Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
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Anonymous
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Wondering if anyone out there has ever ended a relationship with someone because of a particular hobby, and what it was? The exceptions being anything dangerous or illegal.
I dated a guy for about a year who was really into marathons, and his training came before everything. Family, friends, our relationship, nothing was more important than his training schedule, and I realized that he wasn't ready to sacrifice any aspect of his hobby as we became more serious. I also briefly dated a guy who was very into collecting vintage action figures, and while it thought it was a little cool at first, his apartment looked like the guys place in the movie "40 Year Old Virgin". No thanks... |
Anonymous
| Triathlons. CrossFit. Anime. Golf. Cheese making. |
Anonymous
| motorcycling |
Anonymous
| Wow, interesting timing for this thread for me! I just had a date last night with a man who said he loves rail fanning. He didn't get too into details, but it seems like they're people who spend time watching trains. Should this be a red flag? |
Anonymous
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Motocross
Freshwater Fishing ALL day in a boat. |
Anonymous
One of these I do and my DH loves that I’m really good at it. I think all day online gaming would be a dealbreaker for me. |
Anonymous
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Bicycling
High altitude mountain climbing |
Anonymous
If you don’t like nerds, then yes. I like nerds and think this is adorable. Model railroads, model rockets, and painting fantasy figurines are also green lights for me. Everyone likes something different, and thank goodness! The only things that deal breakers are the things YOU don’t want in a partner. And that’s cool. Let him go to find somebody who loves training for marathons or weather chasing or whatever. |
Anonymous
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Obsessive biking
Morris dancing |
Anonymous
| Network tv dramas. |
Anonymous
| Posting on message boards. Don't want to date anyone more online than I am. |
Anonymous
| I don’t care what the hobby is, I care about the level of obsessiveness. I do actually want someone who cares about their hobby so fantasy figurines, CrossFit, whatever are all good with me — it makes people interesting and they’ll understand why I want to do my hobbies too. I can’t stand people whose hobbies are things like reading and hanging out with friends and listening to music which imo are just. Things everyone does. But I also don’t want to be with someone whose hobbies are more important to them than their relationships and who can’t see the value in things other period want to do/think their partner should always prioritize their hobby. |
Anonymous
| Anything that requires 3+ hours to do, they do it at least once a week and it takes priority over all else. Golf, marathons, gaming, college sports viewing… doesn’t matter what it is, if they refuse to attend another event because ‘the game is on, I’m almost at the next level, I always golf at 6, ….’ I’m out. |
Anonymous
This. This is exactly what I was going to say. I have briefly dated two obsessive hobbyists (different hobbies). Never again. |
Anonymous
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Underwater basket weaving
Unicycle hockey Zorbing Toe wrestling Chess boxing |