Indian Matchmaking on Netflix - anyone watching?

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Anonymous wrote:Ashkay is/was 25! Just out of college and working for 2 months and then mom insists he marries. Honestly, it might be the first time he has sex!

This is a super-wealthy family though not super educated or woke. The mom knows that the sons will need sex and so if they don't get them married very young, they can end up with someone who is educated and independent and then bye-bye joint family. They are getting very young girls to marry their sons (oldest DIL is totally vacant and cowed) and they are ensuring that the sons are getting laid and not getting entrapped by some woman who has a mind of her own. Did you see the amount of jewelry that was given to the new DIL by the MIL? Insane.

It is ironic that despite her insistence on joint family, she doesn’t seem to live in one. I don’t see in-laws of any kind in her home.

Maybe they're dead.

In Indian joint families it isn’t just mothers and fathers in law that live with a family, it’s also all of the husband’s brothers and their kids. So where are these brother in laws? Unless she has none. So Akash’s mom gets all the benefits of having her sons living with her forever without having had to make a similar sacrifice.

I’m Indian, what the hell are you taking about? That would absolutely not be the norm.

Yes it is, especially among North Indians and in Mumbai and Gujarat.

No. What was shown was not the norm. These are the mercantile/business community people. Banias, Sindhis, Gujju Patels. Not the most polished people but very wealthy/money minded. Sima aunty caters to that group of people because she comes from that background. Did you see "Meet the Patels?" - that's the population. I thoroughly enjoyed it because I do not get the chance to peep into these kinds of peoples lives, even though I see them every day - 2 households shopping with one costco card - then driving away in their respective Mercedes.

Is there a similar US/white equivalent? Like nouveau riche? More "Real Housewives" rich than "Social Register" rich?

Nope, not the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Indian-American here. My DD and I watched this series and were addicted. It is like a train wreck that you cannot tear your eyes away from. OMG!!

I knew of families like Pradyumna's and Aditya's. These two basically held out for really good looking girls. The girls know the score. They will live in the lap of luxury as long as they stay home and raise the kids. Hideous and horrible. I loved the lawyer guy who ended up with the guyanese girl. Really nice.

I agree with the holding out comment. So many people thought Prahyuman was gay. I think quite the opposite. He is looking for the best of the best. He knows what he has to offer and he isn’t willing to settle.

Non-Indian here: Is there a reason why he needs a matchmaker for this? I would think at a certain level in society you would be meeting these women; at your store, at society functions, parties, etc. My wealthy Indian friends who have had "arranged" marriages haven't used matchmakers per se. More like the parents trade the biodatas amongst family, friends, friends of friends, etc. trying to set up their kids with others that are in their extended circle and somewhat "vetted." I would think if you are wealthy you would be a lot more socially connected and able to do some of this yourself. It seemed like Prahyuman was looking for a trophy wife, would he not know tons of women who would be down for that? It could be a "love" marriage like we see in societies around the world.

He could have been more clear about that with Sima also, it was crazy to me she was trotting in these cute but not gorgeous girls from the countryside for someone like him who clearly wasn't interested. Cut to the chase, Sima- all of the compatability stuff is sort of bunk with him, he wants hot so bring him the hottest you've got.

This is a TV show, why do most people agree to reality tv shows? He wants to be on TV!

And the show would be of no interest if every person had an amazing personality and was easy to match. Does no one here watch any other reality shows? There has to be drama.

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Anonymous wrote:Indian-American here. My DD and I watched this series and were addicted. It is like a train wreck that you cannot tear your eyes away from. OMG!!

I knew of families like Pradyumna's and Aditya's. These two basically held out for really good looking girls. The girls know the score. They will live in the lap of luxury as long as they stay home and raise the kids. Hideous and horrible. I loved the lawyer guy who ended up with the guyanese girl. Really nice.

I agree with the holding out comment. So many people thought Prahyuman was gay. I think quite the opposite. He is looking for the best of the best. He knows what he has to offer and he isn’t willing to settle.

Non-Indian here: Is there a reason why he needs a matchmaker for this? I would think at a certain level in society you would be meeting these women; at your store, at society functions, parties, etc. My wealthy Indian friends who have had "arranged" marriages haven't used matchmakers per se. More like the parents trade the biodatas amongst family, friends, friends of friends, etc. trying to set up their kids with others that are in their extended circle and somewhat "vetted." I would think if you are wealthy you would be a lot more socially connected and able to do some of this yourself. It seemed like Prahyuman was looking for a trophy wife, would he not know tons of women who would be down for that? It could be a "love" marriage like we see in societies around the world.

He could have been more clear about that with Sima also, it was crazy to me she was trotting in these cute but not gorgeous girls from the countryside for someone like him who clearly wasn't interested. Cut to the chase, Sima- all of the compatability stuff is sort of bunk with him, he wants A GUY so bring him the hottest you've got.

FTFY

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Anonymous wrote:Indian-American here. My DD and I watched this series and were addicted. It is like a train wreck that you cannot tear your eyes away from. OMG!!

I knew of families like Pradyumna's and Aditya's. These two basically held out for really good looking girls. The girls know the score. They will live in the lap of luxury as long as they stay home and raise the kids. Hideous and horrible. I loved the lawyer guy who ended up with the guyanese girl. Really nice.

I agree with the holding out comment. So many people thought Prahyuman was gay. I think quite the opposite. He is looking for the best of the best. He knows what he has to offer and he isn’t willing to settle.

Non-Indian here: Is there a reason why he needs a matchmaker for this? I would think at a certain level in society you would be meeting these women; at your store, at society functions, parties, etc. My wealthy Indian friends who have had "arranged" marriages haven't used matchmakers per se. More like the parents trade the biodatas amongst family, friends, friends of friends, etc. trying to set up their kids with others that are in their extended circle and somewhat "vetted." I would think if you are wealthy you would be a lot more socially connected and able to do some of this yourself. It seemed like Prahyuman was looking for a trophy wife, would he not know tons of women who would be down for that? It could be a "love" marriage like we see in societies around the world.

He could have been more clear about that with Sima also, it was crazy to me she was trotting in these cute but not gorgeous girls from the countryside for someone like him who clearly wasn't interested. Cut to the chase, Sima- all of the compatability stuff is sort of bunk with him, he wants A GUY so bring him the hottest you've got.

FTFY

Lol. I tend to agree but this seems to be up in the air per PPs so responded in kind. Maybe he wants a Diane Von Furstenburg/Barry Diller thing? No idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Ashkay is/was 25! Just out of college and working for 2 months and then mom insists he marries. Honestly, it might be the first time he has sex!

This is a super-wealthy family though not super educated or woke. The mom knows that the sons will need sex and so if they don't get them married very young, they can end up with someone who is educated and independent and then bye-bye joint family. They are getting very young girls to marry their sons (oldest DIL is totally vacant and cowed) and they are ensuring that the sons are getting laid and not getting entrapped by some woman who has a mind of her own. Did you see the amount of jewelry that was given to the new DIL by the MIL? Insane.

It is ironic that despite her insistence on joint family, she doesn’t seem to live in one. I don’t see in-laws of any kind in her home.

Maybe they're dead.

In Indian joint families it isn’t just mothers and fathers in law that live with a family, it’s also all of the husband’s brothers and their kids. So where are these brother in laws? Unless she has none. So Akash’s mom gets all the benefits of having her sons living with her forever without having had to make a similar sacrifice.

I’m Indian, what the hell are you taking about? That would absolutely not be the norm.

Yes it is, especially among North Indians and in Mumbai and Gujarat.

No. What was shown was not the norm. These are the mercantile/business community people. Banias, Sindhis, Gujju Patels. Not the most polished people but very wealthy/money minded. Sima aunty caters to that group of people because she comes from that background. Did you see "Meet the Patels?" - that's the population. I thoroughly enjoyed it because I do not get the chance to peep into these kinds of peoples lives, even though I see them every day - 2 households shopping with one costco card - then driving away in their respective Mercedes.

Is there a similar US/white equivalent? Like nouveau riche? More "Real Housewives" rich than "Social Register" rich?

The jeweller and the 25 yr old virgin son...think of them as Prince Harry. They are bred and raised to fulfill a role and carry on the family trade. The family trade is like the BRF "Firm". Their education and socialization is to do that one job (jeweller) and they are not capable of finding employment outside the "firm". At least not a job that will afford them the same wealth and influence and standard of living as their parents house. The money is still being controlled by the elders in the household. If they disobey and leave the family...they will be like Harry after Megxit. That is the only equivalent I can think of.

The wealth that has been shown has been passed down and been accumulated over generations of following the same family/social structure. Marital happiness is not essential. Everyone is supposed to get along and do their duty towards the family, the ILs, their spouse, their kids. Marrying them young means that their first (and in many cases only) sexual relationship happens with their spouse. India is still very traditional and it is not easy for most youth to have sexual relations. Young men and women are not really allowed to mingle in the communities that have been shown. There is no where available where people can go and hook up. Mothers and other family members are pretty much there to make sure that the youngsters are not meeting anyone. Even the domestic staff know that if they see some irregularity they should inform the parents. The mother's concern that the son is not married is mainly driven by that. If he does not get married to a girl they pick and soon, then the sons will invariable find someone unsuitable driven by lust. The children agree to this level of interference because they like to live in a luxurious home, they are working in their dad's business, they have only seen these kinds of marriages, and frankly, until they marry, they are not afforded any privacy. Look how quickly the two rich guys agreed once they found really good looking girls.

These guys were rejecting girls because they wanted good looking attractive girls. Every other aspect of being a grown up - a job, running a house, paying for a wedding - all of this is already taken care of their parents without their input. They also know that they cannot find a girl on their own who will be accepted by their parents. The only thing they could do was to keep rejecting matches that their parents picked until they got a girl who appealed to them physically. The only thing I can think of is the BRF. Everyone is the cogs to the Firm.

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Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

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Interestingly, none of the couples ended up together (Some newspaper followed up). I think the two guys may afterall be gays.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I think she was photogenic but she was not not pretty. She had a good enough face but the hook nose was too much, I don't think the family would have liked her because she was not from the same community. Jewellers tend to marry daughters of other jewellers. I think the model did not bring much wealth or connection to the table.

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Anonymous wrote:What are Pradhyuman and his sister smoking with that bong/hookah?

They are trying to look cool.

His sister is so gross. Seriously, this is a rough looking group of people on this show.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I thought she was very pretty in that unusual model looking way. Like Gisselle Bundchen. Not really pretty in a conventional way but takes amazing photos.

I also don’t think her nose is ugly. Small, Eurocentric style noses are not the only ones that are beautiful in India. Even Aishwarya Rai has a slight hook to her nose. Western beauty standards are not the only acceptable look.

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Anonymous wrote:Nadia is gorgeous. No body but a face to die for

Oh she has the body too. Slim, tall, with curves? Her coloring and build are pretty ideal in Indian culture. Aparna is on her way to dumpy middle age.

She's already there. She's fat, she's arrogant, she isn't pretty, and she's uptight. Yes, she had a moment with the goat yoga, but that was just a moment, and then she was back to herself. Anyone else notice her TINY one-story house squished between two normal-sized houses? Or how she and her mom walked the dog in a stroller?

Aparna is a straight up bitch.

This person knows what’s up

+1. I really struggle to find anything redeeming about her. She seems totally miserable with her life and like she would make any partner miserable as well.

I don’t think she is fat and she is better looking than a lot of Indian girls. She does seem uptight but was a lot more relaxed with the guy from goat yoga. Making fun of someone’s house size and their dog means you are a straight up bitch. The dog may have medical issues and is heavy to carry. When she finds someone she is compatible with they will love her and she will relax a bit. She can travel with him, complain about her job, and he will listen and pack all the bags. The world is a big place and there are plenty of Indian dudes that would think she is hot. She is also a lawyer so there is bonus points for stuck up Indians there. Also, for the person attacking her mom, you are pathetic.

You must be blind or a patronizing pos if you think she looks better than a lot of Indian girls. Hideous, fat and bitchy=not hot

She is hideous AF. How does she have the nerve to be such a b!tch and look like a total pig with pock marks

Nope this is just being mean. I can think she is a good looking girl. It’s a free country. Yes she is stuck up and that is why people may have negative feelings about her.

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Anonymous wrote:I really like it! Aparna is something else. Nadia seems really sweet.

Aparna grew on me. Definitely eye rolling at first but by the goat yoga scene she seemed a lot less uptight.

There's goat yoga?? I have to watch this.

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Anonymous wrote:Nadia is gorgeous. No body but a face to die for

Oh she has the body too. Slim, tall, with curves? Her coloring and build are pretty ideal in Indian culture. Aparna is on her way to dumpy middle age.

She's already there. She's fat, she's arrogant, she isn't pretty, and she's uptight. Yes, she had a moment with the goat yoga, but that was just a moment, and then she was back to herself. Anyone else notice her TINY one-story house squished between two normal-sized houses? Or how she and her mom walked the dog in a stroller?

Aparna is a straight up bitch.

This person knows what’s up

+1. I really struggle to find anything redeeming about her. She seems totally miserable with her life and like she would make any partner miserable as well.

I don’t think she is fat and she is better looking than a lot of Indian girls. She does seem uptight but was a lot more relaxed with the guy from goat yoga. Making fun of someone’s house size and their dog means you are a straight up bitch. The dog may have medical issues and is heavy to carry. When she finds someone she is compatible with they will love her and she will relax a bit. She can travel with him, complain about her job, and he will listen and pack all the bags. The world is a big place and there are plenty of Indian dudes that would think she is hot. She is also a lawyer so there is bonus points for stuck up Indians there. Also, for the person attacking her mom, you are pathetic.

You must be blind or a patronizing pos if you think she looks better than a lot of Indian girls. Hideous, fat and bitchy=not hot

She is hideous AF. How does she have the nerve to be such a b!tch and look like a total pig with pock marks

Nope this is just being mean. I can think she is a good looking girl. It’s a free country. Yes she is stuck up and that is why people may have negative feelings about her.

Well, an odious and shitty personality doesn't tend to go over well on the prettiest of women. Pretty on the outside and dead and toxic may be able to get away with it more though. Listen, I am a 3 degree bitch who didn't marry until mid-30s and she seems like a horrible friend and miserable partner. There are MANY reasons to find her insufferable.The fact the she apparently thinks of herself as a Gisele body at 18 with a Madeleine Albright brain at 35, spends all her time with her mom, hates her life, and walks a toy dog around in a stroller is just...step up or step off girl.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I thought she was very pretty in that unusual model looking way. Like Gisselle Bundchen. Not really pretty in a conventional way but takes amazing photos.

I also don’t think her nose is ugly. Small, Eurocentric style noses are not the only ones that are beautiful in India. Even Aishwarya Rai has a slight hook to her nose. Western beauty standards are not the only acceptable look.

+1. I think she’s gorgeous!

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I thought she was very pretty in that unusual model looking way. Like Gisselle Bundchen. Not really pretty in a conventional way but takes amazing photos.

I also don’t think her nose is ugly. Small, Eurocentric style noses are not the only ones that are beautiful in India. Even Aishwarya Rai has a slight hook to her nose. Western beauty standards are not the only acceptable look.

+1. I think she’s gorgeous!

Thought they looked like trans to me. Also the one Akshay chose. Guess I’m not into Indian chicjs