Can you have a successful sexless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am such a simple man. When my wife is sexually generous I worship her, when she is cold, I question the foundation of marriage and dream of other women. I know it's not so simple but I wonder why she doesn't carve out 20 minutes a week to make her DH happy. Doesn't seem like so much to ask.

Did you try doing more of the housework? Try being less rapey. You want 20 minutes? Haha, you know your longest is like 6 and you've never sexually satisfied her, or any woman. Should she nurse you back to health for the other 14?

You aren't entitled to sex and she doesn't owe you anything so stop assaulting her with your abusive pouting and spank-bank porn show in your filthy mind. Why is do you feel your marriage is so transactionable (not even a real word)? Do you think she is your slave? You should just divorce and go screw the whores you love so much you misogynist creep. Is that how you want some man to treat your daughter when she grows up?

There you go. I real DCUM, bitter Karen response. Now go give her a foot rub and tell her how beautiful she is, after you fold the clothes. Then tuck her into bed and go take care of your filthy needs in the shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am such a simple man. When my wife is sexually generous I worship her, when she is cold, I question the foundation of marriage and dream of other women. I know it's not so simple but I wonder why she doesn't carve out 20 minutes a week to make her DH happy. Doesn't seem like so much to ask.

I’m guessing she’s not attracted to you. It really is that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm very very very much enjoying this long walking back of your balls to the wall my peen or the highway post. See there, Frank, things are more nuanced than no sex equals no relationship.

Not Frank and I've been nothing but honest. Haven't walked back anything from my original statement. Nor did I say anything that isn't common sense, or should be. Enjoying my single, dating life.

I just picked a Boomer name. And clearly you don't get the tone of how aggressive you came across in your original post. I wasn't the only one replying that they felt uncomfortable with what you said. But how could you be wrong, you're a man and the world owes you something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am such a simple man. When my wife is sexually generous I worship her, when she is cold, I question the foundation of marriage and dream of other women. I know it's not so simple but I wonder why she doesn't carve out 20 minutes a week to make her DH happy. Doesn't seem like so much to ask.

I’m guessing she’s not attracted to you. It really is that simple.

I am sure that's true but even if I wasn't attracted to my wife I would still help her get off simply because I care about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm very very very much enjoying this long walking back of your balls to the wall my peen or the highway post. See there, Frank, things are more nuanced than no sex equals no relationship.

Not Frank and I've been nothing but honest. Haven't walked back anything from my original statement. Nor did I say anything that isn't common sense, or should be. Enjoying my single, dating life.

I just picked a Boomer name. And clearly you don't get the tone of how aggressive you came across in your original post. I wasn't the only one replying that they felt uncomfortable with what you said. But how could you be wrong, you're a man and the world owes you something.

NP, I agree with the immediate pp that your original post came across as aggressive. It sounded like you were objectifying women and that a relationship with a woman was transactional and only about sex. My first thought was good riddance that he doesn’t want to be married and that hopefully he’s telling his partner that the relationship ends unless there’s sex x times a week. Not sure I’ve changed my mind but your tone isn’t as aggressive. I appreciate your honesty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am such a simple man. When my wife is sexually generous I worship her, when she is cold, I question the foundation of marriage and dream of other women. I know it's not so simple but I wonder why she doesn't carve out 20 minutes a week to make her DH happy. Doesn't seem like so much to ask.

Do you do anything to make her happy?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the rabid feminazi responses to the dude who "expects" sex in a relationship and stays unmarried to pursue that goal more easily. I have to assume sex is not important nor fun for that PP, such that she can't fathom it being a dealbreaker. I'm a feminist myself and have zero issue with what he's saying. In fact, as a newly divorced woman, I feel exactly the same way. If the sex dried up for no good reason, see ya. I don't need more platonic friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm very very very much enjoying this long walking back of your balls to the wall my peen or the highway post. See there, Frank, things are more nuanced than no sex equals no relationship.

Not Frank and I've been nothing but honest. Haven't walked back anything from my original statement. Nor did I say anything that isn't common sense, or should be. Enjoying my single, dating life.

I just picked a Boomer name. And clearly you don't get the tone of how aggressive you came across in your original post. I wasn't the only one replying that they felt uncomfortable with what you said. But how could you be wrong, you're a man and the world owes you something.

Oh I get it and I just don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the rabid feminazi responses to the dude who "expects" sex in a relationship and stays unmarried to pursue that goal more easily. I have to assume sex is not important nor fun for that PP, such that she can't fathom it being a dealbreaker. I'm a feminist myself and have zero issue with what he's saying. In fact, as a newly divorced woman, I feel exactly the same way. If the sex dried up for no good reason, see ya. I don't need more platonic friends.

Yeah, it really is pretty straight forward. The reason it triggers some women here is because it hits a nerve. These are women with delusional thoughts of their miserable husbands not being anything like me, a pretty average man with average thoughts. It's a waste of time to tell me that no woman owes me sex, or owes me anything when she really means, I don't owe my own husband anything. And surely, he has happily surrendered his sex life and has no thoughts of cheating or getting a divorce. Only rapey, misogynistic, abusive, coercive men are like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the rabid feminazi responses to the dude who "expects" sex in a relationship and stays unmarried to pursue that goal more easily. I have to assume sex is not important nor fun for that PP, such that she can't fathom it being a dealbreaker. I'm a feminist myself and have zero issue with what he's saying. In fact, as a newly divorced woman, I feel exactly the same way. If the sex dried up for no good reason, see ya. I don't need more platonic friends.

I've never met a true feminist who used this word. Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the rabid feminazi responses to the dude who "expects" sex in a relationship and stays unmarried to pursue that goal more easily. I have to assume sex is not important nor fun for that PP, such that she can't fathom it being a dealbreaker. I'm a feminist myself and have zero issue with what he's saying. In fact, as a newly divorced woman, I feel exactly the same way. If the sex dried up for no good reason, see ya. I don't need more platonic friends.

Yeah, it really is pretty straight forward. The reason it triggers some women here is because it hits a nerve. These are women with delusional thoughts of their miserable husbands not being anything like me, a pretty average man with average thoughts. It's a waste of time to tell me that no woman owes me sex, or owes me anything when she really means, I don't owe my own husband anything. And surely, he has happily surrendered his sex life and has no thoughts of cheating or getting a divorce. Only rapey, misogynistic, abusive, coercive men are like that.

People who use this word to be insulting are usually entitled, older, conservative cishet white males. They really can only see the world in very simple terms. Bless your heart. I'm sorry the world is changing and its scary to you.

[Anonymous]

Being married does not mean being celibate. I feel it is quite unreasonable for either partner to downplay or ignore the emotional/sexual needs of the other. If you can’t it won’t fix it, you can divorce, open the marriage or cheat. In the latter case, it’s not fair to call the other person evil b/c they seek elsewhere the comfort you deny.

[Anonymous]

I guess. My spouse doesn’t care about sex anymore, but he’s on the spectrum and doesn’t care about it most normal things in life. Since his Dx, have admitted how bad he was at it anyhow, and the likely reasons why... plus I’m sick of taking the lead on everything in life. So that’s a mood killer dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being married does not mean being celibate. I feel it is quite unreasonable for either partner to downplay or ignore the emotional/sexual needs of the other. If you can’t it won’t fix it, you can divorce, open the marriage or cheat. In the latter case, it’s not fair to call the other person evil b/c they seek elsewhere the comfort you deny.

DW who agrees with this. It is cruel to expect your partner to go without sex for years. No one should be ashamed of having basic human needs. Those who wish to remain celibate should not expect to stay in traditionally monogamous marriages. No one feels like brushing his teeth nightly but we do it because we know it's good for our health. Regular sex -- once per week, at a min -- is good for the relationship health. How can the withholding partner be fine with depriving the other partner? Why can't people sacrifice 15 min for their partner's happiness? Anyone who struggles to do should be in therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the rabid feminazi responses to the dude who "expects" sex in a relationship and stays unmarried to pursue that goal more easily. I have to assume sex is not important nor fun for that PP, such that she can't fathom it being a dealbreaker. I'm a feminist myself and have zero issue with what he's saying. In fact, as a newly divorced woman, I feel exactly the same way. If the sex dried up for no good reason, see ya. I don't need more platonic friends.

Yeah, it really is pretty straight forward. The reason it triggers some women here is because it hits a nerve. These are women with delusional thoughts of their miserable husbands not being anything like me, a pretty average man with average thoughts. It's a waste of time to tell me that no woman owes me sex, or owes me anything when she really means, I don't owe my own husband anything. And surely, he has happily surrendered his sex life and has no thoughts of cheating or getting a divorce. Only rapey, misogynistic, abusive, coercive men are like that.

People who use this word to be insulting are usually entitled, older, conservative cishet white males. They really can only see the world in very simple terms. Bless your heart. I'm sorry the world is changing and its scary to you.

it's OK. When you use the goofy words of your generation like, cishet, which is almost always followed by, white male it's me who feels sorry for you. The world isn't changing as much as you think.