Men who date younger but unable to perform

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You sound trashy, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Obvi money.

Jesus men think ability to have a dating budget and not being too burdened by childcare is a huge prize and worthy a "gold digging" sticker. I make very good money (400K) myself

Win win win!
No pesky kids to raise around much. No pesky wife wanting household stuff done. Just keep focusing on work and myself like I always did, but now I can date when convenient!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

Valid. Date younger. As a woman not looking for marriage or more kids, you hold all the power in dating, so perhaps stay away from the old dudes and see if you like 30-somethings better? Just give it a try....

I don't want kids but I do want to find a long term partner which hopefully results in marriage after a few years together. I dont want to hookup with different 30s men well into my 50s. Don't thing a man who is 10 years younger would stay with me long term.

Search continues...

Why do you want a long-term partner and marriage? Many women our age find that the companionship of other women is preferable to men. Also, women outlive men, so if you marry someone your age or older, statistically, you're signing up to be his caretaker and then dying alone. If you invest the same amount of time into developing close friendships with other women, then you'll have a support network that is more likely to last you into your old age. You can have men for friendship and sex, but anything more is generally a losing proposition once you're in your 40s or beyond.

Another woman is not going to travel with me, attend family events, go to museums, hikes, biking, spend most weekends together. I love men, sex, male companionship. Even if this relationship lasts for 10 years, it would be still a great run. Maybe when I'm late 50s and no longer need all these things, I would be happier just being a "lady who lunches".

In my age group women are also busy with kids, work - it's not like they can devote a lot of time to friends

If it's only a 10-year run, date younger and enjoy your and their youth while you can!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

[Anonymous]

Stop dating old wrinkly fogies. Younger men won’t have this issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have to realize that you are an oddity, so you aren’t going to get the advice you want. High earning empty nester in your mid-40s? High sex drive and can orgasm from PIV (assumed from your comment about not lasting long).

I’d recommend looking at divorcees with kids in their teens and split custody. Upper 40s maybe. That still gives you a combination of freedom and youth, and if it works out, you can think long term after the kids are off to college.

Yes regretfully I only finish from
PIV. We used toys it worked ok but I do need a real thing ….
I tried to show them how to use hands - they were all reluctant to learn

Careful there. This is a non-explicit forum.

But plenty of trolls so I can see how you feel comfortable here.

[Anonymous]

Why are you dating older men? Seems like you are setting yourself up for dissatisfaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

Girllllllllllllll date a man your own age and with great looks as yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

We late 50s women don't want them either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have to realize that you are an oddity, so you aren’t going to get the advice you want. High earning empty nester in your mid-40s? High sex drive and can orgasm from PIV (assumed from your comment about not lasting long).

I’d recommend looking at divorcees with kids in their teens and split custody. Upper 40s maybe. That still gives you a combination of freedom and youth, and if it works out, you can think long term after the kids are off to college.

Yes regretfully I only finish from
PIV. We used toys it worked ok but I do need a real thing ….
I tried to show them how to use hands - they were all reluctant to learn

DP. In the same boat except I'm married. Not reluctant to learn in DH's case, just awful at it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

Yup, size 3??? I'm a woman and have never heard another woman use that terminology.

[Anonymous]

Once in 40's, 50's, 60's, the age difference in the range doesn't count as older or younger. It's just old dating old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

Yup, size 3??? I'm a woman and have never heard another woman use that terminology.

Lol, it's a troll for sure. There is no Size 3.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

I call troll. Likely a man posting.

Yup, size 3??? I'm a woman and have never heard another woman use that terminology.

Lol, it's a troll for sure. There is no Size 3.

There is a dude who loves to post about Jessica Alba. Pretty sure he is our resident troll.

[Anonymous]

It's a very common problem and increasing. It's a side effect from having cardiovascular disease, and a significant amount of men in the US have it - wife of cardiologist here. Date younger.