Men who date younger but unable to perform

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Your spouse is abusing you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Your spouse is abusing you.

And now she is abusing all of us with her nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am your typical horny 45M in a dead bedroom marriage not of my choice. I haven’t worn a condom in 15 years. No ED problems. Yet, I’ll be honest that I’m not even sure what would happen if I mixed the anxiousness of a new sexual relationship with the requirement for a condom.

Right there with you. Now imagine you’re with a 45 year-old, rather than the 28 year-old you married. I would definitely bring some V.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am your typical horny 45M in a dead bedroom marriage not of my choice. I haven’t worn a condom in 15 years. No ED problems. Yet, I’ll be honest that I’m not even sure what would happen if I mixed the anxiousness of a new sexual relationship with the requirement for a condom.

Right there with you. Now imagine you’re with a 45 year-old, rather than the 28 year-old you married. I would definitely bring some V.

This post again alleges that men in 40-50s have ED issues because of the age of their partners. Are you saying a mid 50s man would never have ED issues with a 28yo woman? LOL

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Wonder how many morons on this thread complain about Big Pharma all the time. Lol

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This is why men in mid-life have affairs: they blame their same-age wife for their failure to get it up. They don’t stray because their wife got old, however; they stray because they did.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Most men date women their age. What's your issue? It's you a YOU problem. There is nothing wrong with you preferring younger men who can perform anytime. I honestly don't see the point of your post. I'm confused

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

Maybe what you think comes off as confident comes off as trashy and crass? Just sayin...

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Is anyone claiming that it's not possible????

Why are you trying to project your misery onto everyone?

People are saying it's a need. A need is something you require. People don't require sex. They can live without it.

And I'm not miserable.

It is a need. Just because you don't understand it and can force yourself to go without, it doesn't mean it's not a need. By your own admission, you're not doing it because you don't have the need. You're doing it because you think it's sinful to get it outside of your marriage.

If you weren't miserable, you wouldn't be touting how "it's NOT A NEED" every chance you get.

Dude, that is literally exactly what it means! You NEED air. You can't force yourself to go without it. Try it (please). You can force yourself to go without food and water, but only for a very limited time, and the consequences are serious. But, as multiple people (not just one) have tried to help you understand, sex is NOT a need. You can go your entire life, birth to death, never having sex.

I'm sorry your sex-starved addict brain is having trouble functioning without someone else's genitals mashed on yours, but... that's a you problem. And yeah, you do seem pretty miserable about it. Seek help.

DUDETTE, learn how to read. I already told you, I have plenty of sex. Not every need we have is life or death. Clearly your need to come back here repeatedly to piss in the wind how you don't want sex and therefore no one NEEDS it is a sick NEED of some sort. You just need to come back every chance you get to spew your nonsense.

Stop making a perfectly healthy need for sex that the overwhelming majority of the human species has something perverted.

You are the only one with a problem. Clearly the lack of sex is messing with you and making a miserable, angry shrew.

I have more sex than you, guaranteed. You continue to assume facts not in evidence about an anon on the internet, while projecting your mediocrity onto me. You don't seem to understand the fundamental difference between "needs" (things you must have to survive) and "wants" (things you really enjoy, that make your life happier and/or more fulfilling, but which you could survive without). You also keep trying to claim someone said it was "perverted". Didn't happen. Read the thread again.

I don't have a problem, I simply have a perspective you disagree with. Calm down about it or log off. You've sounded stupid from the start and you're beginning to sound unhinged.

Awww, I’m sorry I triggered you so much. I hope you’re having more sex than I am truly. It’s a stress reliever and you seem really tightly wound. Perhaps while you’re not screwing, look up the hierarchy of needs. I never claimed anyone would die without sex. Only you do that. You do it in every thread you respond to. Then you come back to pretend it’s not you bla bla bla. Just like today you first said you don’t have sex because sex outside of your sexless marriage is sin, but whatever.

I’ll say it again, sexual needs are basic human needs. Not sure why that earks you so much since you have “so much sex.”

You're a jerk, and I'm going to let you be that, and wrong, which I'll also accept, but... Do you know how the internet works? Do you really think the person you're responding to wrote... half the thread? Because, well, I didn't. And your post makes you sound like you just got dial up yesterday.

Odd position to attack from, but... do you, sweetheart. And best of luck with it!

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Anonymous wrote:The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking

Why is that?

Not pp, but it's meaningless to a lot of people these days. Not that all sex has to be some sort of sacred ritual, but...

It's not intimate/intimacy at all. It's just some sort of cheap exploitation of another human's body by people who are usually trying to wrangle something in their own head. The solution for your mental problems isn't in someone else's pants.

All sex outside of marriage is this? Are you nuts?

Are you so fragile that the merest mention of this sets you off this way? Sounds like a you problem.

Here's what started this thread:
"The way people talk so casually about sex outside marriage is so heartbreaking"

You really think having sex outside of marriage is sinful, cheap exploitation?

Sometimes, yes. Though, if you're asking, I see plenty of "duty sex" within the confines of a marriage the same way, so... 🤷🏼‍♀️

So what the actual f*** is your point?
1) Pre or extramarital sex is bad and we're going to burn in hell or,
2) maybe it's not so bad compared to bad marital sex.

Babygirl, you're responding to at least two different people on this thread. I'm sorry this is so hard for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Your spouse is abusing you.

Nope. Preventing someone from leaving is abuse. Y'all are so entitled; you think people owe you access to their bodies? that's messed up!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Your spouse is abusing you.

Nope. Preventing someone from leaving is abuse. Y'all are so entitled; you think people owe you access to their bodies? that's messed up!

OP here - left the thread couple days ago surprised the discussion is still ongoing.

I do understand nobody “owes” me sex. But I am within my right to let go anyone I date who doesn’t provide it or tries to learn at least. I’m not married or took any chastity oath to anyone. I’m within my right to find the person who makes it happy. The men who don’t need sex often to feel fulfilled can date women like PP who would be a better match.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why so many people were so hostile to OP. There are lots of people like her (both sexes). She hasn't done anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex in five years, and yet I'm still alive. Fascinating.

It's called being asexual. It's very much not the norm.

I'm not asexual, I have a pretty high libido actually, but my spouse no longer wants to have sex and sex outside of marriage is sinful so I'm celibate. It's possible.

Your spouse is abusing you.

Nope. Preventing someone from leaving is abuse. Y'all are so entitled; you think people owe you access to their bodies? that's messed up!

OP here - left the thread couple days ago surprised the discussion is still ongoing.

I do understand nobody “owes” me sex. But I am within my right to let go anyone I date who doesn’t provide it or tries to learn at least. I’m not married or took any chastity oath to anyone. I’m within my right to find the person who makes it happy. The men who don’t need sex often to feel fulfilled can date women like PP who would be a better match.

If you already know this... why this stupid thread? Just DTMFA and keep looking for what you want. Your oddly-specific, Goldilocks timeline (not the first few dates, but not too many, usually 5-6 but sometimes months but sometimes never) needs to be declared upfront. You have a lot of agency here. Maybe you should be refining your own dating profile rather than insulting people who are clearly communicating their preferences to you. There's nothing wrong with wanting what you want, and there's a lot wrong with insulting others just because you didn't get what you wanted.

[Anonymous]

Sex is a mystical energy exchange. Don’t cheapen it after 5 dates with a senior citizen stranger. It will tarnish you.