Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?

[Anonymous]

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I figured…lol

Where. I know a couple of places that are really good. Depending on where you live I’d point you in the right direction. One is a larger barn with schooling horses, has boarding and options to show if you ever get into that. Adult only groups for beginners and advanced alike. If you’re a male there are other male riders here that are beginners, intermediate and advanced. If you’re a female there is of course plenty of female riders.

The other one is smaller but a trainer I’ve known for a long time who lives, breaths and sleeps horses and she’s a good trainer with a small contingent of adult riders of different skill levels. I know the riders there too and they’re all mostly nice.

If you’re looking really far out I know of places in The Plains/Middleburg area that are ok. And if you want to give a hand at fox hunting I know another place.

Anyways let me know.

DP. I'm looking for suggestions coming from Burke. COTH was not helpful and I never found a lesson program that worked for me.

What is COTH?

Chronicle of the Horse forums. They were useful in the early 2010s but less so today, hence why I'm still on the lookout for a barn with decent school horses without a soul-crushing drive.

Trinity in Laurel is good for dressage. Smaller barn, not as well known. The owner trained under Nuno.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH: doesn’t read, loves horses, and, inexplicably, pigeons

ME: totally into anime and sci-fi

As a couple we would repulse everyone on this thread 😂🤣😂🤣

I love this! It's like two alien species merged and lived happily ever after.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Or people who are always on their earbuds and wear their earbuds 99% of the time, so you can't even tell if they can hear you at all. It's such an annoying, primarily male habit. Any conversation whatsoever requires effort to get their attention, a long pause while they turn it off, then they go "whaaat?". It's tedious and it's a way that they avoid interacting.

You seem exceptionally dim.

Try riding the metro and see how many females have earbuds in the entire time. Or anywhere else in public for that matter.

Women do earbuds on public transportation and in public because they want to avoid interacting with strangers, especially strange men, and especially anyone who calls them "females".

I'm talking about men who constantly wear earbuds around their own home to avoid their family.

Maybe you’re just not very interesting. And you’re probably annoying as well. No wonder he doesn’t want to hear you.

Indeed, a lot of what I have to say is not that interesting. But I'm not willing to do all of the parenting and all of the chores myself while never speaking to my husband, so what choice do I have? He's got the children trained that getting his attention will be a tedious chore in itself, so they come to me for everything, and it's unfair to me and to them.

He is training your children to be independent and self-sufficient. This is good parenting! Get with the program, stop undermining him, and start wearing earbuds yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I figured…lol

Where. I know a couple of places that are really good. Depending on where you live I’d point you in the right direction. One is a larger barn with schooling horses, has boarding and options to show if you ever get into that. Adult only groups for beginners and advanced alike. If you’re a male there are other male riders here that are beginners, intermediate and advanced. If you’re a female there is of course plenty of female riders.

The other one is smaller but a trainer I’ve known for a long time who lives, breaths and sleeps horses and she’s a good trainer with a small contingent of adult riders of different skill levels. I know the riders there too and they’re all mostly nice.

If you’re looking really far out I know of places in The Plains/Middleburg area that are ok. And if you want to give a hand at fox hunting I know another place.

Anyways let me know.

DP. I'm looking for suggestions coming from Burke. COTH was not helpful and I never found a lesson program that worked for me.

Hunter/Jumper?
HMC Equestrian in Centreville is a good program, and beginner to advanced adult groups.

Morningside ii don’t know about but know someone who went there. They like it.

Tamarack is in Lorton but don’t know much about them. I have been contacted by riders from there looking to expand their skillset.

Mulford isn’t good for adults. I know adults who have left for other places, same reason as above.


Depends on your goals.

As for dressage not too up to speed at that but Compass Rose does it..

If you’re looking to show at any point even if it’s a small show for fun HMC and Black Horse (although that is a drive) are good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I figured…lol

Where. I know a couple of places that are really good. Depending on where you live I’d point you in the right direction. One is a larger barn with schooling horses, has boarding and options to show if you ever get into that. Adult only groups for beginners and advanced alike. If you’re a male there are other male riders here that are beginners, intermediate and advanced. If you’re a female there is of course plenty of female riders.

The other one is smaller but a trainer I’ve known for a long time who lives, breaths and sleeps horses and she’s a good trainer with a small contingent of adult riders of different skill levels. I know the riders there too and they’re all mostly nice.

If you’re looking really far out I know of places in The Plains/Middleburg area that are ok. And if you want to give a hand at fox hunting I know another place.

Anyways let me know.

DP. I'm looking for suggestions coming from Burke. COTH was not helpful and I never found a lesson program that worked for me.

Hunter/Jumper?
HMC Equestrian in Centreville is a good program, and beginner to advanced adult groups.

Morningside ii don’t know about but know someone who went there. They like it.

Tamarack is in Lorton but don’t know much about them. I have been contacted by riders from there looking to expand their skillset.

Mulford isn’t good for adults. I know adults who have left for other places, same reason as above.


Depends on your goals.

As for dressage not too up to speed at that but Compass Rose does it..

If you’re looking to show at any point even if it’s a small show for fun HMC and Black Horse (although that is a drive) are good.

Newer to the sport and have had a wonderful experience at Fitzgerald Stables.

[Anonymous]

Ren Fairs
Comicon
Bible study

[Anonymous]

Anything horse related. 😬

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I figured…lol

Where. I know a couple of places that are really good. Depending on where you live I’d point you in the right direction. One is a larger barn with schooling horses, has boarding and options to show if you ever get into that. Adult only groups for beginners and advanced alike. If you’re a male there are other male riders here that are beginners, intermediate and advanced. If you’re a female there is of course plenty of female riders.

The other one is smaller but a trainer I’ve known for a long time who lives, breaths and sleeps horses and she’s a good trainer with a small contingent of adult riders of different skill levels. I know the riders there too and they’re all mostly nice.

If you’re looking really far out I know of places in The Plains/Middleburg area that are ok. And if you want to give a hand at fox hunting I know another place.

Anyways let me know.

DP. I'm looking for suggestions coming from Burke. COTH was not helpful and I never found a lesson program that worked for me.

Hunter/Jumper?
HMC Equestrian in Centreville is a good program, and beginner to advanced adult groups.

Morningside ii don’t know about but know someone who went there. They like it.

Tamarack is in Lorton but don’t know much about them. I have been contacted by riders from there looking to expand their skillset.

Mulford isn’t good for adults. I know adults who have left for other places, same reason as above.


Depends on your goals.

As for dressage not too up to speed at that but Compass Rose does it..

If you’re looking to show at any point even if it’s a small show for fun HMC and Black Horse (although that is a drive) are good.

Newer to the sport and have had a wonderful experience at Fitzgerald Stables.

They’re far out.

[Anonymous]

Never experienced a healthy, legal and safe hobby that was a dealbreaker. I think it's more about how much time & $$ is being spent on said hobby that can become the issue.

[Anonymous]

“Gaming”. 🤮

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ren Fairs
Comicon
Bible study

As I guy I agree.

Ren Fsir girls are usually overweight and weird.

Comicon women are either thirst traps that post their sl*tty outfits on social media for attention or they’re gross nerds with blue hair and sweat stains. If they’re attractive women they have an army of simps that follow them.

Bible study - self explanatory. Although my friend used to pick up girls from bible study all the time in college. He was Jewish which made it even funnier. I have no problems with people going to church and stuff, just not my thing. If you go that’s cool but I won’t be going to that or bible study.


I’m also going to add Disney fans to the list. Disney itself is a crap company but if you’re into all that Disney stuff it’s just weird. I out that in the anime camp. Both are just weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LARPing

I am going to have to disagree with this one. DH was very much into LARPing and in 2020, with nothing else to do, I explored it with him. Most of our time during shutdown was spent in our garage building our costumes and other assemblages. Now that we no longer have to worry about Covid contamination thanks to being fully vaxxed, most of our free time revolves around LARPing. Try it, you might enjoy it!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LARPing

I am going to have to disagree with this one. DH was very much into LARPing and in 2020, with nothing else to do, I explored it with him. Most of our time during shutdown was spent in our garage building our costumes and other assemblages. Now that we no longer have to worry about Covid contamination thanks to being fully vaxxed, most of our free time revolves around LARPing. Try it, you might enjoy it!!

Does it ever end in roleplay?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ren Fairs
Comicon
Bible study

As I guy I agree.

Ren Fsir girls are usually overweight and weird.

Comicon women are either thirst traps that post their sl*tty outfits on social media for attention or they’re gross nerds with blue hair and sweat stains. If they’re attractive women they have an army of simps that follow them.

Bible study - self explanatory. Although my friend used to pick up girls from bible study all the time in college. He was Jewish which made it even funnier. I have no problems with people going to church and stuff, just not my thing. If you go that’s cool but I won’t be going to that or bible study.


I’m also going to add Disney fans to the list. Disney itself is a crap company but if you’re into all that Disney stuff it’s just weird. I out that in the anime camp. Both are just weird

Wondering which of these is true about this PP:

1. He's never actually been to any ren fair, comic con or Bible study and has never actually interacted closely with people (women or men) who do those things. So he bases all this stereotyped blather above on what he thinks he sees on social media and what other cool boys tell him to think.

2. He's been to a ren fair or a comic con (I'm wagering he's never gone near a Bible study). Maybe even is into those hobbies (but afraid to admit it here). And he's the "gatekeeping" kind, who believes he knows The One Right Way To Be in those worlds, and being female is not that right way. Lots of nasty gatekeeping used to be present in comic con/cosplay/gaming in particular, from certain men who expect women in those spaces to behave in specific ways palatable to men who think they own those worlds, or at least, who think they should run those worlds. I'm NOT saying that all, or even many, men who are into ren fairs and/or comic cons are gatekeepers--that's not true (any more) and I don't deal in broad, ugly stereotypes like PP. But such gatekeeping men in those hobbies definitely do still exist. But I'm wagering PP is in the "Never done any of the above, but still have a strong opinion about those who do!" camp.

Not touching his Disney slam because I just don't know or care enough about "Disney adults" to opine on them. But clearly, this PP knows quite a few personally, since he's weighing in with his informed, expert opinion...right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.