Can't wait to change my surname, but notice many women keeping theirs, is there a reason for this trend?

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Anonymous wrote:most people like 90% take the last name, the weirdos keep theirs thinking they are important or they can do better and divorce, very odd

By "people" you mean "women". Now tell me, what makes a man's last name important enough not only to keep it, but also to expect the wife to take it?

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Anonymous wrote:I changed my name because I wanted us to be a family and not someone who's git the foot out of the door. Yes, my husband wouldn't have changed his, but we're not the same and we show love in different ways. Women who keep their nane because "men do too" simply don't get that.

Sounds like your husband isnt as committed to your family if he wasnt willing to give up something as dumb as a name. Guess he must already have one foot out the door. Poor you.

He is, but as I said, men and women show commitment differently. He provides for the family which is a big responsibility.

Ugh what an awful life for him, just a cog in that capitalist machine. Too bad you literally couldn't survive without him doing so. Why are you such a hypocrite?

This is the dumbest statement I’ve read in awhile. You clearly don’t know what the words “literally” or “survive” mean.

Yes dear, the very survival of this woman (and I suppose the entire human race) is literally dependent upon middle managers and powerpoint presentations. LOL

LOLOLOLOL where the f do you think the pay check comes from? How does he keep the lights on and food on the table? Oh right, those f-ing powerpoint presentations. GMAFB.

I get the impression that this is the same poster that keeps saying "you don't understand" and nitpicking the meanings of words used by other posters while never explaining their opinion. I think it's a troll.

Yes, dear. Anyone smarter and more thoughtful than you is clearly a troll. Go hand off Larla husband’s-surname to the underpaid immigrant nanny so you can get back to #girlbossing and *literally* ensuring your family’s very survival with your excellent corporate jargon skills…. Fight that patriarchy!

I have a 5 year old child. I spent the first two years with him at home and my husband spent the other three. 1 as a SAHD and the rest WFH. I currently manage an NGO that provides food, shelter and other services to people in need. What do you do?

The issue is that you don't sound either thoughtful or smart, you sound arrogant with minimal understanding about how our economic system works. Or you're a troll

I understand that our economic system is just as arbitrary as the woman taking the man’s last name, unlike most of you dolts who don’t seem to understand that human history spans tens of thousands of years, not just the time period since the Industrial Revolution or even the invention of agriculture.

We're aware the current economic system is relatively new, but this is irrelevant. Even in the most basic system someone has to hunt and gather to ensure the survival of the individual, group or family. Any person incapable of gathering resources or money for their own survival is at the mercy of those who are capable of doing so. Patriarchy didn't make this bit up, it simply made access to resources easier for men than for women. Staying home to be a full time homemaker simply means that someone else is going to a corporate job to get the money that feeds you, clothes you and puts a roof over your head. In most households outside the DCUM bubble it also means that your husband has to work longer hours and spend less time with your child to be able to provide. In a non-capitalist patriarchal society women would still depend on their husbands for their basic needs, the only difference would be that husbands wouldn't work for a corporation (or would co-own a corporation). They would still exclude women from most economic activity.

You're not bringing anything new to this conversation, you're just being arrogant.

You clearly have zero understanding of how traditional hunter gatherer cultures function(ed). You also clearly have zero understanding of what is entailed in feeding and clothing oneself and one’s family. And finally, you have zero clue how the majority of households outside the DCUM bubble live. Congratulations, an ignorance hat trick!

All this is mumbo jumbo. You can't in one post malign the corporate machine and be glad you aren't a part of it, while simultaneously relying on it 100% to support your lifestyle. Just because you dont physically work in the "machine", your husband, who supports you, clothes you, provides a roof and food for you and your children does. That corporate machine provides for you, whether or not you personally show up at the office.

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This person is either a troll or not as smart as they think they are.