I was raised by two gay dads. Ask me anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:did you face bigotry at school?

rather, what kind and how much, because unless you grew up in the heart of SF, I'm guessing you did.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? I would think you'd be young, as having two gays as parents wasn't exactly the "thing" when I was growing up.

There were gays; don't get me wrong. But my two good buds, who have been together for decades and who wanted to adopt so badly years ago, said that it wasn't possible then.

[Anonymous]

How old are you and where did you grow up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you turn out gay?

Lol, no. It's not contagious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Male or female, and how did you turn out?
What do you wish had been different?

I'm female, and not to brag, but I think I turned out pretty awesomely.
I don't really wish anything had been different. Both my parents are pretty foodie-intense and as a kid, sometimes I just wanted regular Welch's grape jelly instead of quince jam or whatever, but that's pretty much my only complaint.

Did you have a nicely decorated home?

Really nicely decorated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you turn out gay?

Lol, no. It's not contagious.

Don't be defensive! There is a strong nurture component so it's a fair question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:did you face bigotry at school?

Not really. Nothing that sent me home crying or anything. More along the lines of statements that would make me think, "Oh, you poor stupid girl. You're just really ... ignorant."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you and where did you grow up?

I'm 27. Grew up in NYC. Not quite the heart of SF, but basically the same attitude towards gay people there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you turn out gay?

Lol, no. It's not contagious.

Don't be defensive! There is a strong nurture component so it's a fair question.

She chuckling as she answers. How do you take OP's response as "defensive?"

[Anonymous]

Who was your female "role model"?

[Anonymous]

Are you adopted? Do you have contact with your biological mother? DId your two gay dads try to find a 'female' influence for you, as well? You know.. for mom stuff, female stuff. You know what I mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you turn out gay?

Lol, no. It's not contagious.

Don't be defensive! There is a strong nurture component so it's a fair question.

Please cite your source for this because the only research I've read is that children raised by same-sex parents are no more likely to be gay than children raised by straight parents. And how do you explain ALL the gays and lesbians who were raised by straight parents and have straight siblings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who was your female "role model"?

I didn't have one. I wasn't presented with some woman who my parents said "This will be your faux mother, to ask all your girly questions of, and to show you how to be female." In our extended family there are many great men and women. Both my dads have close friends who are both men and women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you adopted? Do you have contact with your biological mother? DId your two gay dads try to find a 'female' influence for you, as well? You know.. for mom stuff, female stuff. You know what I mean.

Yes, I'm adopted. No, I have never had contact with my biological mother. I don't know if my dads tried to find a female influence for me specifically, but I would bet money that they didn't. They both considered themselves to be fully competent parents.

[Anonymous]

Did you ever want a female role model in your life? Or did you feel your Dads played that role well enough?

Was one the softie and the other was the rules man, or did they each play both roles?

How often did you hear, "Ask you father?" I would imagine that game could go on for a while...