Great guy but sex is mediocre
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Anonymous
Anyone can allow a man to slap them around and call them names, lol. If you truly think that's what makes for good sex no wonder your man isnt very interested |
Anonymous
You have very limited technical knowledge of sex. Responding on what other toys, techniques and games are played would take me to write an essay and likely make this thread deleted. But each their own. Sit in your shell of rightfulness |
Anonymous
Yes, and it would also largely be a waste of your time to type such extensive lists out when most people dont want to learn intimacy tips from someone who has an admittedly awful and unfulfilling sex life. Better not to waste your own time and instead focusing on increasing your own knowledge/energy until you can have the kind of wonderful sex life that plenty of people, including myself, have. Maybe if youre open to learning you can get there one day. |
Anonymous
Listen my life is fine my man and I orgasm in multiple waves, happy etc. I’m not OP who actually started the thread asking how to make her man more librated and open to play. Good luck to you - make sure he doesn’t look elsewhere to get that. |
Anonymous
I really doubt that, if it were true you wouldnt be spending so much time arguing with people (with horrific punctuation/grammar) on DCUM. And I really hope your "man" (interesting you didnt say husband) doesnt go elsewhere since frankly your sex life does sound fairly robotic and inauthentic. |
Anonymous
DP; I never understand comments like this. With this dynamic where each person is in a constant role, by definition your experience is limited. |
Anonymous
There are no constant roles or expectations how exactly each time would go. We have regular romantic sex as well just anyone else. I’m not arguing - it’s in fact the vanilla sex poster who is extremely aggressive in her judgments about others sex lives |
Anonymous
DP. It sounds pretty rigid, assuming he's always playing the same role of dominant one and youre always submissive. And yes, you certainly are arguing. You also seem pretty aggressive in your judgements on characterization of "vanilla sex" despite admitting you engage in it occasionally. |
Anonymous
I’m not. You however made several accusatory statements that men are not really into their partners, if they engage in role play, sex is subpar, not varied etc. You have no clue about other people relationships and if women desire this it means their experiences were positive |
Anonymous
I have clues about basic psychology, and the rise in these "kinky" behaviors since porn usage became widespread. Or the fact that a much higher percentage of women who engage in these behavior are CSA victims. Calling out these facts is not an "accusatory statement", but rather a basic reality. I also have friends and realize that most of the women I know who are big into kink dont really seem able to maintain long term relationships with men, tend to report unsatisfying sex lives, dont get as much interest from men, etc. Again, if such information sharing triggers you, I urge you to avoid public forums where these kinds of discussions occur. |
Anonymous
Without your own sex therapist license number and proven stats you are just polluting the air here with empty statements and personal accusations |
Anonymous
That's why we have statistics https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202406/why-do-people-begin-exploring-bdsm And you appear to be doing the same, and it's even worse since no one asked about your very lackluster and depressing sound sexual life, but you want to talk about it nonetheless, despite everything sounding grim and depressing. |
Anonymous
And? First , it’s just a study from two universities not something widely recognized. Second, the conclusion of the article you’ve shared is that people who incorporate it in their bedroom largely find it satisfying . You claims are that it’s violent, non-committal, exploitative and rigid. “ This study shows that however people begin playing with elements of BDSM, they often find it sufficiently powerful, seductive, and compelling to continue that kind of erotic play.” |
Anonymous
The conclusion is that it's influenced by the rise in porn, lol. Which is deeply embarrassing. Again, many BDSMers are just lame porn addicts or CSA survivors who havent worked through their trauma. You wanted stats, there they are. There is nothing transgressive about a sexual style that marches in lockstep with popular culture and traditional cultural values- rather it's stale and boring. A lot of these people have just watched way too much porn, to the point where they have to play out these scenes from movies rather than being authentically involved with their partners. |
Anonymous
It’s YOUR conclusion but not the article’s conclusion. Not sure why you are so ashamed of others porn use. Shouldn't be your concern if you ate healthy as you claim. You remind me those deeply gay Catholic priests who were at war with gays And porn, like any other media, just shows the amplified version of what many people find sexually satisfying. As long as people find something satisfying in their bedroom, it’s up to them to use these sex practices |