Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?

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Anonymous wrote:Is my motorcycle the reason I am single 😞?

Motorcycles are a red flag.

Why? I'm a rider.

I have two separate friends in two different accidents lose limbs and then died. It was gruesome. I also have two other friends who nearly died in accidents. They are all super experienced and safe riders. Motorcycles terrify me.

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Here to check if my husband posted about my knitting and giant yarn collection 😁

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Anonymous wrote:Here to check if my husband posted about my knitting and giant yarn collection 😁

Good point. I tell DH that my hobbies (mostly paper crafting and card making) are messy but fun and quite literally keep me sane and relaxed. He looks the other way knowing that eventually I vacuum and re-organize my ever changing crafting area.

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Outlander
Instagram influencers

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Social media attention seeking maniacs...but doesn't that describe 90% of women under 35?

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Porn and sports betting.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a football fan obsessively and caring too much. As if their athleticism somehow transfers to your couch-shaped ass, as if you're represented by them. As if CTE doesn't exist. It's tacky.

I judge people who feel this way as having a small brain. It is a stupid take. Wait until in game betting becomes mainstream. People born today will wonder why we watched others play sports w/o it

I watch sports when my teams play, otherwise not interested. I can’t just watch to watch.

I do get passionate about sports from my home state or town though. I even coach so yeah, really into it.

I find people who lack any passion are usually boring and not very intelligent . And no, your photography “business” and instagram isn’t a hobby, it’s a time waster. At least if I’m watching football at home I’m not wasting money.

But to each their own.

The problem with men who watch professional sports is it’s a giant red-flag for toxic masculinity. Don’t invite those type of men into your life!

I’m seeing lots of toxic femininity here

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! Nothing screams rich daddies girl than a young woman who owns horse. Im sorry I know it's a generalization, but every women I've ever met who owned a horse has been very self-involved and completely out of touch with reality in regards to money and budgeting.

I’m a horse guy and I stayed away from dating most horse girls. I love them as friends, not dating so much. Which is hard because a lot of them are attractive but they’re also no dating material for me at least.

And while there is plenty of gay male riders there is more straight ones than you think.

Non-horse female here looking for a horse guy. Where do we go to find all the straight guys who ride?

Probably the barn? I mean unless they have horses in their back yard

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! Nothing screams rich daddies girl than a young woman who owns horse. Im sorry I know it's a generalization, but every women I've ever met who owned a horse has been very self-involved and completely out of touch with reality in regards to money and budgeting.

I’m a horse guy and I stayed away from dating most horse girls. I love them as friends, not dating so much. Which is hard because a lot of them are attractive but they’re also no dating material for me at least.

And while there is plenty of gay male riders there is more straight ones than you think.

Straight male who also rides horses. I’m currently “seeing” someone who rides at my barn. Probably the last time I date a female who rides. She is crazy and one of the most selfish people I’ve met. Trying to figure out my next steps. Just because someone “looks good” doesn’t mean they are a good GF or wife material.

I’m not PP but also a male rider. Bruh, why would you date a woman from your barn? Why? Never do that. I mean I get it, but don’t. If you want to date an equestrian find one who rides somewhere else. Just do your thing and build your partnership with your horse. I mean I know mares can be good one minute and not the next, but still less drama than dating a rider from your barn.

If she’s a trainer even worse my guy. I wouldn’t need the person I’m dating to be judging my two-point or my seat. Hahaha in fact that would be horrible!

Can’t offer advice on how to break up but can offer another barn to ride at if you’re in the DMV area in VA. Unless you’re at my barn in which case I’m gonna have to know who you are because this sounds like popcorn eating material

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! Nothing screams rich daddies girl than a young woman who owns horse. Im sorry I know it's a generalization, but every women I've ever met who owned a horse has been very self-involved and completely out of touch with reality in regards to money and budgeting.

I’m a horse guy and I stayed away from dating most horse girls. I love them as friends, not dating so much. Which is hard because a lot of them are attractive but they’re also no dating material for me at least.

And while there is plenty of gay male riders there is more straight ones than you think.

Straight male who also rides horses. I’m currently “seeing” someone who rides at my barn. Probably the last time I date a female who rides. She is crazy and one of the most selfish people I’ve met. Trying to figure out my next steps. Just because someone “looks good” doesn’t mean they are a good GF or wife material.

I’m not PP but also a male rider. Bruh, why would you date a woman from your barn? Why? Never do that. I mean I get it, but don’t. If you want to date an equestrian find one who rides somewhere else. Just do your thing and build your partnership with your horse. I mean I know mares can be good one minute and not the next, but still less drama than dating a rider from your barn.

If she’s a trainer even worse my guy. I wouldn’t need the person I’m dating to be judging my two-point or my seat. Hahaha in fact that would be horrible!

Can’t offer advice on how to break up but can offer another barn to ride at if you’re in the DMV area in VA. Unless you’re at my barn in which case I’m gonna have to know who you are because this sounds like popcorn eating material

I’m PP…maybe stick it out for a couple of months if she can teach you how to effectively manage your stride count and frame up properly. I mean that takes a while to learn and if You get one on one with her than just do it. Then break up.

I’m joking…or am I??

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! Nothing screams rich daddies girl than a young woman who owns horse. Im sorry I know it's a generalization, but every women I've ever met who owned a horse has been very self-involved and completely out of touch with reality in regards to money and budgeting.

I’m a horse guy and I stayed away from dating most horse girls. I love them as friends, not dating so much. Which is hard because a lot of them are attractive but they’re also no dating material for me at least.

And while there is plenty of gay male riders there is more straight ones than you think.

Straight male who also rides horses. I’m currently “seeing” someone who rides at my barn. Probably the last time I date a female who rides. She is crazy and one of the most selfish people I’ve met. Trying to figure out my next steps. Just because someone “looks good” doesn’t mean they are a good GF or wife material.

I’m not PP but also a male rider. Bruh, why would you date a woman from your barn? Why? Never do that. I mean I get it, but don’t. If you want to date an equestrian find one who rides somewhere else. Just do your thing and build your partnership with your horse. I mean I know mares can be good one minute and not the next, but still less drama than dating a rider from your barn.

If she’s a trainer even worse my guy. I wouldn’t need the person I’m dating to be judging my two-point or my seat. Hahaha in fact that would be horrible!

Can’t offer advice on how to break up but can offer another barn to ride at if you’re in the DMV area in VA. Unless you’re at my barn in which case I’m gonna have to know who you are because this sounds like popcorn eating material

The whole thing really is popcorn worthy and I need to work my way out of the situation. There are not any straight males where I ride so maybe I should change barns. Lots of married ladies my age (40's) and little kids. Not much in-between.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with those saying watching sports. If your partner wants to spend all Sunday watching football then forget it. It's one thing to watch the Super Bowl or some other game like that but that's a once a year thing. I still don't watch the Super Bowl and am proud to say I don't know who won or even played in it this year.

Good Lord.

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Anonymous wrote:Wondering if anyone out there has ever ended a relationship with someone because of a particular hobby, and what it was? The exceptions being anything dangerous or illegal.

I dated a guy for about a year who was really into marathons, and his training came before everything. Family, friends, our relationship, nothing was more important than his training schedule, and I realized that he wasn't ready to sacrifice any aspect of his hobby as we became more serious. I also briefly dated a guy who was very into collecting vintage action figures, and while it thought it was a little cool at first, his apartment looked like the guys place in the movie "40 Year Old Virgin". No thanks...

Intense hobbies often work for a non-parenting couple. But, should children enter the picture, the expectations around hobbies often changes.

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Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily a deal breaker, but triathlons, marathon running, and golf are all very big-time sucks, so I'd proceed with caution. It cost one friend a marriage because she was so obsessive about her training that she neglected her kids, marriage, and job.

This happened to a friend of mine. His wife was very into triathlons and cycling. She was obsessed and would plan everything around her training sessions. Eventually she had an affair with another cyclist and divorced my friend.

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Anonymous wrote:Social media attention seeking maniacs...but doesn't that describe 90% of women under 35?

Social media is so toxic!