Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?

[Anonymous]

Video games
Dungeons and Dragons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.

We do it less now with kids, but my wife and I had a blast playing D&D with friends in our 20s and early 30s. She's a great DM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.

In my experience, unless you’re talking about basic stuff like Sorry, tabletop gamers are rigid, legalistic, argumentative, obsessed with minutiae and that spills over into their every day personality. Hard pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.

I meant video games- not board games.

Also, Disney is an immediate ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.

In my experience, unless you’re talking about basic stuff like Sorry, tabletop gamers are rigid, legalistic, argumentative, obsessed with minutiae and that spills over into their every day personality. Hard pass.

Then your experience is outdated and/or limited to certain games. My DC just GM'd multiple sessions of a new game that is the antithesis of "rigid, legalistic, argumentative" etc. There are lots of new games in recent years which are not remotely like you're recalling, and are cooperative and highly flexible.

It's quite narrow-minded and, well, rigid of you, to insist you know that every game beyond "Sorry" is a certain way....I'm not saying you have to play, but I'm noting you are stuck on some pretty narrow stereotypes here. Your experience in the past may have been poor but that doesn't mean every person who currently plays tabletop roleplaying games is like you're assuming, or that the games themselves are stuck in that rut these days.

[Anonymous]

Losers....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Video games
Dungeons and Dragons

Pro tip: don't date teenage boys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
In my experience, unless you’re talking about basic stuff like Sorry, tabletop gamers are rigid, legalistic, argumentative, obsessed with minutiae and that spills over into their every day personality. Hard pass.

Dating lawyers is a hard pass for you, too, right? Don't blame you. They can't leave their "lawyer personality" at the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Video games
Dungeons and Dragons

Pro tip: don't date teenage boys

Showing your age, Grammy.

[Anonymous]

Women who are obsessed with social media, parasocial relationships with celebrities, and consuming true crime media of any kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Gaming”. 🤮

Video games? Definitely can be a dealbreaker, if the person spends all his or her time staring at a screen rather than engaging with others.

But if you mean tabletop roleplaying games--? Whole different world. A lot of couples play these games as their mutual hobby and as a way to spend screen-free time with friends. And it's a booming world. My young adult DC is starting to get paid to be a game master for various gaming companies. It's a fantastically creative hobby, and for some, can be a little side gig too.

In my experience, unless you’re talking about basic stuff like Sorry, tabletop gamers are rigid, legalistic, argumentative, obsessed with minutiae and that spills over into their every day personality. Hard pass.

Then your experience is outdated and/or limited to certain games. My DC just GM'd multiple sessions of a new game that is the antithesis of "rigid, legalistic, argumentative" etc. There are lots of new games in recent years which are not remotely like you're recalling, and are cooperative and highly flexible.

It's quite narrow-minded and, well, rigid of you, to insist you know that every game beyond "Sorry" is a certain way....I'm not saying you have to play, but I'm noting you are stuck on some pretty narrow stereotypes here. Your experience in the past may have been poor but that doesn't mean every person who currently plays tabletop roleplaying games is like you're assuming, or that the games themselves are stuck in that rut these days.

NP. People who think that way about games either don’t have the kind of intelligence for complex games (mainly working memory and processing speed) and/or have never played a game with a good GM. I get flustered playing complex games but I had a coworker who was an amazing GM and it was so much fun playing with him. Some games are still kind of tedious (looking at you, Catan) but playing with a real tabletop aficionado is a real treat! In fact this reminds me to find a gaming group since I’m newly in the datinf market

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH: doesn’t read, loves horses, and, inexplicably, pigeons

ME: totally into anime and sci-fi

As a couple we would repulse everyone on this thread 😂🤣😂🤣

I love this! It's like two alien species merged and lived happily ever after.

Oooh there’s another on this page that we BOTH love that everyone here would hate about us: Bible study!!

Muahahahahaha evil Sunday School laugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...

Eh my wife was really into horses, but gave up a lot of the time. She now leases time with one and the owner trailers them out places where she gets to ride new places. It's a fairly limited time/money commitment and it makes her happy. Like any of these other hobbies it's possible to enjoy without it being all consuming.

[Anonymous]

Social Media more than 15-20 min/ day

[Anonymous]

Civil War reenactment