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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s tradition in my family to make your maiden name your legal middle name and take the husband’s surname. It was fine and not a PITA at all. It’s even helped at times to still have my former name on my ID. I still have my identity but I like being Mrs. Smith, too.

It’s not a [i]moral[/i] judgment here but I do think in American culture, women who don’t change their name at all [b]are making a statement, and it’s not a statement I’d like to make, personally.[/b] I also get the impression that men don’t garner as much respect among other men if a double barrel etc. happens and I know masculine esteem is important to male identity. I know, how tragic and backwards of me, but it’s just my opinion in life. So sue me![/quote]

Nobody cares enough to sure you, but your still wrong. This is your defensiveness talking. For *you* it would have to be a statement, and emotionally charged, and it is so meaningful to you.

For others, it's just not bothering to change. My professional license is in my maiden name, as are all my academic records, and it would be a bear of hassle every time to deal with that when I change jobs, get licensed in another state, etc.

I didn't keep my maiden name at you, or at society in general. I just didn't change it. No matter how many feelings that makes you feel, it's still not about you.[/quote]

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