My ex is back 22 years later, claiming I was "the one" - I'm not, at all.
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Anonymous
I had the same problem. Was trying to figure out if this was a Vietnam era romance. |
Anonymous
| You really shouldn't be responding at all. |
Anonymous
| My ex contacts me every few years to tell me he's still in love with me. I've marked his number as do not pick up. Block all forms of communication with this person. If he finds another way to contact you, act like you don't know who he is. |
Anonymous
Lol, I thought the same thing. |
Anonymous
NO, NO, NO! All of this is so wrong and will just encourage him, because he thinks he can convince her. And it's sure as hell not flattering. All he will hear is she's flattered, and she wants to keep the connection. This has nothing to do with her. He's unhinged. Healthy grown-ups don't act like this. OP, I had the same thing happen to me. I was contacted by some nut job I had dated for a few months 20 years ago. It's creepy and wildly inappropriate for someone to pursue you like this. Follow the advice of other PP's and cut all contact. If you feel you must respond or he somehow catches you off-guard (my weirdo tracked down my work number and called me one day), you say something like, "I have nothing more to add to this conversation. Please do not contact me, again, as I feel uncomfortable with your persistence in trying to make contact." Resist the urge to say anything else. Do not apologize, do not overstate it, because he will pick apart your words and turn them around. |
Anonymous
| Why are you still responding? So insane. You should have blocked him after the first or second message. Block his number, block his email address, block him on Facebook. Continuing to let his messages come through makes you look bad, and I'm sure your husband is considering the same thing. |
Anonymous
Agreed, this is way too polite. If you feel you must respond at all, say only: please never contact me again. Then block/remove him from anything and never respond again. |
Anonymous
| One more thing, the whole detailed descriptions etc are really creepy. If he keeps doing it, I would file a no contact/restraining order. He sounds unhinged. |
Anonymous
Why are men so pathetic that they do things like this? They are showing total desperation. |
Anonymous
Oh calm down, her husband thinks it is funny and she seems like she is trying to keep an escalating situation from getting worse. |
Anonymous
I was thinking the same thing about woman...I guess both sexes are guilty lol |
Anonymous
If I were the husband I would only find it funny to a point. After that point, if she was still allowing herself to recieve all these descriptive messages I would be pissed. Maybe the OP likes the attention from someone famous? If she was really trying to not let it escalate she would go off her past history with the guy and just completely remove him from her life. And yet here we are on DCUM.... |
Anonymous
| Publish his rantings to tmz |
Anonymous
Okay, that is obviously you. She asked for how to word it so as not to escalate the situation. Projecting on to her life and situation isn't going to help anything. Maybe she thinks if she goes dark with him he might contact her in person, we don't know. Also does it seem like she is enjoying this attention? Really? Also there are ALOT of old baseball players out there that no one would give a second glance to let alone recognize as "famous" so again, maybe calm down. |
Anonymous
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Respond per 15:03.
After that any further unwelcome inquiries or attempts should trigger considering reports to either internet providers, postal service, etc., re harassment. Some of that stuff is -- IMO --- creepy and gives off very bad vibes and warning signs that I would not just brush off. He sounds like a head case (not in a good way). |