Looks like you didn't catch the sarcasm train. |
Nobody cares enough to sure you, but your still wrong. This is your defensiveness talking. For *you* it would have to be a statement, and emotionally charged, and it is so meaningful to you. For others, it's just not bothering to change. My professional license is in my maiden name, as are all my academic records, and it would be a bear of hassle every time to deal with that when I change jobs, get licensed in another state, etc. I didn't keep my maiden name at you, or at society in general. I just didn't change it. No matter how many feelings that makes you feel, it's still not about you. |
Ugh, typos.
"Nobody cares enough to sue you, but you're still wrong." I care enough to correct my typos, though. |
I did not take my husband’s name and our kids have my last name. Nobody in our families had an issue with that. |
DH is from an Arab country where changing names is not the norm. It was such a nonissue for me to keep my name and I liked that. |
The OP obviously cares, so please change your surname, so she can go back to sleep in peace. |
She certainly cannot sleep with all these women refusing to change their names at her. |
It’s late 2023. Women have been keeping their birth surname for decades. It only causes an issue if you run in close-minded circles. Occasionally, someone accidentally calls me my kids’ surnames. It’s no big deal. If you’re traveling internationally with your kids without the other parent, you need a letter anyway. Plenty of cultures don’t have women change their names. Icelanders don’t. Ethiopians don’t. I think we can handle it. |
Not changing your name is literally doing nothing, which means a lack of name change could just be laziness. The same can't be said about someone who goes out of the way to do unnecessary paperwork in the name of tradition, which is more in line of what a statement is. As for men not getting respect from other men, I don't even know where to begin. Why would anybody who's secure care about the "respect" of people with ridiculous standards who don't even have a say in the marriage? |
No big deal if you are 21 and work PT at the local department store until you get pregnant. A much bigger deal if you have multiple degrees, were licensed and published under the name you were born with, and your employer has to change everything from signage to advertising. |
Just asking out of curiosity, what rock have you been living under? |
“Trend”? It’s not something new. Also, I’m some cultures the mother keeps her own name.
The idea of changing your name is strange to me. You have an identity. Then you meet someone, get married, and change your identity to reflect that you are now a wife. Ok, but why does the wife change and the husband not change? Because the husband’s familial line is more important than the wife’s? Why don’t both spouses change their name, either to a hyphenated name or to some third name? |
These are incredibly superficial reasons to keep your name. Also, regardless of your profession (which appears to be real estate or ambulance chasing) you aren’t as important as you think you are. |
Call yourselves what you like, but if you are keeping your father’s name instead of taking your husband’s, you aren’t exactly fighting the patriarchy. |
Neither of these professions do much publishing. Solid effort though. C+ snark. |