Can't wait to change my surname, but notice many women keeping theirs, is there a reason for this trend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Yes, of course it’s made up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

Or divorced, or remarried etcetc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

And why should I care? Not to mention that nobody is that interested in my marital status.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

And why should I care? Not to mention that nobody is that interested in my marital status.

I feel bad for you if nobody in your circle cares about your marital status?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

Not in this area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

And in this situation if Mary Smith showed up, the daycare would be sued out of existence if they handed the kid over to her.

These name confusion situations have to be made up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

Nope. They may assume you are divorced or you never married or you just kept your maiden name. It's been common for decades among wealthier people.

I remember when a coworker chastised me for not changing my name when I married while working in a rural area 20 years ago, with the same logic presented here, people will think you aren't married, they will be confused etc...

I pointed out to her that she had been married three times, changed her name three times and had three kids with different last names for each of her dhs...and that keeping my maiden name wouldn't be more confusing than that.

Also pointed out that keeping my maiden name would allow any of my future kids to "fit in" with the majority of kids of divorced parents in that rural "conservative" area, while having two married parents.

She never bothered me about that again, was a nice person, but not too bright. Currently on her 4th dh and changed her name yet again.

I'm still married to my first and only dh, still with different names, for over 20 years. Moved to two different states since then and different names have never caused a problem even once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

I completely agree. My kids and I have traveled to 25 countries in the last sveerl years and never ever even a hiccup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

And why should I care? Not to mention that nobody is that interested in my marital status.

I feel bad for you if nobody in your circle cares about your marital status?

Why? Do you really think most people care the kind of relationship you have with your partner? This is only important to you and nosy people, which aren't the majority.

[Anonymous]

I would never change my name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

And why should I care? Not to mention that nobody is that interested in my marital status.

I feel bad for you if nobody in your circle cares about your marital status?

Why? I dont need my marital status noted in almost any interaction in daily life. How do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to suspect that all these airport and school horror stories are made up or aren't really happening because of last names.

Anybody could be randomly stopped at the airport. Even people with no children. That's why it's recommended to have a birth certificate when travelling as a family and a permission from the other parent/ custody document if you're traveling without the other parent. Just because a child and an adult share a surname doesn't mean they are parent and child or that the parent has custody. Anybody working at the airport who doesn't understand that is an idiot.

The same logic applies to schools. They have a list of parents and adults that are authorized to pick up the child. The mom is either there or she isn't. The name is irrelevant.

Makes me wonder what kind of idiots people are dealing with. The pick up list clearly says "john smith" and "jane jones", how can there me confusion about it? What about people who aren't married? Do they not pick up their kids?

It's not a problem for pickups, but people will assume you're not married.

And why should I care? Not to mention that nobody is that interested in my marital status.

I feel bad for you if nobody in your circle cares about your marital status?

Why? I dont need my marital status noted in almost any interaction in daily life. How do you?

DP. That person probably wears theor marital status as a status symbol. Nothing worse than investing in something you don't find inherently appealing just to get ignored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:most people like 90% take the last name, the weirdos keep theirs thinking they are important or they can do better and divorce, very odd

More like 79%, according to a 2023 survey (see below). I think YOU'RE the weirdo for assuming that women who don't change their names after marriage "think they are important or they can do better and divorce." What a bizarre assumption. How on earth did you come up with that? Are you a man or woman?

According to the study, the demographics of women who choose to keep their name are as follows:
*younger
*Hispanic
*Democrats
*have completed a postgraduate degree

How Americans feel about changing their last name after marriage: Study
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/10/09/how-americans-feel-changing-last-name-after-marriage-study/71125159007/#:~:text=Most%20married%20men%20–%2092%25%20–,name%2C%20according%20to%20the%20study.