When the kids go to college, I'm out of this loveless and affectionless marriage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Basically, OP complains that his wife has little redeeming value, and the response is that he needs to jump through hoops to "romance" her.

Maybe she could put in a little effort herself.

Actually he said she's a great mother. If a woman had said her DH was a great father but had gained weight and wasn't sexy anymore you would excoriate her and say she should be grateful for such a great man. Such bs.

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bull.fucking.shit

women will just cheat - as many have professed here on multiple threads and have said they do it for the very reason their H is no longer sexy to them - making them no better/no worse. The DCUM hags relentlessly beat up the guy in the course of 10+ pages - if the roles were reversed, and if men had flamed at a female OP, wow, the shit would really hit the fan as the hags would blindly rally around the OP.

OP - go for whatever makes YOU happy.

Right. Any woman who disagrees with you is a hag. And OP should do whatever he wants with no regard for his wife or children. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble with women. And you are totally full of it. No one has encouraged wives to cheat. Most wives don't. We work to make it better or we put the kids first and ourselves last. I'm sure that's unthinkable to you.

yeah, keep dreaming. who's the one in the news today accused of fucking a 15 year old?

Lol. You really want to go there? Go take a look at all the statistics on who is guilty of sex crimes. Men far outright women, in some cases 9 to 1.

[Anonymous]

An interesting thread is degenerating into a shouting match along the gender line.

Let's go back to op's original question.

[Anonymous]

OP bailed out a few pages ago.

[Anonymous]

Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Chicks dig assholes more than nice guys. The friend zone is an actual thing, and it's pretty easy for a husband to take up residence there.

Nooo the friend zone is not an actual thing. It's a misogynistic way of mansplaining away why a woman doesnt like you.

Amen. And I don't know what "chicks" like. I'm not a chick. I'm an adult woman, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend, and a professional. Maybe this ahole would do better if he didn't view women with such disdain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically, OP complains that his wife has little redeeming value, and the response is that he needs to jump through hoops to "romance" her.

Maybe she could put in a little effort herself.

Actually he said she's a great mother. If a woman had said her DH was a great father but had gained weight and wasn't sexy anymore you would excoriate her and say she should be grateful for such a great man. Such bs.

x200000000

bull.fucking.shit

women will just cheat - as many have professed here on multiple threads and have said they do it for the very reason their H is no longer sexy to them - making them no better/no worse. The DCUM hags relentlessly beat up the guy in the course of 10+ pages - if the roles were reversed, and if men had flamed at a female OP, wow, the shit would really hit the fan as the hags would blindly rally around the OP.

OP - go for whatever makes YOU happy.

Right. Any woman who disagrees with you is a hag. And OP should do whatever he wants with no regard for his wife or children. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble with women. And you are totally full of it. No one has encouraged wives to cheat. Most wives don't. We work to make it better or we put the kids first and ourselves last. I'm sure that's unthinkable to you.

yeah, keep dreaming. who's the one in the news today accused of fucking a 15 year old?

Right, because when men do it it isn't even newsworthy. Are you honestly claiming that women cheat more than men? Good luck backing that up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

Actually, no. We have a great sex life, now. But for 2-3 years when the kids were little? Nope. Good when it happened, but not nearly frequent enough -- and it WAS me saying no. But thank GOD my DH is nothing like these losers spouting their childish, selfish, pathetic misogynistic crap. I could never respect someone like that. He saw it as our problem, and worked to try to help me get back to where we needed to be. Just like I worked with him when he had a hard time in another area of life. How do you not take care of the mother of your children? What kind of man behaves like that? She's going through something, so you bail. Nice vows. That's not a man. THat's not even an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chicks dig assholes more than nice guys. The friend zone is an actual thing, and it's pretty easy for a husband to take up residence there.

Nooo the friend zone is not an actual thing. It's a misogynistic way of mansplaining away why a woman doesnt like you.

Amen. And I don't know what "chicks" like. I'm not a chick. I'm an adult woman, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend, and a professional. Maybe this ahole would do better if he didn't view women with such disdain.

He probably would. Unfortunately for him, he thinks that women are only sex receptacles for getting his dick wet. Mother, friend, daughter, professional... all these titles mean nothing compared to her ability to get him off. And when a woman refuses to allow him to have a sexual relationship with her, this is a grave injustice that must be whined about nonstop and the woman slandered and all her flaws (that have led her to this crisis of not having sex with him) explored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically, OP complains that his wife has little redeeming value, and the response is that he needs to jump through hoops to "romance" her.

Maybe she could put in a little effort herself.

Actually he said she's a great mother. If a woman had said her DH was a great father but had gained weight and wasn't sexy anymore you would excoriate her and say she should be grateful for such a great man. Such bs.

x200000000

bull.fucking.shit

women will just cheat - as many have professed here on multiple threads and have said they do it for the very reason their H is no longer sexy to them - making them no better/no worse. The DCUM hags relentlessly beat up the guy in the course of 10+ pages - if the roles were reversed, and if men had flamed at a female OP, wow, the shit would really hit the fan as the hags would blindly rally around the OP.

OP - go for whatever makes YOU happy.

Right. Any woman who disagrees with you is a hag. And OP should do whatever he wants with no regard for his wife or children. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble with women. And you are totally full of it. No one has encouraged wives to cheat. Most wives don't. We work to make it better or we put the kids first and ourselves last. I'm sure that's unthinkable to you.

yeah, keep dreaming. who's the one in the news today accused of fucking a 15 year old?

Right, because when men do it it isn't even newsworthy. Are you honestly claiming that women cheat more than men? Good luck backing that up.

nope, it's the haggish women here who believe that they, and all women, can do no wrong. that whatever is wrong with the world is a man's fault. fascinating that even you had turn that horrific news item around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically, OP complains that his wife has little redeeming value, and the response is that he needs to jump through hoops to "romance" her.

Maybe she could put in a little effort herself.

Actually he said she's a great mother. If a woman had said her DH was a great father but had gained weight and wasn't sexy anymore you would excoriate her and say she should be grateful for such a great man. Such bs.

x200000000

bull.fucking.shit

women will just cheat - as many have professed here on multiple threads and have said they do it for the very reason their H is no longer sexy to them - making them no better/no worse. The DCUM hags relentlessly beat up the guy in the course of 10+ pages - if the roles were reversed, and if men had flamed at a female OP, wow, the shit would really hit the fan as the hags would blindly rally around the OP.

OP - go for whatever makes YOU happy.

Right. Any woman who disagrees with you is a hag. And OP should do whatever he wants with no regard for his wife or children. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble with women. And you are totally full of it. No one has encouraged wives to cheat. Most wives don't. We work to make it better or we put the kids first and ourselves last. I'm sure that's unthinkable to you.

yeah, keep dreaming. who's the one in the news today accused of fucking a 15 year old?

Right, because when men do it it isn't even newsworthy. Are you honestly claiming that women cheat more than men? Good luck backing that up.

nope, it's the haggish women here who believe that they, and all women, can do no wrong. that whatever is wrong with the world is a man's fault. fascinating that even you had turn that horrific news item around.

OMG! You are on a board called DCUM for DC URBAN MOMS!!! If you dont like women defending women, GET THE FUCK OUT. >>>>> Seriously. Quit whining. You sound like a basement dwelling neckbeard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

Actually, no. We have a great sex life, now. But for 2-3 years when the kids were little? Nope. Good when it happened, but not nearly frequent enough -- and it WAS me saying no. But thank GOD my DH is nothing like these losers spouting their childish, selfish, pathetic misogynistic crap. I could never respect someone like that. He saw it as our problem, and worked to try to help me get back to where we needed to be. Just like I worked with him when he had a hard time in another area of life. How do you not take care of the mother of your children? What kind of man behaves like that? She's going through something, so you bail. Nice vows. That's not a man. THat's not even an adult.

NP - and what do you say about the woman who wants to divorce her ill husband? instead of picking stupid fights, why can't you verbally abuse her on that thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

Actually, no. We have a great sex life, now. But for 2-3 years when the kids were little? Nope. Good when it happened, but not nearly frequent enough -- and it WAS me saying no. But thank GOD my DH is nothing like these losers spouting their childish, selfish, pathetic misogynistic crap. I could never respect someone like that. He saw it as our problem, and worked to try to help me get back to where we needed to be. Just like I worked with him when he had a hard time in another area of life. How do you not take care of the mother of your children? What kind of man behaves like that? She's going through something, so you bail. Nice vows. That's not a man. THat's not even an adult.

NP - and what do you say about the woman who wants to divorce her ill husband? instead of picking stupid fights, why can't you verbally abuse her on that thread?

But its so fun to sit here and watch you attempt to verbally abuse any female who comes on...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

Actually, no. We have a great sex life, now. But for 2-3 years when the kids were little? Nope. Good when it happened, but not nearly frequent enough -- and it WAS me saying no. But thank GOD my DH is nothing like these losers spouting their childish, selfish, pathetic misogynistic crap. I could never respect someone like that. He saw it as our problem, and worked to try to help me get back to where we needed to be. Just like I worked with him when he had a hard time in another area of life. How do you not take care of the mother of your children? What kind of man behaves like that? She's going through something, so you bail. Nice vows. That's not a man. THat's not even an adult.

But you were trying. OP's wife doesn't even sound like she is trying. It also sounds like it's been more than 24 months for OP and his wife.

There is a big difference between something that is a long dry spell that has an end and the death of intimacy in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically, OP complains that his wife has little redeeming value, and the response is that he needs to jump through hoops to "romance" her.

Maybe she could put in a little effort herself.

Actually he said she's a great mother. If a woman had said her DH was a great father but had gained weight and wasn't sexy anymore you would excoriate her and say she should be grateful for such a great man. Such bs.

x200000000

bull.fucking.shit

women will just cheat - as many have professed here on multiple threads and have said they do it for the very reason their H is no longer sexy to them - making them no better/no worse. The DCUM hags relentlessly beat up the guy in the course of 10+ pages - if the roles were reversed, and if men had flamed at a female OP, wow, the shit would really hit the fan as the hags would blindly rally around the OP.

OP - go for whatever makes YOU happy.

Right. Any woman who disagrees with you is a hag. And OP should do whatever he wants with no regard for his wife or children. Gee, I wonder why you have trouble with women. And you are totally full of it. No one has encouraged wives to cheat. Most wives don't. We work to make it better or we put the kids first and ourselves last. I'm sure that's unthinkable to you.

yeah, keep dreaming. who's the one in the news today accused of fucking a 15 year old?

Right, because when men do it it isn't even newsworthy. Are you honestly claiming that women cheat more than men? Good luck backing that up.

nope, it's the haggish women here who believe that they, and all women, can do no wrong. that whatever is wrong with the world is a man's fault. fascinating that even you had turn that horrific news item around.

Oh, ok. I see. You can't support the statement that most women cheat. So instead it's "most women on DCUM cheat". Ok. OR just "most women who think this guy is a loser cheat". Well, here's a data point for you -- I think you and this guy are big time losers, and I have never cheated and never would. Despite many opportunities. Happily married, to an actual good man who I respect and who respects me. Who would never leave me for gaining weight or going through a dry spell. Because we're in it for real. And because we put our kids before ourselves. And we put each other before ourselves. WE simply do the best we can every freaking day. But go with your narrative that because I think that a man just blaming his wife for the lack of sex and saying he secretly plans to leave her is wrong, then clearly I'm a hag and a cheater. Naturally. It can't be at all that I just have standards that are higher than that.
If you were at all honest with yourself, you should examine your issues with women. Because this "they're just hags" approach has a name. It's misogyny. And I bet it's interfering with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woah...OP really steuck a nerve. 13 pages.

Me thinks many of you who are so upset are the spouse who is dead between the legs.

Actually, no. We have a great sex life, now. But for 2-3 years when the kids were little? Nope. Good when it happened, but not nearly frequent enough -- and it WAS me saying no. But thank GOD my DH is nothing like these losers spouting their childish, selfish, pathetic misogynistic crap. I could never respect someone like that. He saw it as our problem, and worked to try to help me get back to where we needed to be. Just like I worked with him when he had a hard time in another area of life. How do you not take care of the mother of your children? What kind of man behaves like that? She's going through something, so you bail. Nice vows. That's not a man. THat's not even an adult.

NP - and what do you say about the woman who wants to divorce her ill husband? instead of picking stupid fights, why can't you verbally abuse her on that thread?

"Verbal abuse"? My, someone's fragile. I didn't read that thread. It sounds like you're trying to pick a stupid fight. If someone is leaving her husband because he's ill, that's really crappy. Not controversial. Your point? That some women suck? Um, duh.