Son and DIL insulting vacation we paid for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad. We just got back from a week at the beach with my parents and siblings and everyone had a good time. The house was a little too small, but that's ok. We spent most of our time outside of it.

My brother and I paid and my parents thanked us by taking us out to dinner one night and thanking us when they got home. People shouldn't say mean things about a vacation house they're staying at for free. It would hurt my feelings too.

How does this even make sense that this is about you and your feelings - if you (wait for it) don't even own the rental house???

So what, OP? Don't you have bigger troubles? Maybe you need to volunteer at a orphanage or something, to understand gratitude.

What would happen if something really serious happened in your life, OP? Are you really this sheltered?

Maybe OP is a total witch or maybe she’s just a nice lady who was really looking forward to time with her family and is sad that some of the people she loves the most in this world are seemingly miserable on a vacation that she planned with their needs in mind. I’ll assume the best of everyone here because why not and say son and dil are sarcastic and blunt and don’t realize their comments are bringing people down and OP is disappointed because she had high hopes for the vacation. Hopefully OP can brush off the comments and remember that they aren’t intended to be hurtful and hopefully her son can pick up the mood a bit and recognize that complaining about the vacation at every turn is bringing the mood down.

HAHAHA no.

OP sounds like she thinks she is doing DIL a favor. Maybe DIL feels like she is doing OP a favor, by taking time off and lugging her family to a place that OP picked.

OP, can you just be grateful that they joined you - if that is really (really) what you wanted?

DIL isn't going to join you next time, if you are so easily set off. I wouldn't blame her. She probably doesn't feel welcome.

I am pretty sure OP did not personally pick the curtains. I could be wrong.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a vacation, it’s a trip, but they are still willing to spend precious vacation time with you. Take the win. Or by all means, say something and risk losing out on vacations with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad. We just got back from a week at the beach with my parents and siblings and everyone had a good time. The house was a little too small, but that's ok. We spent most of our time outside of it.

My brother and I paid and my parents thanked us by taking us out to dinner one night and thanking us when they got home. People shouldn't say mean things about a vacation house they're staying at for free. It would hurt my feelings too.

How does this even make sense that this is about you and your feelings - if you (wait for it) don't even own the rental house???

So what, OP? Don't you have bigger troubles? Maybe you need to volunteer at a orphanage or something, to understand gratitude.

What would happen if something really serious happened in your life, OP? Are you really this sheltered?

Maybe OP is a total witch or maybe she’s just a nice lady who was really looking forward to time with her family and is sad that some of the people she loves the most in this world are seemingly miserable on a vacation that she planned with their needs in mind. I’ll assume the best of everyone here because why not and say son and dil are sarcastic and blunt and don’t realize their comments are bringing people down and OP is disappointed because she had high hopes for the vacation. Hopefully OP can brush off the comments and remember that they aren’t intended to be hurtful and hopefully her son can pick up the mood a bit and recognize that complaining about the vacation at every turn is bringing the mood down.

OP, if you think your DIL makes you look bad, as you seem to have internalized - maybe ask DH to come by himself? I am sure DIL will be relieved! Maybe she can go somewhere with her friends!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a vacation, it’s a trip, but they are still willing to spend precious vacation time with you. Take the win. Or by all means, say something and risk losing out on vacations with them.

+1

What kind of room did you stick DIL and your son in, OP? Dying to know! Were there bunk beds or lumpy pull out couches involved? Do tell!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

Ripped a new one? For sharing an opinion on lack of sleep due to curtains? Ok, we see the problem here, thank you.

Entitlement? For wanting to be able to sleep on vacation? OP, maybe switch rooms and see how you like the lack of sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me sad. We just got back from a week at the beach with my parents and siblings and everyone had a good time. The house was a little too small, but that's ok. We spent most of our time outside of it.

My brother and I paid and my parents thanked us by taking us out to dinner one night and thanking us when they got home. People shouldn't say mean things about a vacation house they're staying at for free. It would hurt my feelings too.

How does this even make sense that this is about you and your feelings - if you (wait for it) don't even own the rental house???

So what, OP? Don't you have bigger troubles? Maybe you need to volunteer at a orphanage or something, to understand gratitude.

What would happen if something really serious happened in your life, OP? Are you really this sheltered?

Maybe OP is a total witch or maybe she’s just a nice lady who was really looking forward to time with her family and is sad that some of the people she loves the most in this world are seemingly miserable on a vacation that she planned with their needs in mind. I’ll assume the best of everyone here because why not and say son and dil are sarcastic and blunt and don’t realize their comments are bringing people down and OP is disappointed because she had high hopes for the vacation. Hopefully OP can brush off the comments and remember that they aren’t intended to be hurtful and hopefully her son can pick up the mood a bit and recognize that complaining about the vacation at every turn is bringing the mood down.

HAHAHA no.

OP sounds like she thinks she is doing DIL a favor. Maybe DIL feels like she is doing OP a favor, by taking time off and lugging her family to a place that OP picked.

OP, can you just be grateful that they joined you - if that is really (really) what you wanted?

DIL isn't going to join you next time, if you are so easily set off. I wouldn't blame her. She probably doesn't feel welcome.

I am pretty sure OP did not personally pick the curtains. I could be wrong.

I’m a dil with young kids so I know very well the challenges of family vacations. I still don’t think it’s nice to constantly complain to the person who organized the trip. I also don’t think this has to be a mil vs dil situation. Son is doing the complaining, too and it is rude and thoughtless of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

I don't think that DIL was informed of the sub par accommodations until they arrived, after no doubt a rather long road trip. Would LOVE to hear the DIL's side!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

Ripped a new one? For sharing an opinion on lack of sleep due to curtains? Ok, we see the problem here, thank you.

Entitlement? For wanting to be able to sleep on vacation? OP, maybe switch rooms and see how you like the lack of sleep.

Ok I shouldn't have used that language but, the point is they could have complained privately to each other and acknowledged that the parents were trying to do the right thing. Life isn't perfect and it sounds like they were the only ones complaining. I hope they decide not to join op next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

Ripped a new one? For sharing an opinion on lack of sleep due to curtains? Ok, we see the problem here, thank you.

Entitlement? For wanting to be able to sleep on vacation? OP, maybe switch rooms and see how you like the lack of sleep.

Ok I shouldn't have used that language but, the point is they could have complained privately to each other and acknowledged that the parents were trying to do the right thing. Life isn't perfect and it sounds like they were the only ones complaining. I hope they decide not to join op next year.

I agree with this. If MIL isn't even in a position to fix the problem what good does it do to complain to her? Son and DIL sound like the need to find the manager and complain to them. Then when you get home son and his mom can have a little chat about what worked and what didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

Ripped a new one? For sharing an opinion on lack of sleep due to curtains? Ok, we see the problem here, thank you.

Entitlement? For wanting to be able to sleep on vacation? OP, maybe switch rooms and see how you like the lack of sleep.

Ok I shouldn't have used that language but, the point is they could have complained privately to each other and acknowledged that the parents were trying to do the right thing. Life isn't perfect and it sounds like they were the only ones complaining. I hope they decide not to join op next year.

I agree with this. If MIL isn't even in a position to fix the problem what good does it do to complain to her? Son and DIL sound like the need to find the manager and complain to them. Then when you get home son and his mom can have a little chat about what worked and what didn't.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

I don't think that DIL was informed of the sub par accommodations until they arrived, after no doubt a rather long road trip. Would LOVE to hear the DIL's side!

To add, DIL's side: So, I don't have much time off from work, but I knew this was important to MIL, and she can be quite difficult. I am damned if I do, and damned if I don't, so I decided, for my DH, that we should go to their idea of beach week. But - DH hates it, because his family was quite rotten to him growing up, and they all fall into their their old dysfunctional roles, each time they are together. It sets DH's therapy back years each time. I really need to stop convincing him he needs to attend and stop trying to please or pacify these cruel and ungrateful people. When will I learn that true family is more like mine - at the bare minimum, they love and accept you, and show it. They don't praise strangers, they enjoy and appreciate their own family. They have positive togetherness stories to share, not just about how they mistreated DH when mom and dad were checked out once again, and how they found it so very amusing. It is nice to have a positive example, and I am grateful every day. Next year, we will spend precious time off with people who actually want us around - like my family and cousins, who include us each year. We are lucky to have them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

Ripped a new one? For sharing an opinion on lack of sleep due to curtains? Ok, we see the problem here, thank you.

Entitlement? For wanting to be able to sleep on vacation? OP, maybe switch rooms and see how you like the lack of sleep.

Ok I shouldn't have used that language but, the point is they could have complained privately to each other and acknowledged that the parents were trying to do the right thing. Life isn't perfect and it sounds like they were the only ones complaining. I hope they decide not to join op next year.

Me too - because by not accepting DIL, OP is telling (OP's son) what they knew all along - they don't accept him, either.

OP, your son isn't stupid, and he is no longer a little boy. Time to change your thinking - or lack of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

I don't think that DIL was informed of the sub par accommodations until they arrived, after no doubt a rather long road trip. Would LOVE to hear the DIL's side!

To add, DIL's side: So, I don't have much time off from work, but I knew this was important to MIL, and she can be quite difficult. I am damned if I do, and damned if I don't, so I decided, for my DH, that we should go to their idea of beach week. But - DH hates it, because his family was quite rotten to him growing up, and they all fall into their their old dysfunctional roles, each time they are together. It sets DH's therapy back years each time. I really need to stop convincing him he needs to attend and stop trying to please or pacify these cruel and ungrateful people. When will I learn that true family is more like mine - at the bare minimum, they love and accept you, and show it. They don't praise strangers, they enjoy and appreciate their own family. They have positive togetherness stories to share, not just about how they mistreated DH when mom and dad were checked out once again, and how they found it so very amusing. It is nice to have a positive example, and I am grateful every day. Next year, we will spend precious time off with people who actually want us around - like my family and cousins, who include us each year. We are lucky to have them!

WTF? You got all that from or you're just projecting your crap here? Start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another instance of boomers expecting to be given praise for their crappy contributions. Get over yourself and learn what a vacation is instead of hording all your money.

Actually it is an example of the entitlement of the younger generation. If you don't like the accomendations than politely decline. Your parents are human and while they may not want praise 24-7 they do not deserve to be ripped a new one for trying to make some happy memories for your family.

I don't think that DIL was informed of the sub par accommodations until they arrived, after no doubt a rather long road trip. Would LOVE to hear the DIL's side!

To add, DIL's side: So, I don't have much time off from work, but I knew this was important to MIL, and she can be quite difficult. I am damned if I do, and damned if I don't, so I decided, for my DH, that we should go to their idea of beach week. But - DH hates it, because his family was quite rotten to him growing up, and they all fall into their their old dysfunctional roles, each time they are together. It sets DH's therapy back years each time. I really need to stop convincing him he needs to attend and stop trying to please or pacify these cruel and ungrateful people. When will I learn that true family is more like mine - at the bare minimum, they love and accept you, and show it. They don't praise strangers, they enjoy and appreciate their own family. They have positive togetherness stories to share, not just about how they mistreated DH when mom and dad were checked out once again, and how they found it so very amusing. It is nice to have a positive example, and I am grateful every day. Next year, we will spend precious time off with people who actually want us around - like my family and cousins, who include us each year. We are lucky to have them!

WTF? You got all that from or you're just projecting your crap here? Start your own thread.

Just an example. Would love to hear DIL's side!