in conversation with friends or strangers, my wife frequently mentions she went to Harvard

[Anonymous]

Nobody really cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Point out to your wife that the Unabomber went to Harvard.

Good one.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she is very insecure. Also it sounds like she needs to find some sort of job.

[Anonymous]

Cringe. Everyone sees through it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, troll.

Not sure why you think I am a troll. What I have described is indeed my situation. The latest chapter of this issue occurred at a recent holiday party. I would like my wife's behavior to change, but I have a feeling that talking to her about this issue would not go over well.

You are correct. You should let it go. If she embarrasses herself, so be it.

How do you like THEM apples?

[Anonymous]

Bad enough to drop the H bomb. Even worse when it’s a pay to play degree.

[Anonymous]

I have a family member on my wife's side who has a PhD. If you ever meet her, you will know she has it because she will tell you. And you get to hear it again when she tells everyone and anyone else she meets. She also wants to be referred to as, Dr. Meanwhile, she is a total failure in life with nearly no common sense and can barely manage an e-mail account. I refuse to call her, doctor. She is the biggest bore I've ever met.

[Anonymous]

If my husband did something cringey like that, I would tell him in private to tone it down because he’s making himself loook bad. Because I care about him and he sometimes doesn’t realize how he is coming across. I would want to know if I were doing something cringey that I could easily correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she is very insecure. Also it sounds like she needs to find some sort of job.

Just coming on to say this - insecure and low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

She's probably feeling insecure. Try to be gentle with her and help her build up her self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

I knew a guy who did this. He stopped after people made fun of him.

"Hey Fred, we've been talking for 15 minutes and you haven't mentioned Harvard. You feeling ok?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She mentions it because she is unemployed. She wants people to know (think) staying home is a choice, and that she is educated.

This.

It's like all the SAHMs who work, "I'm a lawyer" into the conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's probably feeling insecure. Try to be gentle with her and help her build up her self-esteem.

I think finding a job—even if it’s not “prestigious”-where she can do well would probably help her. And give her something to talk about when she’s at a party and people are chatting about work.

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Anonymous wrote:
my wife went to a mid-career Harvard masters program that has virtually no admissions standards

I found your wife in the Harvard Crimson. Yes, it is gauche behavior, but respect to you for marrying a supermodel.

https://www.thecrimson.com/flyby/article/2012/9/17/tyra-banks-harvard-girl/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
my wife went to a mid-career Harvard masters program that has virtually no admissions standards

I found your wife in the Harvard Crimson. Yes, it is gauche behavior, but respect to you for marrying a supermodel.

https://www.thecrimson.com/flyby/article/2012/9/17/tyra-banks-harvard-girl/

Op’s wife is unemployed and has been for a long time and has never had a career. Tyra may be obnoxious but you can’t say she’s been unemployed.