High School Boys Struggling at our Big 3

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We chose an all-boy school for high school for my sons.

Too much weird crap like that at our public MS.

It’s been fantastic and the boys are more open to expressing feelings and are very considerate and supportive of one another.

Exactly. Let’s help these rich white boys support each other in their rapey and discriminatory activities the way we have for centuries.

I find it hilarious that people all of a sudden want to protect their fragile little white boys. Minorities and to some extent white women have been told throughout history that they do not matter and are “less than” white men, through actual policies that matter in day-to-day life, not a dumb seminar class that the participants forget after a year. Now when there is a shift to the other extreme it’s all “Two rights don’t make a wrong! You’re going to drive these white boys towards Trump!” because the assumption is that white boys can’t handle someone calling them out, aggressively and unfairly, and don’t know how to respond productively other than shutting off and seething.

Interesting.

So you condemn a child you’ve never met based on their gender and race?

Where have we heard that before? Who else says that sort of thing? And about whom?

You more like the trumpians than you like to think.

We hear that from WHITE MEN, and have for centuries. And they act through political and economic systems with far greater reach and impact than a HS freshman seminar class.

I find it interesting that most of these replies are “complain to school” or “this is why we sent our son to a homogenous white boys school”. Very few posters have said they want to teach their white sons 1) why toxic masculinity is bad and their sons should avoid it, and 2) how to respond productively to potentially unfair and antagonistic criticism* being leveled at them. I think it is because they feel, in their heart of hearts, that this seminar is a temporary exercise in discomfort before they go on to embrace their destiny of masters of the world.

* That is assuming OP’s teenage son is not exaggerating

FGS. That’s called proper upbringing and I’m perfectly capable of teaching that at home.

By all means keep teaching, it’s all about the consulting $$$ anyway. To truly understand why we are inundated by ideology, some of which is laughable even if you agree with the underlying principles, follow the money.

It should be my kids’ right to opt out explicitly or implicitly. That’s what we are doing.

[Anonymous]

I love listening to certain theory proponents who’ve made a killing forcing poorly written and logically incompetent mishmash down everyone’s throats. It’s worse than the Soviet crap. But from the same indoctrination school of thought. Take it seriously at your own peril.

[Anonymous]

Temporary exercise in discomfort, I like that. Will reinforce that idea with DC. Just grin and bear it and try to forget it as fast as possible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love listening to certain theory proponents who’ve made a killing forcing poorly written and logically incompetent mishmash down everyone’s throats. It’s worse than the Soviet crap. But from the same indoctrination school of thought. Take it seriously at your own peril.

In fact, are we sure China isn’t punking us? This is some Cultural Revolution level bullshit.

[Anonymous]

No spy satellite balloon China stuff going on here…

[Anonymous]

I don’t know, I mean it’s right out of the playbook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Temporary exercise in discomfort, I like that. Will reinforce that idea with DC. Just grin and bear it and try to forget it as fast as possible

Yes because it’s a simple idea that’s dressed in a completely laughable ideological language that doesn’t make any logical sense and betrays it’s origins in mediocre schools and prior riding a consulting fee gravy train. I can teach and reinforce that simple idea at home better.

Do you even know its origin, oh ye advocates?

Here it is: Despite the term’s recent popularity among feminists, toxic masculinity did not originate with the women’s movement. It was coined in the mythopoetic men’s movement of the 1980s and ’90s, motivated in part as a reaction to second-wave feminism.

Sound like many of our Big 3 boys? Didn’t think so. Go preach to the teenage carjackers and shooters.

[Anonymous]

“New proponents of the concept, sometimes unaware of its origins, tend to agree that men and boys are affected by a social “sickness” and that the cure is cultural renewal—that is, men and boys need to change their values and attitudes.”

Ignorant demagoguery is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Dude, take some anti-rage meds Pp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love listening to certain theory proponents who’ve made a killing forcing poorly written and logically incompetent mishmash down everyone’s throats. It’s worse than the Soviet crap. But from the same indoctrination school of thought. Take it seriously at your own peril.

Physician, heal thyself.

[Anonymous]

Reading comprehension lady strikes again 😂 humorless stalker of the sfs threads
Find thyself a hobby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Avoid future headaches and switch to a different school. The school is not going to change.

+1 Hate to say it, but it might be the best path. If your DS has friends or other reasons he really wants to stay, you need to get assertive, start documenting every time conversations like this happen and specific examples from what the teacher says. Have your DS record somehow how it makes him feel. If you can get some other students to write or record how they feel about it that's also helpful. Probably start by sending an assertive (not aggressive) email to the teacher saying that you have concerns about the way issues around gender and power are being addressed in the classroom. Maybe ask if there's a time you could talk or meet to discuss those concerns. See what happens. If they're non-responsive or not sympathetic, elevate to the head of the department and cc the principal/head of school. It's a time-sensitive issue because your student (and other students) are experiencing these classes now and being impacted now. See if you can get some other parents to join you in addressing the issue. Having a "safe space" is not an excuse to place wholesale blame or to degrade entire classes of people as "protected speech." That's irresponsible and irrational. Be strong in standing up for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Invite your boys to follow Joe Rogan for inspiration. He's got great insight and breaks through the bs.

Are you the STA parent? Joe Rogan is sexist. STA could work on masculine toxicity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s what you get at GDS….. send your kid to STA where they are taught to be proud of who they are and they can be successful.

STA could use some work on not promoting masculine toxicity. I disagree with your assessment.

[Anonymous]

GDS has a very clear left leaning brand. We all knew which school OP was referring to immediately.
Why are you surprised OP?
Switch schools if you don’t like it
Personally I would never send my kids there but it’s not like they trick you into going there