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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ashkay is/was 25! Just out of college and working for 2 months and then mom insists he marries. Honestly, it might be the first time he has sex![/quote]

This is a super-wealthy family though not super educated or woke.  The mom knows that the sons will need sex and so if they don't get them married very young, they can end up with someone who is educated and independent and then bye-bye joint family. They are getting very young girls to marry their sons (oldest DIL is totally vacant and cowed) and they are ensuring that the sons are getting laid and not getting entrapped by some woman who has a mind of her own.  Did you see the amount of jewelry that was given to the new DIL by the MIL? Insane. [/quote]

It is ironic that despite her insistence on joint family, she doesn’t seem to live in one. I don’t see in-laws of any kind in her home.[/quote]

Maybe they're dead.[/quote]

In Indian joint families it isn’t just mothers and fathers in law that live with a family, it’s also all of the husband’s brothers and their kids. So where are these brother in laws? Unless she has none. So Akash’s mom gets all the benefits of having her sons living with her forever without having had to make a similar sacrifice. [/quote]

I’m Indian, what the hell are you taking about? That would absolutely not be the norm.

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Yes it is, especially among North Indians and in Mumbai and Gujarat.[/quote]

No. What was shown was not the norm.  These are the mercantile/business community people.  Banias, Sindhis, Gujju Patels. Not the most polished people but very wealthy/money minded.  Sima aunty caters to that group of people because she comes from that background.  Did you see "Meet the Patels?" - that's the population.  I thoroughly enjoyed it because I do not get the chance to peep into these kinds of peoples lives, even though I see them every day - 2 households shopping with one costco card - then driving away in their respective Mercedes.

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Is there a similar US/white equivalent? Like nouveau riche? More "Real Housewives" rich than "Social Register" rich?[/quote]

The jeweller and the 25 yr old virgin son...think of them as Prince Harry.  They are bred and raised to fulfill a role and carry on the family trade. The family trade is like the BRF "Firm".  Their education and socialization is to do that one job (jeweller) and they are not capable of finding employment outside the "firm". At least not a job that will afford them the same wealth and influence and standard of living as their parents house.  The money is still being controlled by the elders in the household.  If they disobey and leave the family...they will be like Harry after Megxit. That is the only equivalent I can think of.

The wealth that has been shown has been passed down and been accumulated over generations of following the same family/social structure.  Marital happiness is not essential. Everyone is supposed to get along and do their duty towards the family, the ILs, their spouse, their kids.  Marrying them young means that their first (and in many cases only) sexual relationship happens with their spouse.  India is still very traditional and it is not easy for most youth to have sexual relations. Young men and women are not really allowed to mingle in the communities that have been shown.  There is no where available where people can go and hook up.  Mothers and other family members are pretty much there to make sure that the youngsters are not meeting anyone. Even the domestic staff know that if they see some irregularity they should inform the parents.  The mother's concern that the son is not married is mainly driven by that. If he does not get married to a girl they pick and soon, then the sons will invariable find someone unsuitable  driven by lust.  The children agree to this level of interference because they like to live in a luxurious home, they are working in their dad's business, they have only seen these kinds of marriages, and frankly, until they marry, they are not afforded any privacy. Look how quickly the two rich guys agreed once they found really good looking girls.

These guys were rejecting girls because they wanted good looking attractive girls.  Every other aspect of being a grown up - a job, running a house, paying for a wedding - all of this is already taken care of their parents without their input. They also know that they cannot find a girl on their own who will be accepted by their parents. The only thing they could do was to keep rejecting  matches that their parents picked until they got a girl who appealed to them physically.  The only thing I can think of is the BRF.  Everyone is the cogs to the Firm.[/quote]

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