Men who date younger but unable to perform

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Did you, like, try talking to them before asking them to dick you down? Since these are dealbreaker-level issues for you, you could try using your words to communicate, upfront, exactly what you're expecting.

Yes, condoms are a dealbreaker for me. Wonder how men in their 50s on dating apps don’t realize they need to use protection and figure out themselves their favorite brand ???

Then ask them before you even agree to meet. Or meet them, and ask them before you're willing to meet them again. But waiting until you're in bed with these dudes, plural, to even get to this info is a failure to communicate on YOUR behalf. It's your boundary. Use your words.

I told about condoms on date 2. They still weren’t prepared months after

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Anonymous wrote:Wow - sudden outburst of angry responses above. Not that I need to provide detail but I did date both of these men 1 and 3 months respectively before attempting sex. We had 6/15 dates and connected over many aspects, did various activities and even had a weekend trip with one before attempting sex . I now feel both men were leading me on by claiming they wanted to build a connection. Whereby in reality they just tried to delay sex.
I’m not saying the sex should happen on date 1-3 but maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates it should be a red flag of either lack of chemistry or inability to perform.
I don’t know the right answer - which is why seeing opinions on the forum and trying to find a solution.
Obviously I have toys but I’m dating to find a physical match, among other things.
Maybe a third date rule is not a bad idea - but I’m usually not ready for sex that early.

Maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates, and has said he wants to wait until he feels a connection, you should respect that instead of pressuring him into sex he has clearly stated he doesn't want and then being butthurt that the sex you pressured him into having didn't please you. Do you want to pressured into sex on date ____ when you're not ready? I mean, this is pretty basic "treat others as you'd want to be treated", right?

And if you're ready, and he's not, and not catching that D literally RIGHT NOW is a dealbreaker for you, then break the deal (and maybe go to therapy to work out why you're so adamant that everyone adhere to your timeline).

I actually did wait for a month with one man and 3 months with the second

And in one and three months, respectively, you had zero conversations about your sexual expectations (which you keep calling "needs", they're that important to you) like condom use, D on demand delivery, etc, even though, somehow, they managed to tell you they're looking for deeper connections and want to wait/go slow until they feel comfortable?

This is on you, OP. Learn something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Did you, like, try talking to them before asking them to dick you down? Since these are dealbreaker-level issues for you, you could try using your words to communicate, upfront, exactly what you're expecting.

Yes, condoms are a dealbreaker for me. Wonder how men in their 50s on dating apps don’t realize they need to use protection and figure out themselves their favorite brand ???

Then ask them before you even agree to meet. Or meet them, and ask them before you're willing to meet them again. But waiting until you're in bed with these dudes, plural, to even get to this info is a failure to communicate on YOUR behalf. It's your boundary. Use your words.

I told about condoms on date 2. They still weren’t prepared months after

Weren't prepared, as in didn't bring your preferred brand? Why don't you have the condoms you prefer ready for yourself?

OP, you sound positively insufferable. I've gone a big rubbery one just reading this dreck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

"high libido" is still not "needs another human's body". That's not. a. need.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow - sudden outburst of angry responses above. Not that I need to provide detail but I did date both of these men 1 and 3 months respectively before attempting sex. We had 6/15 dates and connected over many aspects, did various activities and even had a weekend trip with one before attempting sex . I now feel both men were leading me on by claiming they wanted to build a connection. Whereby in reality they just tried to delay sex.
I’m not saying the sex should happen on date 1-3 but maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates it should be a red flag of either lack of chemistry or inability to perform.
I don’t know the right answer - which is why seeing opinions on the forum and trying to find a solution.
Obviously I have toys but I’m dating to find a physical match, among other things.
Maybe a third date rule is not a bad idea - but I’m usually not ready for sex that early.

Maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates, and has said he wants to wait until he feels a connection, you should respect that instead of pressuring him into sex he has clearly stated he doesn't want and then being butthurt that the sex you pressured him into having didn't please you. Do you want to pressured into sex on date ____ when you're not ready? I mean, this is pretty basic "treat others as you'd want to be treated", right?

And if you're ready, and he's not, and not catching that D literally RIGHT NOW is a dealbreaker for you, then break the deal (and maybe go to therapy to work out why you're so adamant that everyone adhere to your timeline).

I actually did wait for a month with one man and 3 months with the second

And in one and three months, respectively, you had zero conversations about your sexual expectations (which you keep calling "needs", they're that important to you) like condom use, D on demand delivery, etc, even though, somehow, they managed to tell you they're looking for deeper connections and want to wait/go slow until they feel comfortable?

This is on you, OP. Learn something.

Of course we had these conversations, make out sessions, etc. Why are you making stuff up ?
You must be some sexless incel

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

"high libido" is still not "needs another human's body". That's not. a. need.

Sex is a physical need. Without sex most people become nuts like you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Oh not you again!!!!!!

For the millionth time, YES, sex is a basic biological need. If it weren't, our species would be extinct by now.

Love the name-calling calling though. You must feel really secure in your beliefs if you have to resort to that.

[Anonymous]

I am your typical horny 45M in a dead bedroom marriage not of my choice. I haven’t worn a condom in 15 years. No ED problems. Yet, I’ll be honest that I’m not even sure what would happen if I mixed the anxiousness of a new sexual relationship with the requirement for a condom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

"high libido" is still not "needs another human's body". That's not. a. need.

Sex is a physical need. Without sex most people become nuts like you

I guarantee I get laid more often than you do, as evidenced by your need to lash out at me for not accepting your alternative facts as biological reality.

But go off if you can't get off, right? Freak...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Oh not you again!!!!!!

For the millionth time, YES, sex is a basic biological need. If it weren't, our species would be extinct by now.

Love the name-calling calling though. You must feel really secure in your beliefs if you have to resort to that.

This is such a perversion of science to justify rapey af behavior. You don't need to reproduce. If you're female, you'll actually live longer if you don't.

Yes, obvious troll, humans, as a species, do need to reproduce. But that doesn't mean individuals must have sex or they'll just shrivel up and die.

Pathetic, really. You can't get laid so you make up this whole pseudoscience about how people who don't want to sleep with you should take pills that might harm them and do it anyway because you "need" it.

What you need is an education in both science and boundaries.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

The solution to your mental hangups about sex is not going to be solved by trying to shame adults on the internet.

The solution to your lack of "needed" D is not going to be solved by trolling anons on the mommy board.

I'm not the OP, but again, examine why you need to lash out at people for having the most basic biological need. Therapy for you is in order.

Nobody needs sex. Likes it, wants it, feels better with it, sure. But no, dummy, it's not a "basic biological need". Just like all other addictive substances aren't needs either. If you "need" sex to the point where you're willing to disregard other people's boundaries to get it, well, that last sentence in your post is for you, projecting PP.

Sorry but you are just flat wrong. There are people with low and high libido. The task is to find the right match.

"high libido" is still not "needs another human's body". That's not. a. need.

Sex is a physical need. Without sex most people become nuts like you

I guarantee I get laid more often than you do, as evidenced by your need to lash out at me for not accepting your alternative facts as biological reality.

But go off if you can't get off, right? Freak...

I'm so tired of seeing your nonsense in every thread about sexual NEEDS.

Please stop your repeated tirades and deal with your issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

Are you so fragile that the merest mention of this sets you off this way? Sounds like a you problem.