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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s tradition in my family to make your maiden name your legal middle name and take the husband’s surname. It was fine and not a PITA at all. It’s even helped at times to still have my former name on my ID. I still have my identity but I like being Mrs. Smith, too.

It’s not a [i]moral[/i] judgment here but I do think in American culture, women who don’t change their name at all are making a statement, and it’s not a statement I’d like to make, personally. I also get the impression that men don’t garner as much respect among other men if a double barrel etc. happens and I know masculine esteem is important to male identity. I know, how tragic and backwards of me, but it’s just my opinion in life. So sue me![/quote]

Not changing your name is literally doing nothing, which means a lack of name change could just be laziness. The same can't be said about someone who goes out of the way to do unnecessary paperwork in the name of tradition, which is more in line of what a statement is.

As for men not getting respect from other men, I don't even know where to begin. Why would anybody who's secure care about the "respect" of people with ridiculous standards who don't even have a say in the marriage? [/quote]

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