Depressed, and upset ..boyfriend broke up with me and I think his mother was the reason

[Anonymous]

One of my regrets about moving to the US is the fear that one of my children would end up marrying a single parent. You didn't mention OP if your XBF's family is non-white? In no other country would people be completely okay with a single, successful man marrying a woman who already has a child by another man. It's not so bad if the genders were reversed but single moms are really looked down upon by mainstream society, especially when they are unmarried. I also would not be okay playing grandparent to a child who isn't from any of my own children. No offense but I think the American trend of blended families is too idealistic.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else notice that it's a class indicator to call people "fake"? Upper class types are bred to be polite even to those they don't think much about. This is deemed "fakeness" by those on the receiving end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else notice that it's a class indicator to call people "fake"? Upper class types are bred to be polite even to those they don't think much about. This is deemed "fakeness" by those on the receiving end.

A more sophisticated way to say it would be “insincere” which bothers everyone no matter the class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else notice that it's a class indicator to call people "fake"? Upper class types are bred to be polite even to those they don't think much about. This is deemed "fakeness" by those on the receiving end.

Haha, this comment reminded me of Crazy Rich Asians. The mom sounds like this but in OP's case, her feelings are totally valid. I wouldnt want my son to marry a single mom either. He can fall in love with a single, childless woman instead.

[Anonymous]

While his mom was nice and meeting them was not as bad as I thought, I just felt she judged me silently. His father never struck me as fake like she did. just my feeling

So it could have been his mother. But it could have been something else.

[Anonymous]

most of the time, people marry the same status/success that they are

Im sorry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my regrets about moving to the US is the fear that one of my children would end up marrying a single parent. You didn't mention OP if your XBF's family is non-white? In no other country would people be completely okay with a single, successful man marrying a woman who already has a child by another man. It's not so bad if the genders were reversed but single moms are really looked down upon by mainstream society, especially when they are unmarried. I also would not be okay playing grandparent to a child who isn't from any of my own children. No offense but I think the American trend of blended families is too idealistic.

. You are not a nice person. I bet life in the US will provide you with all that you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Op, your boyfriend decided to look for a different match.

Nothing new here

[Anonymous]

Is that the real reason he broke up with you or is it just an easy reason for you to accept? Most guys don't want to pick a fight with their mothers but they will stand up to them when something really important is on the line. If he really loved you he would stand up to her. And if he really loved you and caved in to his mother then he is weak and not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry this happened to you but I can see why. My brother dated a nice girl like you but then broke up with her and years later married a scientist. They’re both educated and more compatible. I’m glad he broke up with the other girl. Later in life looks fade and you need someone who is on your level intellectually. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

You need to date someone in your own league. You made bad choices so now you need to stay in your lane. It’s gross expecting a man to provide for you. Provide for yourself! Give back to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girl, when your boyfriend’s successful mother asks you about your plans and aspirations, you damn well better have some plans and aspirations to talk about. Hell, make something up or talk about your dream career or something, anything. I wouldn’t have wanted my son to date someone who could not answer that question either. Would you want your daughter to?

+1 ....and those aspirations better not be to marry my DS so he can take care of her and her DC! I would assume your XBF's parents spoke to him about what you aren't bringing to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to date someone in your own league. You made bad choices so now you need to stay in your lane. It’s gross expecting a man to provide for you. Provide for yourself! Give back to school.

Oh stop it with the trolling insults and assumptions, for the love.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have a son, and no way would I want him to marry a single mom with no aspirations who was looking at my DS to take care of her and her child.

You made a choice to have a child, now you need to double down and make a life for yourself. Don't count on anyone else -- but maybe get child's deadbeat dad to pony up money.

And no, I'm not a "troll" -- just telling you what you don't want to hear.

[Anonymous]

Consider yourself lucky. Keep your head up and strive forward. A mommas boy you don't need nor want. You have more to give someone who is able to appreciate who you are!