Son and DIL insulting vacation we paid for

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Anonymous[b wrote:]It’s honestly sad when you realize that you won’t have another relaxing, fun vacation until your kids are older. Traveling with little kids is so exhausting. Your DIL probably doesn’t realize how much she’s complaining, but you should try not to take it personally and give them a lot of slack.[/b] And if it’s too stressful or unfun for YOU to have them as guests when they’re stressed by their little kids, just don’t invite them for a few years.

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I'm surprised that parents thought children wouldn't change their lives, including their vacations a bit. Our vacations with our (now grown) kids were so much fun, a little different than pre-kids, but I wouldn't have missed those for the world. Especially as we were both working demanding jobs, those vacations were precious bonding time.

We did have limited vacation time, so I understand that not all adult kids want to spend it with the grandparents. We never got to do that as young parents, so I'm a little envious. It does seem that the trips with extended family give the parents some extra hands when it comes to entertaining the little ones. I guess that's a trade-off, even if the accommodations are not luxurious.

I would guess that some of the grown children invited to these weeks do not have parents/grandparents who are involved and engaged - but rather, some just like bragging rights of "I took them to the beach". They leave out that there wasn't enough room for everyone, and the son and DIL got a room where they could not sleep.

If it really isn't a big deal, as so many MIL posters seem to think, why don't they switch rooms with the DIL and son?

This question has been asked multiple times on this thread and the response is...crickets. Very telling.

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MIL would never even have considered being a good hostess and switching rooms, and we all know that.

MIL, don't be so gross - act like you have parents, yourself.

Who are you talking to? OP hasn't visited this thread in days. Let it die already. Or seek help for your barely contained rage against MILs.

Whoa - talk about rage - maybe stop projecting.

It sounds like OP does not want her DIL there on vacation with her.

Much like you.

dp It's funny but the op never singled out her DIL. If you read the original post she mentions her SON/dil are complaining. Honestly, if I was op I wouldn't want a constant complainer on my vacation either. Would you?

Right?!! This whole thread has been focused on DIL but OP, herself, didn’t single her out. In my opinion it is more of the son’s issue and he is rude to complain.

Yeah, but what if there is a backstory to how OP treats that son, for example? We are only hearing a small part of the story, and then, only from OP's side.

My friend's MIL blatantly favors her daughter (who, no surprise looks and acts just like the MIL - NOT in a good way) - and takes everyone in the family but one grown child on vacation - that is pretty sh*tty. But, to hear this friend's MIL - you would think that one child is perfect (daughter), and one child is n'er do well (son)- when in fact , IRL, it is the opposite of how the MIL treats them. So, you never know the whole story. When the (truly) perfect child stands up to MIL, there is hell to pay. I am guessing, not that different than OP.

Point being, there is more than one side to the story, and OP isn't going out of her way to clarify anything - probably because she knows she is a lazy host, or a terrible mom, or somewhere in between.

Quite an assumption to make based on little information.

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I would inform them that they can leave at any time if they are unhappy with the accommodations. I would also add that it's the people you are with that make the trip not the lodging.