooking and cleaning and prioritizing blowjobs becomes harder. Many women - myself included - have "slacked" on those fronts at various points post-children.

The reality is that his ex's behavior is only part of the issue here. If he can cheat with you, he can cheat on you. I'm told that it's easier to justify cheating once you've already done it. [/quote]

He said she was like that prior to kids. If he didn't get her pregnant, he never would've married her for those reasons.[/quote]

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