Friend is having affair - wants to bring "other person" on a group trip

[Anonymous]

Bump - UPDATE US OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bump - UPDATE US OP!

+ 1, you’re back now, right?!

[Anonymous]

I'm sure it's already been asked, but with such a big trip, aren't there sure to be tons of pictures, thus high likelihood of at least one group photo or the "couple" together making their way to social media? Seems so risky.

[Anonymous]

I feel like OP has abandoned us but I can't help continuing to try with a bump.

[Anonymous]

I'd be a bitch and contact the spouse of Friend A about how sad I was that they couldn't join us on the trip but you're looking forward to meeting A's new friend.

Friend A is an a-hole and putting you all in a terrible situation. Make alternative housing arrangements and disinvite Friend A all together.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read this entire thread. Is the cheating friend having a same-sex relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read this entire thread. Is the cheating friend having a same-sex relationship?

No but apparently core friend group is a big m/f mix so cheating friend and AP wouldn't immediately be known for what they are

[Anonymous]

OP here:
I hear your pleas. There's lots of juicy details, tears, and drama. It was as nutty as you imagine.

I've been slammed at work, but will write it up when I get some time in the next few days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like OP has abandoned us but I can't help continuing to try with a bump.

OP here:
You're the friend who never gives up, always a shoulder to cry upon, always a sympathetic ear?

Such a mensch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:
I hear your pleas. There's lots of juicy details, tears, and drama. It was as nutty as you imagine.

I've been slammed at work, but will write it up when I get some time in the next few days.

DP. I will be checking back solely for your update, as I have the past few days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I'm kind of a jerk, but I would take lots of pictures on of Friend A and Newbie B together and post them on social media, so the wife could see them.

But really, I wouldn't do that. I'd tell Friend A he can't bring Newbie B, and see no need to reimburse Newbie B for her sunk costs. When you deceive people and they find out, you can't complain about the out of pocket costs.

I assumed opposite genders than you . . .

OP here:
I kept it gender neutral on purpose. I want honest feedback - this is a very real situation. I don't want gender or sexual orientation to play a role in how people view this situation. It's crappy regardless of the genders involved.

Friend C has seen Friend A and Newbie B engage in PDA. Multiple times. Basically, Friend C has been complicit for months (they feel incredibly guilty) and it's about to suck in the rest of the friend group.

I knew from your post that this isn't a heteronormative couple situation. If it was all guys, no way would a random woman be added to the group, or vice versa. My best guess is that this is a girls trip and . . . girls just wanna have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like OP has abandoned us but I can't help continuing to try with a bump.

OP here:
You're the friend who never gives up, always a shoulder to cry upon, always a sympathetic ear?

Such a mensch.

Am I the bump that finally caught your eye! Such an honor! More of a gossipy b then a mensch but I'll take it! Looking forward to it OP!

[Anonymous]

Come on, OP, we love you and need you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, OP, we love you and need you!

OP is a tease.

[Anonymous]

Bump come back op