3.5 and 4 year olds not potty trained...how did that happen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, this shit again?

It's an old thread. Someone must have done a search and brought it back.

[Anonymous]

Lazy parent.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

Sounds pretty stress free right until he gets invited to a sleepover or someone sees his pull-ups. Kids actually get embarrassed by those things even if you don't feel weird about having a kid in diapers way past the norm. Do the kid a favor.

He wears jammies at sleepovers. Wearing a pull up is no big deal for him I've never made it an issue. We don't live our lives to impress others or seek acceptance.

8??

So, the fear of having an 8 year old in a pullup is exactly what caused me to make sure that hell or highwater, we started potty training before 2.5. Maybe some people don't mind, that's great, but I would mind. I have clear memories of being 8.

[Anonymous]

Why do people feel the need to respond to an anonymous troll who is asking you to defend how you handled potty training your child?
Don't feed the troll - she's not asking for any advice here, she's just looking to work everyone up into a lather and sitting back enjoying her popcorn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

this sounds like something that would pop up in Law & Order...

[Anonymous]

If a kid still pisses and shits themselves, they're not ready. Take a breath and calm down.

[Anonymous]

OP, repeat after me: not my kid, none of my business. Repeat until it sinks in.

Unless someone else's child pooped pr peed directly on you or on your child, this is none of your concern. Move on. The world would be so much better if women didn't spend all this time and energy judging other women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

Sounds pretty stress free right until he gets invited to a sleepover or someone sees his pull-ups. Kids actually get embarrassed by those things even if you don't feel weird about having a kid in diapers way past the norm. Do the kid a favor.

He wears jammies at sleepovers. Wearing a pull up is no big deal for him I've never made it an issue. We don't live our lives to impress others or seek acceptance.

8??

So, the fear of having an 8 year old in a pullup is exactly what caused me to make sure that hell or highwater, we started potty training before 2.5. Maybe some people don't mind, that's great, but I would mind. I have clear memories of being 8.

I also have clear memories of being 8, and being a serial bedwetter. I remember changing and cleaning my wet sheets every night, and I remember my parents trying every bedwetting alarm or product to train me out of it. I remember feeling like crap about it a lot of the time. Frankly, I wish someone had just let me wear a pull up until I grew out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people feel the need to respond to an anonymous troll who is asking you to defend how you handled potty training your child?
Don't feed the troll - she's not asking for any advice here, she's just looking to work everyone up into a lather and sitting back enjoying her popcorn.

OP here. Actually, not the case at all. I was honestly wondering how some children are trained at 2 and some are in diapers at 4. How many people train before 3 and how many people wait for the child to train themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

Sounds pretty stress free right until he gets invited to a sleepover or someone sees his pull-ups. Kids actually get embarrassed by those things even if you don't feel weird about having a kid in diapers way past the norm. Do the kid a favor.

He wears jammies at sleepovers. Wearing a pull up is no big deal for him I've never made it an issue. We don't live our lives to impress others or seek acceptance.

8??

So, the fear of having an 8 year old in a pullup is exactly what caused me to make sure that hell or highwater, we started potty training before 2.5. Maybe some people don't mind, that's great, but I would mind. I have clear memories of being 8.

I also have clear memories of being 8, and being a serial bedwetter. I remember changing and cleaning my wet sheets every night, and I remember my parents trying every bedwetting alarm or product to train me out of it. I remember feeling like crap about it a lot of the time. Frankly, I wish someone had just let me wear a pull up until I grew out of it.

Aw, PP. night wetting has come a long way since we grew up (unlike this first poster who is obnoxious). pediatricians understand that this is a hormonal thing, and also genetic, and can take kids until 10 or 11 to grow out of bed wetting. i'm sorry you felt like crap about it, that sucks. my DD is 7.5 and is wet 6 out of 7 nights (DH's family all wet the bed). thankfully DD has a healthy self esteem and we don't make a big deal of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

Sounds pretty stress free right until he gets invited to a sleepover or someone sees his pull-ups. Kids actually get embarrassed by those things even if you don't feel weird about having a kid in diapers way past the norm. Do the kid a favor.

He wears jammies at sleepovers. Wearing a pull up is no big deal for him I've never made it an issue. We don't live our lives to impress others or seek acceptance.

8??

So, the fear of having an 8 year old in a pullup is exactly what caused me to make sure that hell or highwater, we started potty training before 2.5. Maybe some people don't mind, that's great, but I would mind. I have clear memories of being 8.

I also have clear memories of being 8, and being a serial bedwetter. I remember changing and cleaning my wet sheets every night, and I remember my parents trying every bedwetting alarm or product to train me out of it. I remember feeling like crap about it a lot of the time. Frankly, I wish someone had just let me wear a pull up until I grew out of it.

Aw, PP. night wetting has come a long way since we grew up (unlike this first poster who is obnoxious). pediatricians understand that this is a hormonal thing, and also genetic, and can take kids until 10 or 11 to grow out of bed wetting. i'm sorry you felt like crap about it, that sucks. my DD is 7.5 and is wet 6 out of 7 nights (DH's family all wet the bed). thankfully DD has a healthy self esteem and we don't make a big deal of it.

not the first PP, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me it is because I wanted them to learn to read first so they can read on the toilet. We're a zero screen time house.

I love this.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't push potty training on my son and he was trained by 3.5. He's 8 now and wears a pull up at night no big deal. My 2 year old is still in diapers. I'm doing the same with him and not forcing the potty. Less stress for everyone.

Sounds pretty stress free right until he gets invited to a sleepover or someone sees his pull-ups. Kids actually get embarrassed by those things even if you don't feel weird about having a kid in diapers way past the norm. Do the kid a favor.

He wears jammies at sleepovers. Wearing a pull up is no big deal for him I've never made it an issue. We don't live our lives to impress others or seek acceptance.

8??

So, the fear of having an 8 year old in a pullup is exactly what caused me to make sure that hell or highwater, we started potty training before 2.5. Maybe some people don't mind, that's great, but I would mind. I have clear memories of being 8.

I also have clear memories of being 8, and being a serial bedwetter. I remember changing and cleaning my wet sheets every night, and I remember my parents trying every bedwetting alarm or product to train me out of it. I remember feeling like crap about it a lot of the time. Frankly, I wish someone had just let me wear a pull up until I grew out of it.

Aw, PP. night wetting has come a long way since we grew up (unlike this first poster who is obnoxious). pediatricians understand that this is a hormonal thing, and also genetic, and can take kids until 10 or 11 to grow out of bed wetting. i'm sorry you felt like crap about it, that sucks. my DD is 7.5 and is wet 6 out of 7 nights (DH's family all wet the bed). thankfully DD has a healthy self esteem and we don't make a big deal of it.

I made the shocked face above - am I the PP you're calling obnoxious?

If so, it's not my intent - let me be clearer here.

If a kid has a bedwetting issue, sure, wear a pullup. No problem and definitely don't shame the kid for it. But to not TRY to night train in some fashion, and just use pullups until... the kid starts staying dry by her/himself even if third grade or later... that is not a path I am personally willing to take with my children. And the potty training book I used (oh crap potty training) suggests that bedwetting issues occur more often when the child begins the potty training process too late. Who knows if that's legit, but I'd rather deal with the accidents than risk it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people feel the need to respond to an anonymous troll who is asking you to defend how you handled potty training your child?
Don't feed the troll - she's not asking for any advice here, she's just looking to work everyone up into a lather and sitting back enjoying her popcorn.

OP here. Actually, not the case at all. I was honestly wondering how some children are trained at 2 and some are in diapers at 4. How many people train before 3 and how many people wait for the child to train themselves.

Bullshit. Here is your original post:

I know I'm going to start a debate here, but I really want to know how it comes to be that an able body/mind 4 year old is still not fully potty trained. I am a mother to an infant and am genuinely curious how that happens.

I'm a long time nanny and have potty trained two children, for what it's worth. I know how hard it is. But, I wasn't about to let a 3 year old go on not being potty trained. It seems to me that if the child can ask to be changed ("I need my diaper changed") then they're probably too old for a diaper. Is that not true?

Is it laziness? On the part of the parent and child to not start earlier?
Did you start and then stop?
Is 2 years old too young?
Is it just too darn hard so everyone waits until the child can basically do it all themselves, even if that takes until they're 4?

Sorry if this is all too harsh. I really want to know why your 3/4 year old isn't potty trained.

You knew full well that this would be seen as a criticism of parents who don't potty-train on the schedule you think appropriate. And honestly, why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people feel the need to respond to an anonymous troll who is asking you to defend how you handled potty training your child?
Don't feed the troll - she's not asking for any advice here, she's just looking to work everyone up into a lather and sitting back enjoying her popcorn.

OP here. Actually, not the case at all. I was honestly wondering how some children are trained at 2 and some are in diapers at 4. How many people train before 3 and how many people wait for the child to train themselves.

Bullshit. Here is your original post:

I know I'm going to start a debate here, but I really want to know how it comes to be that an able body/mind 4 year old is still not fully potty trained. I am a mother to an infant and am genuinely curious how that happens.

I'm a long time nanny and have potty trained two children, for what it's worth. I know how hard it is. But, I wasn't about to let a 3 year old go on not being potty trained. It seems to me that if the child can ask to be changed ("I need my diaper changed") then they're probably too old for a diaper. Is that not true?

Is it laziness? On the part of the parent and child to not start earlier?
Did you start and then stop?
Is 2 years old too young?
Is it just too darn hard so everyone waits until the child can basically do it all themselves, even if that takes until they're 4?

Sorry if this is all too harsh. I really want to know why your 3/4 year old isn't potty trained.

You knew full well that this would be seen as a criticism of parents who don't potty-train on the schedule you think appropriate. And honestly, why do you care?

+1 Yes, this was definitely designed to start a mommywar.

It's a personal choice, but one definitely encouraged by the availability of disposable diapers.

I was terrified of potty training and I think were it not for a friend who did it with her kid and showed me it could be done, I probably would have waited out of sheer fear. I'm glad I did go ahead with it at 2 though. I do not envy the late trainers. I much prefer occasional accidents to giant poop diapers.