Men who date younger but unable to perform

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.

[Anonymous]

So don't date them.

It's not your business who another adult wants to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.

Not pressuring people into sex is, indeed, the "way to go." You sound like a rapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

Great, I'll only date men who say yes and often. Sounds like the way to go.

Not pressuring people into sex is, indeed, the "way to go." You sound like a rapist.

I thought when men put on their profile they look to date, they are looking for sex among other things? If there is a medical problem that prevents you from taking V pill shouldn't you disclose it early on, and not a few months after "dating", when the woman is attached is gets hard to break things off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So don't date them.

It's not your business who another adult wants to date.

+million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So don't date them.

It's not your business who another adult wants to date.

It kind of my business now as I felt being led for months by men who took me on dates. I grew on them romantically but had to break it off and was heart broken with one of them in particular. But I cannot sign up for a sexless relationship either.

Posting this so that men can realistically look at their own abilities and be honest with their dates from the start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

[Anonymous]

There is no way a man is his 60s was a good partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

You sound easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Another woman is not going to travel with me, attend family events, go to museums, hikes, biking, spend most weekends together. I love men, sex, male companionship. Even if this relationship lasts for 10 years, it would be still a great run. Maybe when I'm late 50s and no longer need all these things, I would be happier just being a "lady who lunches".

In my age group women are also busy with kids, work - it's not like they can devote a lot of time to friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

You sound easy.

No, I just know what a sexless relationship is and try to avoid it. I'm divorced and single because this is not something I wanted for myself

[Anonymous]

I think you have to realize that you are an oddity, so you aren’t going to get the advice you want. High earning empty nester in your mid-40s? High sex drive and can orgasm from PIV (assumed from your comment about not lasting long).

I’d recommend looking at divorcees with kids in their teens and split custody. Upper 40s maybe. That still gives you a combination of freedom and youth, and if it works out, you can think long term after the kids are off to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you have to realize that you are an oddity, so you aren’t going to get the advice you want. High earning empty nester in your mid-40s? High sex drive and can orgasm from PIV (assumed from your comment about not lasting long).

I’d recommend looking at divorcees with kids in their teens and split custody. Upper 40s maybe. That still gives you a combination of freedom and youth, and if it works out, you can think long term after the kids are off to college.

Yes regretfully I only finish from
PIV. We used toys it worked ok but I do need a real thing ….
I tried to show them how to use hands - they were all reluctant to learn