Men who date younger but unable to perform

[Anonymous]

I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

[Anonymous]

Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

[Anonymous]

I’m 53 and never had any issues performing with a younger partner. I can’t go 3 times in a single sitting like I did in my 20’s but if my partner wants to keep going there’s always the magic pill. You may have had a run of bad luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Weird. Even if fresh off a divorce and only had 1-3 partners long ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Lack of condom use is a huge red flag. Date men your own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 53 and never had any issues performing with a younger partner. I can’t go 3 times in a single sitting like I did in my 20’s but if my partner wants to keep going there’s always the magic pill. You may have had a run of bad luck.

On which date do you usually have sex? Maybe I should try to move it to date 3 and only date those who are interested and carry condoms always ready? And read it as a red flag when a man says he needs "connection" before sex? Dating these 3 took half a year and months before sex had happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Lack of condom use is a huge red flag. Date men your own age.

I did insist on condoms, which resulted in complaints (siting that they "didn't use it with ex wives and were decease clean"). But I still didn't want to catch HPV or herpes from whoever they could had rubbed with prior. They couldn't perform in condoms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

Lack of condom use is a huge red flag. Date men your own age.

Yes, I limited now the age range. But I did have a great sex experience with an early 60s man a while ago - he was amazing partner. So excluding everyone attractive solely based on age is also not efficient

I'm mostly frustrated because I think men who are aware of their problems in that area shouldn't be trying to date younger women who need performance. I send the message straight at first date that I'm looking for a great sexual chemistry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Mid 40s men often have very young kids and I'm an empty nester so we are on different stages of life and it's complicated even to spend the weekends together. Or those who were never married are not attractive or have other hangups/security issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Obvi money.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

Why are you even trying to date older men? I don't see what's in it for you. Stay single or find someone in their mid-40s or younger.

Obvi money.

Jesus men think ability to have a dating budget and not being too burdened by childcare is a huge prize and worthy a "gold digging" sticker. I make very good money (400K) myself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

They "tried" to say no, but you had to "insist" is a really creepy sentiment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?