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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow - sudden outburst of angry responses above. Not that I need to provide detail but I did date both of these men 1 and 3 months respectively before attempting sex. We had 6/15 dates and connected over many aspects, did various activities and even had a weekend trip with one before attempting  sex . I now feel both men were leading me on by claiming they wanted to build a connection. Whereby in reality they just tried to delay sex. 
I’m not saying the sex should happen on date 1-3 but maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates it should be a red flag of either lack of chemistry or inability to perform. 
I don’t know the right answer - which is why seeing opinions on the forum and trying to find a solution. 
Obviously I have toys but I’m dating to find a physical match, among other things. 
Maybe a third date rule is not a bad idea - but I’m usually not ready for sex that early. [/quote]

Maybe if a man is not offering to take you home after a few dates, and has said he wants to wait until he feels a connection, you should respect that instead of pressuring him into sex he has clearly stated he doesn't want and then being butthurt that the sex you pressured him into having didn't please you. Do you want to pressured into sex on date ____ when you're not ready? I mean, this is pretty basic "treat others as you'd want to be treated", right?

And if you're ready, and he's not, and not catching that D literally RIGHT NOW is a dealbreaker for you, then break the deal (and maybe go to therapy to work out why you're so adamant that everyone adhere to your timeline).[/quote]

I actually did wait for a month with one man and 3 months with the second [/quote]

And in one and three months, respectively, you had zero conversations about your sexual expectations (which you keep calling "needs", they're that important to you) like condom use, D on demand delivery, etc, even though, somehow, they managed to tell you they're looking for deeper connections and want to wait/go slow until they feel comfortable?

This is on you, OP. Learn something.[/quote]

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